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Marin TM Group—Mill Valley, California, U.S.A.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Prayer: Dear Mother Spirit and Michael, We thank You for Your insights and Your helping us understand some of the more difficult or painful aspects of life. We do treasure Your point of view, the perspective You and You alone are able to give us on the whole of human life. And so we do have faith, we do trust Your assurance that human life, human reality is supremely worth living, and that our spirits do ultimately triumph over all pain and adversity. For this we are truly thankful. Amen.

Prayer: Dear Mother Spirit and Michael, We thank You for Your insights and Your helping us understand some of the more difficult or painful aspects of life. We do treasure Your point of view, the perspective You and You alone are able to give us on the whole of human life. And so we do have faith, we do trust Your assurance that human life, human reality is supremely worth living, and that our spirits do ultimately triumph over all pain and adversity. For this we are truly thankful. Amen.

NEBADONIA: Good evening, My sons, this is your Mother, Nebadonia. This is true, what you offer Us in your prayer. Michael and I consider it one of the greatest gifts We can offer you--to see through Our eyes. You are so much more in Our vision than you generally are in your own. We are even able to see the physical bodies you have in such a greater way than you perceive yourselves. For how often are you aware of this marvel of inhabiting a living vehicle which is still far beyond your comprehension, given the sum total of all your libraries of millions and millions of books on this study?

NEBADONIA: Good evening, My sons, this is your Mother, Nebadonia. This is true, what you offer Us in your prayer. Michael and I consider it one of the greatest gifts We can offer you--to see through Our eyes. You are so much more in Our vision than you generally are in your own. We are even able to see the physical bodies you have in such a greater way than you perceive yourselves. For how often are you aware of this marvel of inhabiting a living vehicle which is still far beyond your comprehension, given the sum total of all your libraries of millions and millions of books on this study?

 

(Respect for your bodies)

*(Respect for your bodies)

For this will mark a further evolution of mankind’s understanding of itself, when your physical bodies are given the respect that is their rightful due. Indeed it is the marvelous flexibility and adaptability of your bodies that is truly the gift of the ages, when you consider the ages it took to develop them to their present status. Millions and millions of years of evolution have gone into elaborating the design that you inherit at the moment of conception.

For this will mark a further evolution of mankind’s understanding of itself, when your physical bodies are given the respect that is their rightful due. Indeed it is the marvelous flexibility and adaptability of your bodies that is truly the gift of the ages, when you consider the ages it took to develop them to their present status. Millions and millions of years of evolution have gone into elaborating the design that you inherit at the moment of conception.

Your bodies are tenacious and tough and resilient far beyond your immediate knowing, and it is this very resiliency that allows you to indulge in what will eventually or ultimately be unhealthy, sometimes for quite a while before you experience the full effects which follow strictly by natural law. But the more sensitive you can become towards and within your bodies, the greater respect you can have for them. This is one very basic way you can multiply your experience of life many-fold. It is not only having a longer life, but having a more full life as you go along.

Your bodies are tenacious and tough and resilient far beyond your immediate knowing, and it is this very resiliency that allows you to indulge in what will eventually or ultimately be unhealthy, sometimes for quite a while before you experience the full effects which follow strictly by natural law. But the more sensitive you can become towards and within your bodies, the greater respect you can have for them. This is one very basic way you can multiply your experience of life many-fold. It is not only having a longer life, but having a more full life as you go along.

(Mental toughness and sensitivity)

*(Mental toughness and sensitivity)

As Michael mentioned in His lesson about pain, and even the minor forms of discomfort, when you get over into the mental realm, it is so intimately inseparable from the physical, you are such a bio-chemical organism, that even your more mild and innocuous psychotropic chemicals inform you of this intimate link between body and mind. Here it helps to have a certain mental toughness that, paradoxically seeming, allows you to be sensitive towards the whole realm of living beings. This toughness is the willingness to explore your world with great care and caution into realms of discomfort, even some minor pain, which allows you to expand your creativity and what you are capable of doing.

As Michael mentioned in His lesson about pain, and even the minor forms of discomfort, when you get over into the mental realm, it is so intimately inseparable from the physical, you are such a bio-chemical organism, that even your more mild and innocuous psychotropic chemicals inform you of this intimate link between body and mind. Here it helps to have a certain mental toughness that, paradoxically seeming, allows you to be sensitive towards the whole realm of living beings. This toughness is the willingness to explore your world with great care and caution into realms of discomfort, even some minor pain, which allows you to expand your creativity and what you are capable of doing.

