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Dec. 15. 1993

Dec. 15. 1993

===Opening===

===Opening===

Elyon (probably) In your relationship to your understanding always be mindful of the other and what they need. It is complex,.. at times these seeming rules and regulations that go toward creating a good and perfect being but in reality it is still simple. It is to love your Father and to manifest this in your relationship with those in your existence. . .. careful in the steps you tread at times for fear of how you will affect; rudely in your manner, at times oblivious to the needs of others. I caution you as friends that neither approach is necessary. It is a (new?) without fear to face the problems and desires and opinions of those who are within your realm. It is when you look with interest upon the opportunity you have to share, when you are balanced in your approach, when you are aware of the feelings that those who are around you are feeling that . .. (TR: I think I missed that.) My point is to stay away from the fringe when responding to the needs of others and with sincerity to go forth and pursue the relationship instead of ignoring it. (? faint)

Elyon (probably) In your [[relationship]] to your [[understanding]] always be mindful of the [[other]] and what they need. It is [[complex]],.. at times these seeming rules and [[regulations]] that go toward creating a [[good]] and [[perfect]] [[being]] but in [[reality]] it is still simple. It is to [[love]] [[your Father]] and to [[manifest]] this in your relationship with those in your [[existence]]. . .. careful in the [[steps]] you tread at times for [[fear]] of how you will affect; rudely in your [[manner]], at times oblivious to the needs of others. I [[caution]] you as [[friends]] that neither approach is [[necessary]]. It is a (new?) without [[fear]] to face the [[problems]] and [[desires]] and [[opinions]] of those who are within your realm. It is when you look with interest upon the [[opportunity]] you have to [[share]], when you are [[balanced]] in your approach, when you are aware of the [[feelings]] that those who are around you are feeling that . .. (TR: I think I missed that.) My point is to stay away from the fringe when responding to the needs of others and with sincerity to go forth and pursue the relationship instead of ignoring it. (? faint)

===Dialogue===

===Dialogue===

Evelyn: It sounds to me like you are pointing out that we have been insensitive or self-centered in our interactions. Can you be more specific? You have given us good advice generally, to be more sensitive.

Evelyn: It sounds to me like you are pointing out that we have been insensitive or [[self-centered]] in our [[interactions]]. Can you be more specific? You have given us [[good]] [[advice]] generally, to be more [[sensitive]].

Elyon: Awareness. Try to be aware of how you can affect most positively those around you. Sheltering feelings doesn't create a positive affect. Ignoring the problem doesn't solve the feeling. As you relate to each other and to those within your lives, you must certainly find ways to express how you feel because it is the only way that you may be freed to serve without worry and self thought. As you relate, as you create these bonds within a relationship, then you grow stronger in that bond. It is when you close the communication that you stifle the growth. This is my response.

Elyon: [[Awareness]]. Try to be aware of how you can affect most [[positively]] those around you. [[Sheltering]] [[feelings]] doesn't create a positive affect. [[Ignoring]] the [[problem]] doesn't solve the [[feeling]]. As you relate to each other and to those within your lives, you must certainly find ways to [[express]] how you [[feel]] because it is the only way that you may be freed to serve without [[worry]] and self thought. As you relate, as you create these bonds within a [[relationship]], then you grow [[stronger]] in that bond. It is when you close the [[communication]] that you stifle the [[growth]]. This is my response.

E: What is the difference between feelings and emotions? Emotions seem fleeting. I'm reluctant to convey an emotional response because it seems impulsive. Five minutes and it's gone. I don't want to indulge anger, why convey it? That's emotion, is that feelings? I'm usually glad I refrain from sharing things like that. Maybe I'm not understanding the feelings that you are encouraging us to share.

E: What is the [[difference]] between [[feelings]] and [[emotions]]? Emotions seem fleeting. I'm [[reluctant]] to convey an [[emotional]] [[response]] because it seems impulsive. Five minutes and it's gone. I don't want to indulge [[anger]], why convey it? That's [[emotion]], is that feelings? I'm usually glad I refrain from [[sharing]] things like that. Maybe I'm not [[understanding]] the [[feelings]] that you are [[encouraging]] us to [[share]].

