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As you talked, you were able to uncover one area that does indeed, need to be brought to the [[light]] and [[healed]]. You think of yourself as being less able to [[compete]] on an [[intellectual]] level with your [[brothers and sisters]] that have had the [[opportunity]] of gaining a formal [[education]] and have received their piece of paper indicating that they have indeed put in the hours. Recognize JoiLin, that those hours we refer to are under the heading of formal education, and that piece of paper, a formal piece of paper, indicative of those hours spent working toward the degree. [[Life|Living]] itself, is an [[education]] child, as well, you have always been an avid [[reader]] with a wide range of interests. Give yourself some credit for the [[knowledge]] you have [[attained]] on your own. And give yourself some credit here as well; you do not [[feel]] insecure with all of your [[siblings]] who have that formal piece of paper, it is only some few. If we look a bit deeper, you may be able to [[recognize]] that it really has naught to do with that piece of paper; it has more to do with [[personality]] [[conflicts]]. You will remember in our [[conversation]] yesterday when I spoke of difficulties a [[person]] [[experiences]] in one area that are [[echoed]] in or are manifested in another area? I believe this is true for you in this case. Look at the people you know that have their degrees, but with whom you are quite comfortable. If this were truly a [[problem]] of your [[feeling]] inadequate when in the [[presence]] of someone with a [[degree]], this pattern would hold true within all of your [[relationships]]. And so, we think the difficulty lies more in the direction of the [[individual]], and [[conflicts]] between you and your sibling that need to be worked on. Can you think of any other pattern or incident wherein as a child you were made to feel small or insignificant?

As you talked, you were able to uncover one area that does indeed, need to be brought to the [[light]] and [[healed]]. You think of yourself as being less able to [[compete]] on an [[intellectual]] level with your [[brothers and sisters]] that have had the [[opportunity]] of gaining a formal [[education]] and have received their piece of paper indicating that they have indeed put in the hours. Recognize JoiLin, that those hours we refer to are under the heading of formal education, and that piece of paper, a formal piece of paper, indicative of those hours spent working toward the degree. [[Life|Living]] itself, is an [[education]] child, as well, you have always been an avid [[reader]] with a wide range of interests. Give yourself some credit for the [[knowledge]] you have [[attained]] on your own. And give yourself some credit here as well; you do not [[feel]] insecure with all of your [[siblings]] who have that formal piece of paper, it is only some few. If we look a bit deeper, you may be able to [[recognize]] that it really has naught to do with that piece of paper; it has more to do with [[personality]] [[conflicts]]. You will remember in our [[conversation]] yesterday when I spoke of difficulties a [[person]] [[experiences]] in one area that are [[echoed]] in or are manifested in another area? I believe this is true for you in this case. Look at the people you know that have their degrees, but with whom you are quite comfortable. If this were truly a [[problem]] of your [[feeling]] inadequate when in the [[presence]] of someone with a [[degree]], this pattern would hold true within all of your [[relationships]]. And so, we think the difficulty lies more in the direction of the [[individual]], and [[conflicts]] between you and your sibling that need to be worked on. Can you think of any other pattern or incident wherein as a child you were made to feel small or insignificant?

===Dialogue===

===Dialogue===

===='''''[[Defense]]'''''====

===='''''[[Defenses]]'''''====

JoiLin: Yes, I think they mostly had to do with the way I felt about how I looked. My [[friends]] all had pretty [[clothes]], they all began the school year with a whole new wardrobe, and my clothes were mostly hand-me-downs or from a consignment store. I remember one year when my dresses were all too short, and they called me Alice in wonderland; I knew it was not meant as a compliment. In addition to new clothes, they all wore make-up and I didn’t have any…. my mother wouldn’t even let me wear it if I had any.

JoiLin: Yes, I think they mostly had to do with the way I felt about how I looked. My [[friends]] all had pretty [[clothes]], they all began the school year with a whole new wardrobe, and my clothes were mostly hand-me-downs or from a consignment store. I remember one year when my dresses were all too short, and they called me Alice in wonderland; I knew it was not meant as a compliment. In addition to new clothes, they all wore make-up and I didn’t have any…. my mother wouldn’t even let me wear it if I had any.

Ambrose: And how did it make you [[feel]]? Not having these [[things]]?

Ambrose: And how did it make you [[feel]]? Not having these [[things]]?