But I think you can most truly evaluate this balance between toughness and sensitivity by first honestly applying it to yourself. Before you require anything of anyone else, try it yourself. Be highly aware of what you are asking of another. Get some value, some appreciation for how possible, and at times how impossible, certain desires might be. So let’s consider a little further, a little more deeply, this concept of respect--respect for your bodies, for your minds, for your spirits, for your souls.

But I think you can most truly evaluate this balance between toughness and sensitivity by first honestly applying it to yourself. Before you require anything of anyone else, try it yourself. Be highly aware of what you are asking of another. Get some value, some appreciation for how possible, and at times how impossible, certain desires might be. So let’s consider a little further, a little more deeply, this concept of respect--respect for your bodies, for your minds, for your spirits, for your souls.

(Acknowledging all aspects of humanity)

*(Acknowledging all aspects of humanity)

Let Me suggest that the primary focus of respect is simply acknowledgement. You acknowledge and grant reality to these aspects of human life, and keep them in mind. You acknowledge their affect on you and try your best to discover ways that you might be, however unconsciously, slighting anything of human reality, mainly out of habit--because you were so raised and trained by your family and society.

Let Me suggest that the primary focus of respect is simply acknowledgement. You acknowledge and grant reality to these aspects of human life, and keep them in mind. You acknowledge their affect on you and try your best to discover ways that you might be, however unconsciously, slighting anything of human reality, mainly out of habit--because you were so raised and trained by your family and society.

(The courage to be an individual)

*(The courage to be an individual)

If you would advance along this dimension, My children, you must have the courage to be an individual. You must grow the nerve to stand alone within yourself. This is an ability you must nurture. You must not fear overmuch, within your own self-consciousness, being apart and distinct from your group--however much or little they might be aware of this. Once again, with a touch of irony, this is the greatest thing you have to offer others: a well-developed, highly self-organized and articulate individual and unique point of view.

If you would advance along this dimension, My children, you must have the courage to be an individual. You must grow the nerve to stand alone within yourself. This is an ability you must nurture. You must not fear overmuch, within your own self-consciousness, being apart and distinct from your group--however much or little they might be aware of this. Once again, with a touch of irony, this is the greatest thing you have to offer others: a well-developed, highly self-organized and articulate individual and unique point of view.

Student: Dear Nebadonia, we were talking earlier about decision-making and I--on the idea of accepting, ah, mental pain and emotional pain and the physical pain--I’d ask Your help on why I’m having difficulty making decisions that--yes, they seem to have a lot of variables and--yes, I had the PRH training of discernment, how to try to make decisions. But I feel that sometimes we over-complicate these things, or possibly the point where the decisions are a little tougher… But I would really like advice on decision-making. I feel it’s important for my children, and really for the better understanding of the psychology of this even--especially since this going to be written down. So I thank You in advance.

Student: Dear Nebadonia, we were talking earlier about decision-making and I--on the idea of accepting, ah, mental pain and emotional pain and the physical pain--I’d ask Your help on why I’m having difficulty making decisions that--yes, they seem to have a lot of variables and--yes, I had the PRH training of discernment, how to try to make decisions. But I feel that sometimes we over-complicate these things, or possibly the point where the decisions are a little tougher… But I would really like advice on decision-making. I feel it’s important for my children, and really for the better understanding of the psychology of this even--especially since this going to be written down. So I thank You in advance.

(Making decisions)

*(Making decisions)

NEBADONIA: Yes, V, it may help to separate decisions into two classes, though any such delineation will always be somewhat simplistic; so compare this to a rule of thumb--so to speak. Say there are those decisions which make themselves. This is when you devote the time and energy to thoroughly understand the complexity involved between different alternatives of how best to spend your time in some future, either going this way or that.

NEBADONIA: Yes, V, it may help to separate decisions into two classes, though any such delineation will always be somewhat simplistic; so compare this to a rule of thumb--so to speak. Say there are those decisions which make themselves. This is when you devote the time and energy to thoroughly understand the complexity involved between different alternatives of how best to spend your time in some future, either going this way or that.

Student: Mother, a friend of mine recently asked a very interesting question. That is, what is the universe? And I said that it is the sum total of the Heavenly Father, the stuff we can see and the stuff we can’t see. I’m beginning to recognize there is a good deal more to it than that. Would you have any comment on that question?

