Changes

Greetings, children and [[friends]], I am Ham and I welcome you all tonight. You are all welcome to my [[heart]] always and forever.

Greetings, children and [[friends]], I am Ham and I welcome you all tonight. You are all welcome to my [[heart]] always and forever.

===Lesson===

===Lesson===

===='''''[[Deception]]''''', '''''[[Perfection]]'''''====

===='''''[[Anxiety]]''''', '''''[[Perfection]]'''''====

Tonight, I wish to address [[anxiety]] and your coping [[mechanisms]] with it. Many feel anxious concerning the [[perception]] that others have of them, especially specific people, often [[family]] members.

Tonight, I wish to address [[anxiety]] and your coping [[mechanisms]] with it. Many feel anxious concerning the [[perception]] that others have of them, especially specific people, often [[family]] members.

You want [[perfection]] in all your dealings from the waitress that brings your breakfast to the mechanic who fixes your car to your [[political]] [[leadership]], you want them all to be [[experts]]. You don't want them to display any hint of not knowing or inefficiency. And this [[intolerance]] stems from having to hold up this [[facade]] yourselves all the time.

You want [[perfection]] in all your dealings from the waitress that brings your breakfast to the mechanic who fixes your car to your [[political]] [[leadership]], you want them all to be [[experts]]. You don't want them to display any hint of not knowing or inefficiency. And this [[intolerance]] stems from having to hold up this [[facade]] yourselves all the time.

This societal intolerance and shading of the [[truth]] is a recipe for [[ultimate]] [[disaster]]. Individually, it leads to [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heart_Attack heart attacks], strokes, [[depression]], mental illness, and so on. As [[nations]], it leads to intolerance of [[weakness]] of the unfortunate and between nations it leads to [[Violence|armed conflicts]] as everyone wants to see their side as white and the other side as black. You all want to be [[assured]] of your rightness, your [[innocence]], that you were certainly right to lose your temper over the dry cleaner losing a shirt or something.

This societal intolerance and shading of the [[truth]] is a recipe for [[ultimate]] [[disaster]]. Individually, it leads to [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heart_Attack heart attacks], strokes, [[depression]], mental illness, and so on. As [[nations]], it leads to intolerance of [[weakness]] of the unfortunate and between nations it leads to [[Violence|armed conflicts]] as everyone wants to see their side as white and the other side as black. You all want to be [[assured]] of your rightness, your [[innocence]], that you were certainly right to lose your temper over the dry cleaner losing a shirt or something.

This [[society]] is taking a cardboard [[perfectionism]] to [[extremes]]. In part, it is said to be due to the congestion of people, [[the masses]] of people living in close proximity, that little things tend to cause greater perturbations. But, I contend that it is the strain of keeping up [[appearances]], the strain of maintaining this cardboard [[perfection]] in yourselves, that causes you to jump on others for their slips because you are [[afraid]] of your slipping. When we speak of [[tolerance]] as a [[fruit of the spirit]], we are speaking of it extending to your whole, entire [[life]]. We are speaking of you tolerating yourself to the point that you can tolerate others and tolerate others seeing your imperfections and it is this that decreases [[anxiety]]. If you can allow others to see your [[faults]], to see your [[fears]], then you can easily, very easily, tolerate seeing fears in others and imperfections in others.

This [[society]] is taking a cardboard [[perfectionism]] to [[extremes]]. In part, it is said to be due to the congestion of people, [[the masses]] of people living in close proximity, that little things tend to cause greater perturbations. But, I contend that it is the strain of keeping up [[appearances]], the strain of maintaining this cardboard [[perfection]] in yourselves, that causes you to jump on others for their slips because you are [[afraid]] of your slipping. When we speak of [[tolerance]] as a [[fruit of the spirit]], we are speaking of it extending to your whole, entire [[life]]. We are speaking of you tolerating yourself to the point that you can tolerate others and tolerate others seeing your imperfections and it is this that decreases [[anxiety]]. If you can allow others to see your [[faults]], to see your [[fears]], then you can easily, very easily, tolerate seeing fears in others and imperfections in others.

You are all in places in your [[careers]] where this is very [[difficult]], but it is not impossible. It is the equivalent of letting down a piece of cardboard, you will still be standing, you won't disappear. Is this making sense to you?

You are all in places in your [[careers]] where this is very [[difficult]], but it is not impossible. It is the equivalent of letting down a piece of cardboard, you will still be standing, you won't disappear. Is this making sense to you?

===Dialogue===

===Dialogue===

Q: Yes.

Q: Yes.

Ham: That is where it starts, but it's not always [[unconscious]] or repressed [[memories]] that trigger these things.

Ham: That is where it starts, but it's not always [[unconscious]] or repressed [[memories]] that trigger these things.

Q: Did you have any [[insights]] into when two intolerant [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Perfectionism_%28psychology%29 perfectionists] butt heads.  

Q: Did you have any [[insights]] into when two intolerant [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Perfectionism_%28psychology%29 perfectionists] butt heads.  

Ham: [[Humor]], humor will save many situations. Because, humor can make you see the [[absurdity]] of the situation.

Ham: [[Humor]], humor will save many situations. Because, humor can make you see the [[absurdity]] of the situation.

[[Category: Ham]]

[[Category: Ham]]

[[Category: Rebecca]]

[[Category: Rebecca]]

[[Category: Deception]]

[[Category: Anxiety]]

[[Category: Perfection]]

[[Category: Perfection]]

[[Category: Ego]]

[[Category: Ego]]

[[Category: Acceptance]]

[[Category: Acceptance]]

[[Category: 1996]]

[[Category: 1996]]