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Abraham: I am borrowing [[words]] from your [[culture]] when I use the term, "[[comfort zone]]". The basic [[concept]] is that people are comfortable with what is familiar, that which is [[routine]], that which is well known and well [[practiced]]. Discomfort includes [[feelings]] of [[fear]], [[anxiety]], [[uncertainty]], self [[doubt]], etc.

Abraham: I am borrowing [[words]] from your [[culture]] when I use the term, "[[comfort zone]]". The basic [[concept]] is that people are comfortable with what is familiar, that which is [[routine]], that which is well known and well [[practiced]]. Discomfort includes [[feelings]] of [[fear]], [[anxiety]], [[uncertainty]], self [[doubt]], etc.

The only way to conquer a fear is to do the opposite of what is natural. What is natural is to run away, or to attack that which is feared, more likely the former. Therefor to deal with discomfort of the fearful type, which underlies all anxiety and doubt, is to approach the feared situation, person, object, etc.; to approach it in measured degrees and realize that the fearful situation has not had fatal results, that you have survived looking at this situation to the point that you have immersed yourself in it. When you calm down you can approach closer to what you are afraid of and brings you discomfort, and very soon you are right in the midst of the situation, finding yourself successful in overcoming the discomfort. [Ed. Note: This is known as "En vivo desensitization" in the psychological literature.] A common example is the fear of water an this approach is well known to swimming instructors. The same approach holds true for all other situations, with the additional support that you have from your Indwelling Spirit. Yes, you are right that each person's comfort zone is their own. It is unique to each individual. Would you share with me what the purpose of your question was, if you will?

The only way to [[conquer]] a [[fear]] is to do the opposite of what is [[natural]]. What is natural is to run away, or to [[attack]] that which is feared, more likely the former. Therefor to deal with discomfort of the fearful type, which underlies all [[anxiety]] and [[doubt]], is to approach the feared situation, person, object, etc.; to approach it in measured [[degrees]] and realize that the fearful situation has not had [[fatal]] results, that you have [[survived]] looking at this situation to the point that you have [[immersed]] yourself in it. When you calm down you can approach closer to what you are [[afraid]] of and brings you discomfort, and very soon you are right in the midst of the situation, finding yourself successful in overcoming the discomfort. [Ed. Note: This is known as "En vivo desensitization" in the [[psychological]] literature.] A common example is the [[fear]] of water an this approach is well known to swimming instructors. The same approach holds true for all other situations, with the additional [[support]] that you have from your [[Indwelling Spirit]]. Yes, you are right that each person's [[comfort zone]] is their own. It is [[unique]] to each individual. Would you [[share]] with me what the [[purpose]] of your question was, if you will?

LaReen: Well, as of late I find myself judging myself, wondering if it makes me uncomfortable, should I just walk away? I have been walking away a lot lately. It is a clear incident that happened on the internet with a gentleman in his thoughts. It upset me terribly and I just said I wouldn't deal with it and walked away. It has been on my mind ever since, that I probably shouldn't have done that, walking away, I should have faced it.

LaReen: Well, as of late I find myself [[judging]] myself, wondering if it makes me uncomfortable, should I just walk away? I have been walking away a lot lately. It is a clear [[incident]] that happened on the [[internet]] with a gentleman in his [[thoughts]]. It upset me terribly and I just said I wouldn't deal with it and walked away. It has been on my [[mind]] ever since, that I probably shouldn't have done that, walking away, I should have faced it.

Abraham: Daughter, no one is perfect. I am not able to tell you whether or not you erred in retreating from this situation. I am able to tell you that you do not need to be self depreciating. You do not need to scold yourself. Your fear mechanism is based on the reality of the physical world. It is not always a negative aspect of your human nature. You could perceive danger and be accurate in it. You are not required to be foolhardy. Do you understand that I am saying... that some fears are legitimate and to be respected? However, I cannot judge this situation. That will have to be your job. Seek clarification from your Father Fragment and if you feel that you have been unethical toward this person, make amends. But if this person is a predator, has less than the best motives, perhaps you have been wise. Thank you for answering my question. If you wish, we can delete this from the transcript.