Student: Mother, a friend of mine recently asked a very interesting question. That is, what is the universe? And I said that it is the sum total of the Heavenly Father, the stuff we can see and the stuff we can’t see. I’m beginning to recognize there is a good deal more to it than that. Would you have any comment on that question?

(Regarding the universe)

*(Regarding the universe)

NEBADONIA: Well, C, the question is difficult to answer because a word like "universe" has so many different meanings in so many different contexts. You have a scientific establishment based these last several hundred years on empiricism--which means: that which can be demonstrated. In this community the universe generally means what We refer to as time and space. This contains and refers to all the material and energetic phenomena within time and space.

NEBADONIA: Well, C, the question is difficult to answer because a word like "universe" has so many different meanings in so many different contexts. You have a scientific establishment based these last several hundred years on empiricism--which means: that which can be demonstrated. In this community the universe generally means what We refer to as time and space. This contains and refers to all the material and energetic phenomena within time and space.

Student: Yes, Mother, there are a few things I wish to bring up. One is the idea that Michael and You have brought up about, what do I want? And what, this may be a silly question, but what do You mean by that?--because there many things I want. I would like to work less and do other things, but the possibility, the opportunity does not exist at this present time. I want to travel, and do more, and to write, but the opportunity doesn’t present itself now. What is it more that…besides what I want? Is it more what I need for my soul’s growth? Because what You are saying, about what I want, is not some frivolous thing, but something deep and soul-evolving.

Student: Yes, Mother, there are a few things I wish to bring up. One is the idea that Michael and You have brought up about, what do I want? And what, this may be a silly question, but what do You mean by that?--because there many things I want. I would like to work less and do other things, but the possibility, the opportunity does not exist at this present time. I want to travel, and do more, and to write, but the opportunity doesn’t present itself now. What is it more that…besides what I want? Is it more what I need for my soul’s growth? Because what You are saying, about what I want, is not some frivolous thing, but something deep and soul-evolving.

(Ideals, desires, and reality)

*(Ideals, desires, and reality)

NEBADONIA: Yes, D, first of all let Me assure you there is a great advantage in knowing what you want, however possible of fulfillment this may or may not be. It does My heart good to feel you exploring these things and knowing what you want, and accepting, with that self-knowledge, all these valid reasons it may not yet be possible. For each of these informs the other. By knowing what you want and being able to express this to yourself as detailed and deeply as you can, it also informs you as to precisely what are the limits--within your reality--that condition whether or not these desires, these wants can be fulfilled. We touched on this last week, where your ideals and your sense of reality can inform each other. Your ideals can point a way to go, and reality informs you of how much this is possible. An ideal of full maturity would be where your wants and your needs coincide perfectly. Most human beings don’t arrive at this point in their first life, and some others for quite a while to come, for this is an ideal where you have perfect self-knowledge. You know what you need for your growth, for your health, for your friends and others, and this fulfills your desire. So don’t be too self-judgmental or hard on yourself if you do not perfectly coincide within yourself yet.

NEBADONIA: Yes, D, first of all let Me assure you there is a great advantage in knowing what you want, however possible of fulfillment this may or may not be. It does My heart good to feel you exploring these things and knowing what you want, and accepting, with that self-knowledge, all these valid reasons it may not yet be possible. For each of these informs the other. By knowing what you want and being able to express this to yourself as detailed and deeply as you can, it also informs you as to precisely what are the limits--within your reality--that condition whether or not these desires, these wants can be fulfilled. We touched on this last week, where your ideals and your sense of reality can inform each other. Your ideals can point a way to go, and reality informs you of how much this is possible. An ideal of full maturity would be where your wants and your needs coincide perfectly. Most human beings don’t arrive at this point in their first life, and some others for quite a while to come, for this is an ideal where you have perfect self-knowledge. You know what you need for your growth, for your health, for your friends and others, and this fulfills your desire. So don’t be too self-judgmental or hard on yourself if you do not perfectly coincide within yourself yet.

And so I get torn, and it’s very disconcerting and de-energizing I…feel in the depths of my soul about what I really want, you know, because I love them all.

And so I get torn, and it’s very disconcerting and de-energizing I…feel in the depths of my soul about what I really want, you know, because I love them all.

(The dimension of time)

*(The dimension of time)

NEBADONIA: D, I think here is a question of the dimension of time. I had a sense when we started this conversation, your understanding of wants was: that which could be realized immediately. So I pointed out the immediate value was deeply knowing what you want--a great advantage compared to those you can think of as being driven by all kinds of desires which they have never examined. They cannot even articulate to themselves that there are some desires which can only be worked toward.

