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If the true primary need is to be fulfilled and [[happy]] in [[intimate]] [[relationship]], make that your [[priority]]. Dive into it, and give it your full [[heart]]. Now this does not mean losing your [[self]] within the other person's divine and human [[glory]]; it means bringing your own glory to bear on the [[shared]] entity that the [[relationship]] is, to nurture it to wholeness so that it can nurture you and the two of you can nurture each other. But, see clearly what is before you, and do not [[delay]] following any true [[guidance]] that might indicate that the [[dream]] is not the [[reality]]. Humans are wired to respond to the dream call, and then turn it into a stable reality with its [[foundation]] in the Father's [[truth]], [[goodness]], and [[love]]. With this as a base, the love between two people cannot fail to produce [[the fruits]] of the Father's own tree. Make Him your [[mutual]] [[goal]], make Him the center of your lovemaking, make him the center of all your business, and the relationship will flourish.

If the true primary need is to be fulfilled and [[happy]] in [[intimate]] [[relationship]], make that your [[priority]]. Dive into it, and give it your full [[heart]]. Now this does not mean losing your [[self]] within the other person's divine and human [[glory]]; it means bringing your own glory to bear on the [[shared]] entity that the [[relationship]] is, to nurture it to wholeness so that it can nurture you and the two of you can nurture each other. But, see clearly what is before you, and do not [[delay]] following any true [[guidance]] that might indicate that the [[dream]] is not the [[reality]]. Humans are wired to respond to the dream call, and then turn it into a stable reality with its [[foundation]] in the Father's [[truth]], [[goodness]], and [[love]]. With this as a base, the love between two people cannot fail to produce [[the fruits]] of the Father's own tree. Make Him your [[mutual]] [[goal]], make Him the center of your lovemaking, make him the center of all your business, and the relationship will flourish.

These are not just [[words]]; you have to discern clearly how to do this, [[together]]. We see you embarking on a true [[exploration]] of love. You might even get a little lost with each other, in each other, for a while; this is common and [[normal]] in the early [[stages]]. But your own inner knowing, if not ignored, will always pull you back on [[course]]. Go not for the [[glamour]], go for the substance; if you remember anything at all of this message, that is the one thing to hold dear to your [[heart]]. If something you do for others, individually or together, makes you feel important; if you find yourself seeking validation, [[appreciation]] or [[attention]]; if it is important for you to be "right" about things -- all that is a sign of spiritual glamour. If you feel simple, grateful, humble that you are the purveyor whatever gifts the Father offers others through you, that is the substance of service. You know this, but in the excitement of new openings it is easy to forget. Egos are of use when they help build confidence and competence; they hamper the Father's work when they seek to be noticed and glorified.

These are not just [[words]]; you have to discern clearly how to do this, [[together]]. We see you embarking on a true [[exploration]] of love. You might even get a little lost with each other, in each other, for a while; this is common and [[normal]] in the early [[stages]]. But your own inner knowing, if not ignored, will always pull you back on [[course]]. Go not for the [[glamour]], go for the substance; if you remember anything at all of this message, that is the one thing to hold dear to your [[heart]]. If something you do for others, individually or together, makes you feel important; if you find yourself seeking validation, [[appreciation]] or [[attention]]; if it is important for you to be "right" about things -- all that is a sign of [[spiritual glamour]]. If you feel [[simple]], [[grateful]], [[humble]] that you are the purveyor whatever gifts the Father offers others through you, that is the substance of [[service]]. You know this, but in the [[excitement]] of new openings it is easy to forget. [[Egos]] are of use when they help build [[confidence]] and competence; they hamper [[the Father]]'s work when they seek to be noticed and [[glorified]].

I say this because there has been some wounding in you in the past around a certain lack of acknowledgment and recognition that was certainly due to you; and we ask that you let the Father compensate for that with his own validation and appreciation; do not seek that from others. And constantly ask yourself -- even within the normalcy of wanting authentic and natural human needs to be fulfilled by the one you love -- "Is what I am asking from this person in this moment something that is the province of man or the province of God?" Man's love is imperfect; God's love is not. Do not demand unconditional love, either from yourself or the other; be content with the love that is human, that has limitations, that fails and falters, and sometimes hides in fear or shame.

