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MONJORONSON:  Your question and this situation go hand-in-hand with your previous questions and my answers.  It is important that when children are brought into [[existence]] by [[parents]], that those parents have the time to rear them, and to be present with them, not on a sporadic basis, but continually so the child is raised in the [[home]] where there is the [[parent]] continuously, and that when the child goes to school, when they come home, there is the parent who is there to greet them and receive them, sit down and [[discuss]] the day and help them [[interpret]] their [[experiences]].  Very few families do that today, and those that do are exceptional, and of course raise exceptional children, who become exceptional adults.  It is important that the [[parent]] who receives the child from school be of such age themselves, as to be capable of aiding their child to [[reflect]] upon their [[experiences]] and then give them [[mature]], [[wise]], [[interpretations]] of those [[events]], in the event the child does not do so well on their own, in their reporting.  

MONJORONSON:  Your question and this situation go hand-in-hand with your previous questions and my answers.  It is important that when children are brought into [[existence]] by [[parents]], that those parents have the time to rear them, and to be present with them, not on a sporadic basis, but continually so the child is raised in the [[home]] where there is the [[parent]] continuously, and that when the child goes to school, when they come home, there is the parent who is there to greet them and receive them, sit down and [[discuss]] the day and help them [[interpret]] their [[experiences]].  Very few families do that today, and those that do are exceptional, and of course raise exceptional children, who become exceptional adults.  It is important that the [[parent]] who receives the child from school be of such age themselves, as to be capable of aiding their child to [[reflect]] upon their [[experiences]] and then give them [[mature]], [[wise]], [[interpretations]] of those [[events]], in the event the child does not do so well on their own, in their reporting.  

===='''''[[Materialism]]'''''====

===='''''[[Materialism]]'''''====

Your [[cultural]] situation in [http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_States this nation] is truly not much [[different]] than it has been through the millennia where adolescents tend to get into [[mischief]], as they [[experiment]] with the [[challenges]] of growing adulthood, whether that is bringing a “skunk” into the tribe’s area, or whether they are in the [[Internet]], bringing pornography into their computer.  [[Vigilance]] is a [[necessary]] [[duty]] of parents at all times, in all these [[environments]].  There are many more outside [[influences]], however, which are detrimental to the [[evolving]] [[psyche]] of the child, so the parent must set boundaries and be available to enforce those boundaries for the child’s [[good]], until the child can engrain those boundaries into their own [[thinking]] and adhere to them through their own [[wise]] [[Decision|choice-making]].  

Your [[cultural]] situation in [http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_States this nation] is truly not much [[different]] than it has been through the millennia where adolescents tend to get into [[mischief]], as they [[experiment]] with the [[challenges]] of growing adulthood, whether that is bringing a “skunk” into the tribe’s area, or whether they are in the [[Internet]], bringing pornography into their computer.  [[Attention|Vigilance]] is a [[necessary]] [[duty]] of parents at all times, in all these [[environments]].  There are many more outside [[influences]], however, which are detrimental to the [[evolving]] [[psyche]] of the child, so the parent must set boundaries and be available to enforce those boundaries for the child’s [[good]], until the child can engrain those boundaries into their own [[thinking]] and adhere to them through their own [[wise]] [[Decision|choice-making]].  

   

   

Yes, your [[culture]] does have many [[powerful]] [[influences]], they are extremely powerful, and many of them are extremely [[violent]].  This nation is most violent and it is abhorrent to the [[development]] of your [[culture]].  It will be seen as a stain upon this culture for centuries to come—something to be overcome.  Thus [[Parenting|childrearing]] is most important and that parents of good [[mature]] [[consciousness]], with a [[commitment]] and [[intention]] to raise the child conscientiously, are present and able to do so.  

Yes, your [[culture]] does have many [[powerful]] [[influences]], they are extremely powerful, and many of them are extremely [[violent]].  This nation is most violent and it is abhorrent to the [[development]] of your [[culture]].  It will be seen as a stain upon this culture for centuries to come—something to be overcome.  Thus [[Parenting|childrearing]] is most important and that parents of good [[mature]] [[consciousness]], with a [[commitment]] and [[intention]] to raise the child conscientiously, are present and able to do so.  