Abraham: Daughter, no one is [[perfect]]. I am not able to tell you whether or not you [[erred]] in retreating from this situation. I am able to tell you that you do not need to be self depreciating. You do not need to [[scold]] yourself. Your [[fear]] [[mechanism]] is based on the [[reality]] of the [[physical]] world. It is not always a [[negative]] aspect of your human nature. You could perceive [[danger]] and be [[accurate]] in it. You are not required to be [[foolhardy]]. Do you [[understand]] that I am saying... that some [[fears]] are legitimate and to be [[respected]]? However, I cannot judge this situation. That will have to be your job. Seek [[clarification]] from your [[Father Fragment]] and if you feel that you have been unethical toward this person, make amends. But if this person is a predator, has less than the best [[motives]], perhaps you have been [[wise]]. Thank you for answering my question. If you wish, we can delete this from the [[transcript]].

LaReen: No, I'm fine. Thank you very much.

LaReen: No, I'm fine. Thank you very much.

Abraham: Do you wish further discourse.

Abraham: Do you wish further [[discourse]].

LaReen: No, Abraham. This is very important to me and one I have not dealt with for a lot of years. I'm just really glad that it has come around and that you are helping us with it.

LaReen: No, Abraham. This is very important to me and one I have not dealt with for a lot of years. I'm just really glad that it has come around and that you are helping us with it.

Abraham: My dear, if [[Michael]], when he was on [[this planet]], had calculated all his words based on the fear that he would be disbelieved and [[rejected]], what would have been the extent of his ministry?

 

Abraham: My dear, if Michael, when he was on this planet, had calculated all his words based on the fear that he would be disbelieved and rejected, what would have been the extent of his ministry?

Virginia: Are you asking me?? (Laughter)

Virginia: Are you asking me?? (Laughter)

Abraham: I am presenting this as a rhetorical question to all of you. The answer is very evident, isn't it?

Abraham: I am presenting this as a rhetorical question to all of you. The answer is very evident, isn't it?

There were some people he did not talk with before his public ministry. When he was questioned about this he replied that they were not ready to hear his truth. But when his enemies waited for him to stumble so that they could find fault with him and have means to end his life, he continued to preach, using parables. He did not stop his mission for fear of the consequences.

There were some people he did not talk with before his [[public]] ministry. When he was questioned about this he replied that they were not ready to hear his [[truth]]. But when his [[enemies]] waited for him to stumble so that they could find fault with him and have means to end his [[life]], he continued to [[preach]], using [[parables]]. He did not stop his [[mission]] for [[fear]] of the [[consequences]].

It is unlikely that you would be crucified in this day and age. It is possible that some people who trust you might question your . ...

It is unlikely that you would be [[crucified]] in this day and age. It is possible that some people who [[trust]] you might question your . ...

Group: sanity?

Group: [[sanity]]?

Abraham: . ....mental stability. (More laughter). But those who truly know you and really respect you will take your seriously. At least they will listen to you and then it will be up to them to decide what to do with the seed that you have planted. Otherwise, the seed is not planted. Therefor, there cannot be growth or harvest.

Abraham: . ....mental [[stability]]. (More [[laughter]]). But those who truly know you and really [[respect]] you will take your seriously. At least they will [[listen]] to you and then it will be up to them to decide what to do with the [[seed]] that you have planted. Otherwise, the seed is not planted. Therefor, there cannot be [[growth]] or [[harvest]].

Now, I am not suggesting that you set up a platform in the town square with a P.A. system and start preaching But, you have already begun to share this basic meaningful core of your life with many people. You have to decide how and when you do that. It is not my job to make that decision for you. Have I been clear in my answer?

Now, I am not suggesting that you set up a [[platform]] in the town square with a P.A. system and start [[preaching]] But, you have already begun to [[share]] this basic meaningful core of your life with many people. You have to [[decide]] how and when you do that. It is not my job to make that decision for you. Have I been [[clear]] in my answer?

Virginia: Very! Thank you.

Virginia: Very! Thank you.

Abraham: But is it what you may not have wanted me to say, perhaps? (Chuckling and laughter.)

Abraham: But is it what you may not have wanted me to say, perhaps? (Chuckling and laughter.)