Elyon: Share you, who you are as you feel in response. It was to you all as a group to learn how to be expressive of your feelings, not to criticize or attack but to share in your process of understanding. If no one understands what you are feeling, than how can it possibly be addressed? If you take shelter in fear of offending, then how can the problem be solved?   

Elyon: Share you, who you are as you [[feel]] in response. It was to you all as a group to learn how to be [[expressive]] of your [[feelings]], not to criticize or [[attack]] but to [[share]] in your [[process]] of [[understanding]]. If no one understands what you are [[feeling]], than how can it possibly be addressed? If you take [[shelter]] in fear of [[offending]], then how can the [[problem]] be solved?   

My assignment to this group is to address how you can most effectively serve. The first step toward service in a group is to serve each other by your trust, fairness, loyalty, and love. The first step towards being cohesive in your actions is to first understand who you are acting with. This cannot be done as effectively when you yet cannot relate your feelings. The egos for a large part have been set aside, and now must your fear of having to allow yourself in such a manner which exposes the source of fear. This is not an easy lesson to know within. It is a step towards bringing you forward, if you are willing to come. If you put your relationships under a microscope and see the bacteria which clings, then if you can expand your vision and see the glow of this sphere, this world, how everyone relates arm in arm. It is dysfunctional. To function properly we must first start with the few who are willing to risk hurt feelings, worries, and risk yourselves because, as you develop this understanding, you will manifest it and carry it forth. You already know how fast the seed grows. I would like for you to relate what you are feeling now, each of you.

My [[assignment]] to this group is to address how you can most effectively serve. The first step toward [[service]] in a [[group]] is to serve each other by your [[trust]], [[fairness]], [[loyalty]], and [[love]]. The first step towards being [[cohesive]] in your [[actions]] is to first understand who you are acting with. This cannot be done as effectively when you yet cannot relate your [[feelings]]. The [[egos]] for a large part have been set aside, and now must your fear of having to allow yourself in such a manner which [[exposes]] the source of fear. This is not an easy lesson to know within. It is a [[step]] towards bringing you forward, if you are willing to come. If you put your [[relationships]] under a [[microscope]] and see the [[bacteria]] which clings, then if you can expand your [[vision]] and see the [[glow]] of this [[sphere]], this world, how everyone relates arm in arm. It is dysfunctional. To [[function]] properly we must first start with the few who are willing to [[risk]] hurt [[feelings]], [[worries]], and risk yourselves because, as you develop this [[understanding]], you will [[manifest]] it and carry it forth. You already know how fast the [[seed]] grows. I would like for you to relate what you are [[feeling]] now, each of you.

Simeon: I'm shivering, that's what I'm feeling now.

Simeon: I'm shivering, that's what I'm feeling now.

Jonathan: I'm feeling calm, myself, peaceful. My mind is at rest without agitation.

Jonathan: I'm feeling [[calm]], myself, peaceful. My [[mind]] is at [[rest]] without [[agitation]].

Daniel: (His ears were giving him trouble and wasn't sure he'd heard the question.)

Daniel: (His ears were giving him trouble and wasn't sure he'd heard the question.)

Evelyn: He asked us to share our feelings of the moment and not to hold back for the sake of possibly offending. I surmise there is still room for tact.

Evelyn: He asked us to [[share]] our [[feelings]] of the [[moment]] and not to hold back for the sake of possibly offending. I surmise there is still room for [[tact]].

===Closing===

===Closing===

(The rest of the session was not recorded. We exchanged personal notes on how to improve our communications.)

(The rest of the session was not recorded. We exchanged [[personal]] notes on how to improve our [[communications]].)

 

==Session 4==

==Session 4==

December 25, 1993

December 25, 1993