I say this because there has been some [[wounding]] in you in the past around a certain lack of acknowledgment and [[recognition]] that was certainly due to you; and we ask that you let the Father [[compensate]] for that with his own validation and [[appreciation]]; do not seek that from others. And constantly ask yourself -- even within the normalcy of wanting authentic and [[natural]] human needs to be fulfilled by the one you love -- "Is what I am asking from this person in this moment something that is the province of man or the province of God?" Man's love is imperfect; God's love is not. Do not demand unconditional love, either from yourself or the other; be content with the love that is [[human]], that has [[limitations]], that fails and falters, and sometimes hides in [[fear]] or [[shame]].

The main task for your discernment practice in regard to any relationship, is to be able to distinguish the need for validation versus the need for truth. These two things are still intertwined in your psyche, as it is for almost every human, and that is why it is sometimes difficult to hear clearly what is being communicated to you by others. You have nothing to defend, ever; you have only to listen. If you find yourself arguing for your position, know that this means you are not certain within yourself. Rather than continuing outer communication, ask your own good Father to clarify.

The main task for your [[discernment]] [[practice]] in regard to any [[relationship]], is to be able to distinguish the need for validation versus the need for [[truth]]. These two things are still intertwined in your [[psyche]], as it is for almost every human, and that is why it is sometimes [[difficult]] to hear clearly what is being [[communicated]] to you by others. You have nothing to [[defend]], ever; you have only to [[listen]]. If you find yourself arguing for your [[position]], know that this means you are not certain within yourself. Rather than continuing outer [[communication]], ask your own good Father to [[clarify]].

This is the correct way to proceed: Others' opinions are to be noted, and then taken into prayer and meditation – not the intellect – for consideration. You usually have more than enough input from outer sources to take to the Father and lay at His feet. We advise that you resist the temptation to collect more data or more opinions in order to draw up a defensible case, or to find agreement for your own stance or to shore up your own uncertainty; rather, take what you have, confused as it may be, directly to the Father and make it known to Him in no uncertain terms that you want – as you humans say: the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.

This is the correct way to proceed: Others' [[opinions]] are to be noted, and then taken into [[prayer]] and [[meditation]] – not the [[intellect]] – for [[consideration]]. You usually have more than enough input from outer sources to take to [[the Father]] and lay at His feet. We [[advise]] that you resist the temptation to collect more [[data]] or more opinions in order to draw up a defensible case, or to find agreement for your own stance or to shore up your own [[uncertainty]]; rather, take what you have, [[confused]] as it may be, directly to the Father and make it known to Him in no uncertain terms that you want – as you humans say: the [[truth]], the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.

Your true prayer is, "Father, reveal the truth to me in this, regardless of the cost." It is His greatest pleasure to comply with such a request. This is a process that can take moments, hours, days, weeks, or even months. When you get your answer, if it is true you will feel releasement and peace, with no need to continue the process. If there is still doubt or conflict, or anxiety, keep asking for truth. With questions of great import, do not be satisfied with anything that does not bring you to a recognition – body, mind, soul, and spirit -- that is a 100% YES.

Your true prayer is, "Father, reveal the truth to me in this, regardless of the cost." It is His greatest [[pleasure]] to comply with such a request. This is a [[process]] that can take moments, hours, days, weeks, or even months. When you get your answer, if it is true you will feel releasement and [[peace]], with no need to continue the process. If there is still doubt or conflict, or anxiety, keep asking for truth. With questions of great import, do not be [[satisfied]] with anything that does not bring you to a [[recognition]] – [[body]], [[mind]], [[soul]], and [[spirit]] -- that is a 100% YES.

===Closing===

===Closing===

All will be revealed, all will be given, all will be awarded, in good time, in good time. This is one of the things we find most humans struggle with. You all would like to receive the answers immediately, and are not trained to wait within the pools of uncertainty. This causes you to jump to conclusions at times, and slip on the rocks. Be willing to not know, until you truly know. Patience, patience is being asked of you along this journey.

All will be [[revealed]], all will be given, all will be awarded, in [[good]] time, in good time. This is one of the things we find most humans [[struggle]] with. You all would like to receive the answers [[immediately]], and are not [[trained]] to wait within the pools of [[uncertainty]]. This causes you to jump to conclusions at times, and slip on the rocks. Be willing to not know, until you truly know. [[Patience]], patience is being asked of you along this [[journey]].

We bless you with our love, Vesta

We [[bless]] you with our love, Vesta

[[Category: The Teaching Mission: Dialogues]]

[[Category: The Teaching Mission: Dialogues]]