Virginia: I prefer my comfort zone. (More laughter)

Virginia: I prefer my [[comfort zone]]. (More laughter)

Group: Don't we all.

Group: Don't we all.

Virginia: I don't like my neck getting bruised.

Virginia: I don't like my neck getting bruised.

Abraham: This is the problem for you all. How to reach a sate of inner peace where the disapproval, disbelief, or ridicule of other people does not unsettle you. In other words, how to attain the maturity that Jesus of Nazareth obtained. Is this not the issue?

Abraham: This is the [[problem]] for you all. How to reach a sate of inner [[peace]] where the disapproval, disbelief, or [[ridicule]] of other people does not unsettle you. In other [[words]], how to [[attain]] the [[maturity]] that [[Jesus]] of Nazareth obtained. Is this not the issue?

For if you could be a faithful seed planter without worrying about the results and without feeling that your life would be depleted if there are those who are not approving, then there really would be no serious problem in this whole enterprise. Do you understand this?

For if you could be a [[faithful]] [[seed]] planter without [[worrying]] about the results and without [[feeling]] that your life would be depleted if there are those who are not approving, then there really would be no serious [[problem]] in this whole enterprise. Do you understand this?

Virginia: I really do, Abraham. When you use the word, ridicule, I thought of Judas and how he could suffer a lot of things except ridicule. I hate to think of myself in that situation. But I think ridicule is something that is very difficult. I avoid situations where I know I am going to be laughed at, I guess.

Virginia: I really do, Abraham. When you use the [[word]], [[ridicule]], I thought of [[Judas]] and how he could suffer a lot of things except ridicule. I [[hate]] to think of myself in that situation. But I think ridicule is something that is very [[difficult]]. I avoid situations where I know I am going to be laughed at, I guess.

Abraham: Yes, and you are not alone in this situation, my dear. It is a problem that can be remedied. It is a part of spiritual growth to need no other approval other than that which comes to you from within. When that is so solid in your life, if others approve....fine. If they don't approve, it's okay. It may not be fine but it is okay. Do you see, for you know you are in alignment with God's purpose.

Abraham: Yes, and you are not [[alone]] in this situation, my dear. It is a problem that can be remedied. It is a part of [[spiritual growth]] to need no other approval other than that which comes to you from within. When that is so solid in your life, if others approve....fine. If they don't approve, it's okay. It may not be fine but it is okay. Do you see, for you know you are in [[alignment]] with [[God]]'s [[purpose]].

This does not mean that you become a hermit, that you withdraw from people in order to avoid disapproval. The spiritual solution is the overcoming of fear that I was talking about earlier. Have we pursued this far enough or do you want more discussion?

This does not mean that you become a [[hermit]], that you withdraw from people in order to avoid disapproval. The spiritual solution is the overcoming of [[fear]] that I was talking about earlier. Have we pursued this far enough or do you want more [[discussion]]?

Marty: Can you wave a magic wand?

Marty: Can you wave a [[magic]] [[wand]]?

Abraham: You understand intellectually what you need to do, yes. You see, the problem is your feelings are a result of your emotional history as people. You have neuronal connections in your brain which have to be over-ridden, undone, as it were, and new learning occur. This is why it is so hard to do things differently. It is not a lack of will or motive on your part, it is a physical habit, an unlearning and relearning process. It takes time, It takes, as I said earlier, approaching the edge of your comfort zone repeatedly. Stand still until you can feel the anxiety subside and then move forward some more. It is not something you can decide tonight and tomorrow you have it mastered. But you can't make any progress until you are willing to try.

Abraham: You understand intellectually what you need to do, yes. You see, the [[problem]] is your [[feelings]] are a result of your [[emotional]] [[history]] as people. You have [[neuronal]] connections in your [[brain]] which have to be over-ridden, undone, as it were, and new [[learning]] occur. This is why it is so hard to do things differently. It is not a lack of will or [[motive]] on your part, it is a [[physical]] [[habit]], an unlearning and relearning [[process]]. It takes time, It takes, as I said earlier, approaching the edge of your [[comfort zone]] repeatedly. Stand still until you can feel the [[anxiety]] subside and then move forward some more. It is not something you can decide tonight and tomorrow you have it mastered. But you can't make any [[progress]] until you are willing to try.