NEBADONIA: D, I think here is a question of the dimension of time. I had a sense when we started this conversation, your understanding of wants was: that which could be realized immediately. So I pointed out the immediate value was deeply knowing what you want--a great advantage compared to those you can think of as being driven by all kinds of desires which they have never examined. They cannot even articulate to themselves that there are some desires which can only be worked toward.

NEBADONIA: So, My son, I think it takes the dimension of time for you to answer these questions. Are you deceiving yourself? Are thing getting better or worse? Are possibilities and individual growth increasing or being thwarted? In this sense you need to use time. Use the time that you have spent in this situation to answer these questions which are troubling your heart. And this requires a decisiveness because, as I mentioned to V, some of these decisions will be forever open. You cannot know if you made the right decision or not. What you will know is that you made a decision that changed the course of your life and the lives of others, and with that decision the other alternatives ceased to exist. You’ve made the decision; you are now on this new course. The other courses are no longer viable. They have no existence. And since you cannot be two people, you can never know if that other grass was greener.

NEBADONIA: So, My son, I think it takes the dimension of time for you to answer these questions. Are you deceiving yourself? Are thing getting better or worse? Are possibilities and individual growth increasing or being thwarted? In this sense you need to use time. Use the time that you have spent in this situation to answer these questions which are troubling your heart. And this requires a decisiveness because, as I mentioned to V, some of these decisions will be forever open. You cannot know if you made the right decision or not. What you will know is that you made a decision that changed the course of your life and the lives of others, and with that decision the other alternatives ceased to exist. You’ve made the decision; you are now on this new course. The other courses are no longer viable. They have no existence. And since you cannot be two people, you can never know if that other grass was greener.

(The necessity to include everyone)

*(The necessity to include everyone)

This is the humility within decisiveness, this staying open as to the true nature of what decision is, and why it is difficult, but also how it is possible and what an awesome power it is. This is the real humility of knowing what a power it is God has put in your hands. And yet, if it is any comfort My son, realize how much this power of each individual’s choices must be realized and respected by everyone as society comes into ever tighter and tighter inter-relationships. This is largely what is going on in the world today as, We have said, universal communication is bring separate peoples tighter and tighter together.

This is the humility within decisiveness, this staying open as to the true nature of what decision is, and why it is difficult, but also how it is possible and what an awesome power it is. This is the real humility of knowing what a power it is God has put in your hands. And yet, if it is any comfort My son, realize how much this power of each individual’s choices must be realized and respected by everyone as society comes into ever tighter and tighter inter-relationships. This is largely what is going on in the world today as, We have said, universal communication is bring separate peoples tighter and tighter together.

Remember you are always in My love. Just let it flow through you. Feel the respect you have for your lives together. With all the others out there you come in contact with, you are learning these very necessary disciplines of respect and self-forgetfulness. I could say again, don’t be so hard on yourself. But now even this is too much a generality. So let’s say: stick close to yourself. Be united within yourself. This includes, at times, a healthy self-questioning to keep your own ego in check out of love for others. This is most easily accomplished by being curious about others, and what they think and feel. For it is within your gracious ability to see yourself as others see you--if you are open to them. This reflection is a very loving thing you do for each other. It’s the greatest foundation for a truly healthy life, this love you share. It’s why I said true friendship can even be greater than the fundamental relationship of parent and child.

Remember you are always in My love. Just let it flow through you. Feel the respect you have for your lives together. With all the others out there you come in contact with, you are learning these very necessary disciplines of respect and self-forgetfulness. I could say again, don’t be so hard on yourself. But now even this is too much a generality. So let’s say: stick close to yourself. Be united within yourself. This includes, at times, a healthy self-questioning to keep your own ego in check out of love for others. This is most easily accomplished by being curious about others, and what they think and feel. For it is within your gracious ability to see yourself as others see you--if you are open to them. This reflection is a very loving thing you do for each other. It’s the greatest foundation for a truly healthy life, this love you share. It’s why I said true friendship can even be greater than the fundamental relationship of parent and child.

 

So just think how this friendship relies upon mutual respect and mutual self-forgetfulness—how you can be so much someone else, and share yourself with them. Now you are partaking of our Father’s reality. This is the way to go.

So just think how this friendship relies upon mutual respect and mutual self-forgetfulness—how you can be so much someone else, and share yourself with them. Now you are partaking of our Father’s reality. This is the way to go.

Stay close, and be in My love. Good evening.

Stay close, and be in My love. Good evening.