JoiLin: Insignificant, I guess. [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Little_Match_Girl Poor Little Match Girl syndrome], I suppose. Maybe I felt sorry for myself as well. I knew I wasn’t as pretty as they were, but I also knew it had mostly to do with all of the [[feminine]] trappings they had, it had more to do with the [[clothes]] they wore, the make-up they applied, and they way they had their hair cut and styled.

JoiLin: Insignificant, I guess. [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Little_Match_Girl Poor Little Match Girl syndrome], I suppose. Maybe I felt sorry for myself as well. I knew I wasn’t as pretty as they were, but I also knew it had mostly to do with all of the [[feminine]] trappings they had, it had more to do with the [[clothes]] they wore, the make-up they applied, and they way they had their hair cut and styled.

Ambrose: And how did you handle this?

Ambrose: And how did you handle this?

This has been due to your hard work JoiLin. This is due to your [[committed]] walk with [[the Father]]. Give yourself credit, each and every time you come to recognize the [[successes]], the [[positive]] changes you have made, and child there have been many. Look for them. [[Recognize]] them, and benefit from that recognition, by seeing the light you are [[becoming]].

This has been due to your hard work JoiLin. This is due to your [[committed]] walk with [[the Father]]. Give yourself credit, each and every time you come to recognize the [[successes]], the [[positive]] changes you have made, and child there have been many. Look for them. [[Recognize]] them, and benefit from that recognition, by seeing the light you are [[becoming]].

===Closing===

===Closing===

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===='''''[[Transmitting]]'''''====

The greatest gift given to [[humankind]] by [[the Father]] in addition to the gift of Himself was the gift of [[free will]] choice. It is this gift that makes all of your life such an incredible [[adventure]]! Were it not for your [[ability]] to choose, life would indeed, become dull with very little [[joy]] or [[discovery]]; it would no longer be such an [[adventure]].

The greatest gift given to [[humankind]] by [[the Father]] in addition to the gift of Himself was the gift of [[free will]] choice. It is this gift that makes all of your life such an incredible [[adventure]]! Were it not for your [[ability]] to choose, life would indeed, become dull with very little [[joy]] or [[discovery]]; it would no longer be such an [[adventure]].

Learn to [[accept]] that each of you walk your own [[individual]] [[paths]]…all heading in the same approximate [[direction]]…all being reacted upon by different currents, different [[winds]] of [[growth]].

Learn to [[accept]] that each of you walk your own [[individual]] [[paths]]…all heading in the same approximate [[direction]]…all being reacted upon by different currents, different [[winds]] of [[growth]] yet all [[leading]] to the same [[eventual]] [[goal]]; learning to let go of the self imposed [[expectations]] we have, either for ourselves or for others, is one of the toughest lessons to learn, yet the sooner it is learned, the sooner greater leaps of [[growth]] will be possible.

Yet all [[leading]] to the same [[eventual]] [[goal]]. Learning to let go of the self imposed [[expectations]] we have, either for ourselves or for others, is one of the toughest lessons to learn, yet the sooner it is learned, the sooner greater leaps of [[growth]] will be possible.

You are [[feeling]] as it this is all just [[rhetoric]], with no [[design]]. Turn up the [[contrast]] on the screen child and see that it does indeed have a recognizable [[flow]] from one [[thought]] into the next. There, you see? Letting go and simply letting be what will, is the easiest way I know to let this [[communication]] evolve. If for instance, you had felt [[secure]] enough last evening to take a deep [[breath]], and pretend that it was just us, at [[home]] here, where you feel safe, you might have been able to get over this last impediment to your development as a receiver. This is not [[criticism]] child, as you well know, I would simply help you to see that the end is in [[sight]]. You have but to, as you say on this world, bite the bullet!

===Closing===

===Closing===

If you have the time later in the day, try to sit for a few moments at the recorder and let us work together again; this moving between the computer and the recorder will help to [[strengthen]] our [[connection]]. Go child into your day knowing that you are indeed in His watch [[care]], and have many that would [[assist]] you as you reach further into His [[light]]. [[Shalom]].

If you have the time later in the day, try to sit for a few moments at the recorder and let us work together again; this moving between the computer and the recorder will help to [[strengthen]] our [[connection]]. Go child into your day knowing that you are indeed in His watch [[care]], and have many that would [[assist]] you as you reach further into His [[light]]. [[Shalom]].

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