Ken: This is the decision you were talking about last week? The decisions we will have to make?

Ken: This is the [[decision]] you were talking about last week? The decisions we will have to make?

Abraham: Yes, it was.

Abraham: Yes, it was.

Ken: Sorry for the interruption.

Ken: Sorry for the interruption.

Abraham: No, that was a good question, Ken. Yes, these are the decisions. These are the decisions you have already made in the past in other ways. It isn't as though you are beginning this process, my dear friends. You well know it or you wouldn't be here.

Abraham: No, that was a good question, Ken. Yes, these are the [[decisions]]. These are the decisions you have already made in the [[past]] in other ways. It isn't as though you are beginning this [[process]], my dear friends. You well know it or you wouldn't be here.

By the way, Daniel is not demoted from his position. Minearisa has not taken leave of this group. Aaron is present also this evening. But I have requested these sessions prior to our birthday celebration in order to present phase two in its beginning.

By the way, Daniel is not demoted from his [[position]]. Minearisa has not taken leave of this [[group]]. Aaron is present also this evening. But I have requested these sessions prior to our birthday celebration in order to present phase two in its beginning.

Ken: Let me recap this a little bit. Minearisa talked a while back about beginning a second phase. The first phase being relationships with persons; the second phase being the relationships of a divine nature. I take it from these lessons that this what we are about to do, to expand our box, to find that true sense of reality with the Father and begin to express this divine relationship that we see, that has been shown forth by you our teachers, by our dear Parents, and of course by Deity. We are to step forward now and express our unconditional love for our brothers and sisters and show them what they are asking to hear, and that they are ready for it now. Is that correct?

Ken: Let me recap this a little bit. Minearisa talked a while back about beginning a second phase. The first phase being [[relationships]] with [[persons]]; the second phase being the relationships of a [[divine]] nature. I take it from these lessons that this what we are about to do, to expand our box, to find that true sense of [[reality]] with [[the Father]] and begin to [[express]] this divine relationship that we see, that has been shown forth by you [[our teachers]], by our dear Parents, and of course by [[Deity]]. We are to step forward now and express our unconditional love for our brothers and sisters and show them what they are asking to hear, and that they are ready for it now. Is that correct?

Abraham: A+!

Abraham: A+!

Ken: Hmm.

Ken: Hmm.

Abraham: Excellent, my friend. In your own words you have summarized beautifully what we are doing, and what we are helping you to do. You have overcome your fear of water. (Laughter) You have learned to dog paddle. You have begun the side stroke and gained some ease with it. Now you are learning the Australian Crawl to go for the long distance, the one that has the power and staying ability that can carry you onward in your journey. Yes.

Abraham: Excellent, my friend. In your own words you have summarized [[beautifully]] what we are doing, and what we are helping you to do. You have overcome your [[fear]] of water. ([[Laughter]]) You have learned to dog paddle. You have begun the side stroke and gained some ease with it. Now you are learning the [[Australian Crawl]] to go for the long distance, the one that has the [[power]] and staying [[ability]] that can carry you onward in your [[journey]]. Yes.

Ken: Thank you. Thank you for this pep talk.

Ken: Thank you. Thank you for this pep talk.

===Closing===

===Closing===

Abraham: Indeed, my friends, Daniel will be returning in the future, as will Minearisa and Aaron. I will be present with you again shortly at our birthday reunion. I thank you for listening. You are a delight to me and I am so pleased that you are willing to take my words seriously. May you all continue to grow in your trust of the overcare of the Universal Father through the Eternal Son and by the Infinite Spirit. Even so, shalom.

Abraham: Indeed, my friends, Daniel will be returning in the [[future]], as will Minearisa and Aaron. I will be present with you again shortly at our birthday reunion. I thank you for [[listening]]. You are a delight to me and I am so pleased that you are willing to take my [[words]] seriously. May you all continue to grow in your trust of the [[overcare]] of the [[Universal Father]] through the [[Eternal Son]] and by the [[Infinite Spirit]]. Even so, [[shalom]].

Group: Shalom.

Group: Shalom.

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