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Darid: You have [[expressed]] my intent, for [[discernment]] is good, but when in a down emotional state it can easily [[become]] [[judgement]] in the negative sense, even to the point of thrashing yourself. It is the inverse of ordering [[values]] according to high [[purposes]]. It tends to order your [[worth]] based on your most negative features and listing them to the more minor negative features. So, to [[examine]] yourself, do so when you are in a better state of [[mind]]. This does not mean to avoid the tough issues, only that your mental atmosphere ought to be [[clear]].

Darid: You have [[expressed]] my intent, for [[discernment]] is good, but when in a down emotional state it can easily [[become]] [[judgement]] in the negative sense, even to the point of thrashing yourself. It is the inverse of ordering [[values]] according to high [[purposes]]. It tends to order your [[worth]] based on your most negative features and listing them to the more minor negative features. So, to [[examine]] yourself, do so when you are in a better state of [[mind]]. This does not mean to avoid the tough issues, only that your mental atmosphere ought to be [[clear]].

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Mary: I [[discern]] that one of the things that contributes to being up or down is [[physiology]]. Do you have any advice on how to have more [[control]] over the ups and downs? With vast [[efforts]] of [[mind]] over [[matter]] I can make myself not be so snippy, but I feel what causes me to [[feel]] that way may be that I need more water or carbohydrates or to stay off the [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Caffeine caffeine].

Mary: I [[discern]] that one of the things that contributes to being up or down is [[physiology]]. Do you have any advice on how to have more [[control]] over the ups and downs? With vast [[efforts]] of [[mind]] over [[matter]] I can make myself not be so snippy, but I feel what causes me to [[feel]] that way may be that I need more water or carbohydrates or to stay off the [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Caffeine caffeine].

Darid: You have [[expressed]] an awareness of nourishment, physical aids like appropriate [[sleep]]. These do affect [[mood]]. However, even these are overridden by [[social]] environment, for one can go [[hungry]] and still be [[joyful]] when in good company. The greater [[factor]] for helping break the funk is to cultivate the [[ability]] to step aside oneself, to even make fun of the situation. There is a compounding factor in both a good and a bad [[mood]] such that, even though perhaps you have been without sufficient [[sleep]], the downward turn can deepen in spite of a nap, for the [[mind]] itself begins to spin many ramifications and comparisons based on the mental state triggered by the [[physiological]] cause. Does this help?

Darid: You have [[expressed]] an awareness of nourishment, physical aids like appropriate [[sleep]]. These do affect [[mood]]. However, even these are overridden by [[social]] environment, for one can go [[hungry]] and still be [[joyful]] when in good company. The greater [[factor]] for helping break the funk is to cultivate the [[ability]] to step aside oneself, to even make fun of the situation. There is a compounding factor in both a good and a bad [[mood]] such that, even though perhaps you have been without sufficient [[sleep]], the downward turn can deepen in spite of a nap, for the [[mind]] itself begins to spin many ramifications and comparisons based on the mental state triggered by the [[physiological]] cause. Does this help?

Mary: Finding myself in a bad [[mood]] today, I was [[thinking]] this is an [[opportunity]] to exercise [[mind control]] and get through it. There's that crossing over from the [[idea]] to the [[action]], following through on your stroke.

Mary: Finding myself in a bad [[mood]] today, I was [[thinking]] this is an [[opportunity]] to exercise [[mind control]] and get through it. There's that crossing over from the [[idea]] to the [[action]], following through on your stroke.

Evanson: We who are [[blessed]] with the current [[position]] of [[morontia]] being have wonderful aids who come to our [[service]] when we struggle who are able to, in a sense, [[play]] the [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jester jester] and allow us to break the fix upon us, to take a fresh look. Since we [[trust]] these [[beings]] we seek them out at these times, for often a serious lesson, though full of remedy, does not swallow well like a good poke lightheartedly. On your world lack of [[familial]] and [[community]] teaching has led to the development of such [[behavior]] as belittlement. Lighthearted corrective [[advice]] is hard to receive when your [[culture]] often uses such techniques to further [[injure]]. You who are here [[becoming]] closer as brothers and sisters can learn to develop ways to provide [[feedback]] without necessitating a stern [[rebuke]], but give it in a loving and lighthearted way. Is this understandable?

Evanson: We who are [[blessed]] with the current [[position]] of [[morontia]] being have wonderful aids who come to our [[service]] when we struggle who are able to, in a sense, [[play]] the [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jester jester] and allow us to break the fix upon us, to take a fresh look. Since we [[trust]] these [[beings]] we seek them out at these times, for often a serious lesson, though full of remedy, does not swallow well like a good poke lightheartedly. On your world lack of [[familial]] and [[community]] teaching has led to the development of such [[behavior]] as belittlement. Lighthearted corrective [[advice]] is hard to receive when your [[culture]] often uses such techniques to further [[injure]]. You who are here [[becoming]] closer as brothers and sisters can learn to develop ways to provide [[feedback]] without necessitating a stern [[rebuke]], but give it in a loving and lighthearted way. Is this understandable?

Evelyn: Very much to me. Many times I have wished that, if I am doing something amiss, another person would [[consider]] me friend enough to point it out, sure, preferably in a lighthearted [[manner]]. So often we [[witness]] that it is turned into [[gossip]] and [[ridicule]] behind your back, which is way more destructive. [[Trust]] is undermined rather than built. But people basically refuse to say anything directly. I'm glad to hear it from you.

Evelyn: Very much to me. Many times I have wished that, if I am doing something amiss, another person would [[consider]] me friend enough to point it out, sure, preferably in a lighthearted [[manner]]. So often we [[witness]] that it is turned into [[gossip]] and [[ridicule]] behind your back, which is way more destructive. [[Trust]] is undermined rather than built. But people basically refuse to say anything directly. I'm glad to hear it from you.