Parental Commitment and conscious intention in childrearing

Parental Commitment and conscious intention in childrearing

   

   

MONJORONSON:  Not so much.  Again, this [[culture]] is awfully [[busy]]; it is the [[busyness]] it has given itself [that] is far too high and occupies too much [[time]].  The time that parents took in the evenings to read bedtime stories, [[parables]] and [[morals]] to [[children]] while they were in preschool years is commendable, and there is no reason why this same [[commitment]] to time and tucking the children in bed with stories and [[wisdoms]] and later on [[meditations]] and [[prayers]], could not and should not continue.  It is the [[choice]] of the [[parent]] to be distracted by other [[things]], rather than their children.  It is unfortunate that in this [[culture]], children who go to school come [[home]] and have dinner and then every [[individual]] in the household goes their own way.  This is not how a [[family]] is built; this is not how [[communities]] are built and maintained, so that they are morally and socially sustainable.  Again, it is the parent’s [[responsibility]] to take the time to be with their [[children]] and to engage them.  It is much like teaching young [[children]] and [[adolescents]] [[martial arts]]—it requires [[time]], [[patience]], [[diligence]], instruction and time to [[practice]] those [[skills]].  It is admirable to see children [[learning]] [http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tae_Kwon_Do tae kwon do] and [http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karate karate], and the martial arts lend themselves to [[discipline]] of the [[mind]] and [[prayer]] and [[relationship]] to the [[divine]] as well.  We see no loss of [[continuum]] in this [[learning]] [[process]].  It is a matter of your culture being too busy and too distracted by [[individual]] needs, to spend [[time]] with their [[children]].  Parents are far too invested in their [[careers]], and the obligations of their duties to their employment.  Many other [[cultures]]—even western cultures—do not invest this kind of unreal amounts of time to their careers after hours, when they are with their [[families]].  

MONJORONSON:  Not so much.  Again, this [[culture]] is awfully [[busy]]; it is the [[busyness]] it has given itself [that] is far too high and occupies too much [[time]].  The time that parents took in the evenings to read bedtime stories, [[parables]] and [[morals]] to [[children]] while they were in preschool years is commendable, and there is no reason why this same [[commitment]] to time and tucking the children in bed with stories and [[wisdoms]] and later on [[meditations]] and [[prayers]], could not and should not continue.  It is the [[choice]] of the [[parent]] to be distracted by other [[things]], rather than their children.  It is unfortunate that in this [[culture]], children who go to school come [[home]] and have dinner and then every [[individual]] in the household goes their own way.  This is not how a [[family]] is built; this is not how [[communities]] are built and maintained, so that they are morally and socially sustainable.  Again, it is the parent’s [[responsibility]] to take the time to be with their [[children]] and to engage them.  It is much like teaching young [[children]] and [http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adolescence adolescents] [[http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Martial Arts martial arts]—it requires [[time]], [[patience]], [[diligence]], instruction and time to [[practice]] those [[skills]].  It is admirable to see children [[learning]] [http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tae_Kwon_Do tae kwon do] and [http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karate karate], and the martial arts lend themselves to [[discipline]] of the [[mind]] and [[prayer]] and [[relationship]] to the [[divine]] as well.  We see no loss of [[continuum]] in this [[learning]] [[process]].  It is a matter of your culture being too busy and too distracted by [[individual]] needs, to spend [[time]] with their [[children]].  Parents are far too invested in their [[careers]], and the obligations of their duties to their employment.  Many other [[cultures]]—even western cultures—do not invest this kind of unreal amounts of time to their careers after hours, when they are with their [[families]].  

   

   

It begins with the [[conscious]] [[conception]].  It begins with the conscious [[intention]] of how to raise that child and that [[consciousness]].  That intention, that [[commitment]] does not end even after the child has left [[home]], but then is given to the grandchildren who come [[home]] to visit.  If you are going to be [[parents]], then commit yourself and obligate yourselves to those [[duties]].  If you are going to be begrudging or resentful of the time [[necessary]] to raise children, then it is better that you ought not to have children.  You can become a very deeply [[spiritually]] centered [[individual]] without having children, and it is your [[responsibility]] to raise those children that way, if you do choose to have them.  

It begins with the [[conscious]] [[conception]].  It begins with the conscious [[intention]] of how to raise that child and that [[consciousness]].  That intention, that [[commitment]] does not end even after the child has left [[home]], but then is given to the grandchildren who come [[home]] to visit.  If you are going to be [[parents]], then commit yourself and obligate yourselves to those [[duties]].  If you are going to be begrudging or resentful of the time [[necessary]] to raise children, then it is better that you ought not to have children.  You can become a very deeply [[spiritually]] centered [[individual]] without having children, and it is your [[responsibility]] to raise those children that way, if you do choose to have them.

 

===='''''[[Ritual]]'''''====

===='''''[[Ritual]]'''''====

Vicki:  Thank you.  I have found that children learn from, and find comfort in [[ritual]].  You did [[touch]] upon a couple, but are there some other rituals you would suggest that we engage children in?

Vicki:  Thank you.  I have found that children learn from, and find comfort in [[ritual]].  You did [[touch]] upon a couple, but are there some other rituals you would suggest that we engage children in?