Changes

Tonight I will turn your lesson over to your teacher, Welmek , who is once again with you this evening, but, I did want to offer my [[words]] of greeting and exhortation to continue your [[efforts]], continue your good [[work]].  In the days to come, you may sense a quickening, a steady [[pace]] of [[growth]].  This is very good.  It means several things.  It means that you are [[becoming]] more [[sensitive]] to the spiritual current that is strengthening within you.  It means that the spiritual [[circuitry]] that [[surrounds]] you is being more activated and you are able to tap increasingly more refined levels of spiritual [[insight]] and [[guidance]].

Tonight I will turn your lesson over to your teacher, Welmek , who is once again with you this evening, but, I did want to offer my [[words]] of greeting and exhortation to continue your [[efforts]], continue your good [[work]].  In the days to come, you may sense a quickening, a steady [[pace]] of [[growth]].  This is very good.  It means several things.  It means that you are [[becoming]] more [[sensitive]] to the spiritual current that is strengthening within you.  It means that the spiritual [[circuitry]] that [[surrounds]] you is being more activated and you are able to tap increasingly more refined levels of spiritual [[insight]] and [[guidance]].

This is a time of great [[joy]].  Not only because it is your holiday season, but because it is the start of a [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Millenium new millennium]; a new millennium of advancement, a new time of [[cultural]], [[spiritual]], [[moral]] [[development]] on [[Urantia]].  And while we joyfully watch as these [[events]] [[unfold]], we must sit back and watch as you, our beloved brother and sister [[students]], begin to do the work for which you have been [[trained]] and for which you wish to [[participate]].  So as you begin your holiday, [[reflect]] for a moment on [[Part 4|the life of the Master]], on [[the bestowal]] of Christ Michael on Urantia and what his ministry means to [[this planet]] and to each one of you.  Draw his life into your [[hearts]], let his hands and heart become the [[fire]] to fuel your [[passion]].  Good evening.   

This is a time of great [[joy]].  Not only because it is your holiday season, but because it is the start of a [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Millenium new millennium]; a new millennium of advancement, a new time of [[cultural]], [[spiritual]], [[moral]] [[development]] on [[Urantia]].  And while we joyfully watch as these [[events]] [[unfold]], we must sit back and watch as you, our beloved brother and sister [[students]], begin to do the work for which you have been [[trained]] and for which you wish to [[participate]].  So as you begin your holiday, [[reflect]] for a moment on [[Part 4|the life of the Master]], on [[the bestowal]] of Christ Michael on Urantia and what his ministry means to [[this planet]] and to each one of you.  Draw his life into your [[hearts]], let his hands and heart become the [[fire]] to fuel your [[passion]].  Good evening.   

===Lessson===

===Lessson===

===='''''[[Transformation]]'''''====

===='''''[[Transformation]]'''''====

Welmek:  Are you [[clear]] in your [[intention]] of how you want to relate to these individuals?   

Welmek:  Are you [[clear]] in your [[intention]] of how you want to relate to these individuals?   

===='''''[[Friendship]]'''''====

===='''''[[Friendship]]'''''====

Student:  Not entirely.  I don’t know how to relate, I want to help them instead of getting into a [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency co-dependent relationship].  The relationships are [[growing]], but I’m torn.  I want to know how to be a true friend.

Student:  Not entirely.  I don’t know how to relate, I want to help them instead of getting into a [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency co-dependent relationship].  The relationships are [[growing]], but I’m torn.  I want to know how to be a true friend.

Welmek:  What is a true [[friend]]?  This is a very good question that you have raised this evening; what is a true friend?  I heard many [[desires]] in your answers, many mixed [[intentions]] and so it does not appear that you are quite [[clear]] in your [[understanding]] of what a true friend really is for there were mixed [[motives]].  I am not [[chastising]] you, but I would like you to see some of the elements of what you asked in your question.  When you [[desire]] to be of [[service]] to someone, where do your own needs sit?  Think about this.  A true friend is someone who [[desires]] to be of [[assistance]] to the individual at their level of need.  It is not [[self]]-serving, it is not self-seeking.  It is only the desire to help that [[individual]] at whatever level  or need they have.  Sometimes it will be a very tangible [[physical]] need of offering a [[Food|meal]] or [[shelter]].  Sometimes it will be a friendly ear to [[listen]], and sometimes it will reach the true [[spiritual]] level where there is [[communion]] between spirit to spirit and you have that deep soulful exchange that allows the love to [[flow]] through.  

Welmek:  What is a true [[friend]]?  This is a very good question that you have raised this evening; what is a true friend?  I heard many [[desires]] in your answers, many mixed [[intentions]] and so it does not appear that you are quite [[clear]] in your [[understanding]] of what a true friend really is for there were mixed [[motives]].  I am not [[chastising]] you, but I would like you to see some of the elements of what you asked in your question.  When you [[desire]] to be of [[service]] to someone, where do your own needs sit?  Think about this.  A true friend is someone who [[desires]] to be of [[assistance]] to the individual at their level of need.  It is not [[self]]-serving, it is not self-seeking.  It is only the desire to help that [[individual]] at whatever level  or need they have.  Sometimes it will be a very tangible [[physical]] need of offering a [[Food|meal]] or [[shelter]].  Sometimes it will be a friendly ear to [[listen]], and sometimes it will reach the true [[spiritual]] level where there is [[communion]] between spirit to spirit and you have that deep soulful exchange that allows the love to [[flow]] through.  

But no matter what level the exchange is if it is your [[sincere]] [[desire]] to help the person [[divorced]] from your [[feeling]] of what it is you would like to see happen or what is it of your own [[self]] that you need [[gratified]], then you are offering your [[love]] and it will be felt at some level in this [[individual]].  To be a true friend, to be truly friendly, is to put what you think that person needs aside or what you think you would like to offer them and truly [[connect]] to what it is they need.  Think about the times in your [[life]] when you felt that deep [[connection]] with someone.  What was the exchange like?  What was your encounter all about?  You connected at a level did you not?  You felt a certain [[kinship]].  And so this kinship is fostered by your [[desire]] to help this person feel that they are important, they are [[worthy]] and loved.  You do this by responding to them at they level need you to respond.

But no matter what level the exchange is if it is your [[sincere]] [[desire]] to help the person [[divorced]] from your [[feeling]] of what it is you would like to see happen or what is it of your own [[self]] that you need [[gratified]], then you are offering your [[love]] and it will be felt at some level in this [[individual]].  To be a true friend, to be truly friendly, is to put what you think that person needs aside or what you think you would like to offer them and truly [[connect]] to what it is they need.  Think about the times in your [[life]] when you felt that deep [[connection]] with someone.  What was the exchange like?  What was your encounter all about?  You connected at a level did you not?  You felt a certain [[kinship]].  And so this kinship is fostered by your [[desire]] to help this person feel that they are important, they are [[worthy]] and loved.  You do this by responding to them at they level need you to respond.

You do not need to [[worry]] that your [[behavior]] will [[become]], as you say, [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency co-dependent] or if you will be taken [[advantage]] of.  That is not your concern.  For if it is your concern, then you are at some level worrying about what you are offering this person is going to cost you.  True [[friendship]] is freely given.  It is a loving open exchange.  So to be of [[service]] to any of your brothers and sisters, is to begin to see them as this very young child who is full of [[love]] and [[light]] , but yet it very small and very needy.  Before you enter into this exchange of [[desiring]] to help, take a few moments of [[reflection]] and ask [[your spirit]] to help you see the [[essence]] of the child of God within this person. Ask, how it is that I may truly help this individual?  What is it that this person needs from me most that I can provide in this moment that will benefit this person?  You are taking the emphasis of what you think you should provide as opposed to what this person truly needs.  Does this help, my friend?

You do not need to [[worry]] that your [[behavior]] will [[become]], as you say, [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency co-dependent] or if you will be taken [[advantage]] of.  That is not your concern.  For if it is your concern, then you are at some level worrying about what you are offering this person is going to cost you.  True [[friendship]] is freely given.  It is a loving open exchange.  So to be of [[service]] to any of your brothers and sisters, is to begin to see them as this very young child who is full of [[love]] and [[light]] , but yet it very small and very needy.  Before you enter into this exchange of [[desiring]] to help, take a few moments of [[reflection]] and ask [[your spirit]] to help you see the [[essence]] of the child of God within this person. Ask, how it is that I may truly help this individual?  What is it that this person needs from me most that I can provide in this moment that will benefit this person?  You are taking the emphasis of what you think you should provide as opposed to what this person truly needs.  Does this help, my friend?

Student:  Yes, I see I have to feel my way along.  Sometimes what these people tell me they need is unhealthy and so I have to make that [[choice]] what is really healthy.  I see that something needs to be done in the [[moment]] with some [[reflection]] and [[wisdom]].

Student:  Yes, I see I have to feel my way along.  Sometimes what these people tell me they need is unhealthy and so I have to make that [[choice]] what is really healthy.  I see that something needs to be done in the [[moment]] with some [[reflection]] and [[wisdom]].