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MONJORONSON:  The most effective practices of [[discipline]] with children are those disciplines which assist the child in making [[choices]]—[[ethical]], [[social]], [[moral]] choices.  The most [[powerfully]] destructive are those which teach the child to be destructive, to be harmful, to see that [[power]] and [[force]] are the way of adulthood.  This is most detrimental to the [[thinking]] of the individual, whether or not they [[act]] out this [[violence]] in their adulthood.  [[Effective]] [[discipline]] leads the child into effective adulthood; effectively assists them in making [[good]] [[decisions]].  Effective discipline is such that it is a point in time where the child becomes aware of having made a wrong choice.  How the [[parent]] engages that [[practice]] of [[discipline]] is a matter of [[maturity]] on the part of the [[parent]] themselves.  Parents who have raised more than one child know that oftentimes children come into life with a predisposed [[temperament]] which may be completely at odds with the [[family]]’s [[Lifestyle|way of living]], their [[values]] and their [[beliefs]] and their social [[behaviors]].  That simply means that this child has come into [[existence]] as a young soul who is immature and needs a much firmer hand in the [[discipline]], and the discipline of [[learning]] the helpful and [[supportive]] [[behaviors]] that will assist them in adulthood, getting along with their [[peers]] and their [[communities]].  

MONJORONSON:  The most effective practices of [[discipline]] with children are those disciplines which assist the child in making [[choices]]—[[ethical]], [[social]], [[moral]] choices.  The most [[powerfully]] destructive are those which teach the child to be destructive, to be harmful, to see that [[power]] and [[force]] are the way of adulthood.  This is most detrimental to the [[thinking]] of the individual, whether or not they [[act]] out this [[violence]] in their adulthood.  [[Effective]] [[discipline]] leads the child into effective adulthood; effectively assists them in making [[good]] [[decisions]].  Effective discipline is such that it is a point in time where the child becomes aware of having made a wrong choice.  How the [[parent]] engages that [[practice]] of [[discipline]] is a matter of [[maturity]] on the part of the [[parent]] themselves.  Parents who have raised more than one child know that oftentimes children come into life with a predisposed [[temperament]] which may be completely at odds with the [[family]]’s [[Lifestyle|way of living]], their [[values]] and their [[beliefs]] and their social [[behaviors]].  That simply means that this child has come into [[existence]] as a young soul who is immature and needs a much firmer hand in the [[discipline]], and the discipline of [[learning]] the helpful and [[supportive]] [[behaviors]] that will assist them in adulthood, getting along with their [[peers]] and their [[communities]].  

   

   

Some children seem to raise themselves and require little effort to [[guide]] them along the way.  [[Discipline]] may be as simple as taking the child aside, sitting them in a chair, looking at them, holding their hands and helping them [[interpret]] what they had done, and assisting them in making right decisions.  Too often, the child is belittled, may be punished [[physically]], and may be embarrassed socially.  These truly are harshly punitive and [[unnecessary]].  When children have [[privileges]], it gives the parent a [[leverage]] to discipline the child by withholding those privileges.  At no time should privileges or any form of punishment be engaged without explaining thoroughly to the child what they have done, what was wrong about it and what is correct in the [[future]].  And, further, at no time should the parent engage in [[discipline]] when they are [[reacting]] to the child’s [[behavior]].  [[Emotional]] reaction by the [[parent]] is harmful, is detrimental and ingrains a [[model]] for [[discipline]] of the child in the [[future]], when they have their own children, which is detrimental then to the grandchildren.  

Some children seem to raise themselves and require little effort to [[guide]] them along the way.  [[Discipline]] may be as simple as taking the child aside, sitting them in a chair, looking at them, holding their hands and helping them [[interpret]] what they had done, and assisting them in making right decisions.  Too often, the child is belittled, may be punished [[physically]], and may be embarrassed socially.  These truly are harshly punitive and unnecessary.  When children have [[privileges]], it gives the parent a [[leverage]] to discipline the child by withholding those privileges.  At no time should privileges or any form of punishment be engaged without explaining thoroughly to the child what they have done, what was wrong about it and what is correct in the [[future]].  And, further, at no time should the parent engage in [[discipline]] when they are [[reacting]] to the child’s [[behavior]].  [[Emotional]] reaction by the [[parent]] is harmful, is detrimental and ingrains a [[model]] for [[discipline]] of the child in the [[future]], when they have their own children, which is detrimental then to the grandchildren.  

   

   

Concerning the perpetuation of [[irrational]] and unproductive disciplines—it is important that they cease; it is important that new [[practices]] of [[discipline]] begin.  It may require that the [[parents]] learn from a parenting coach, or from a child [[psychologist]], or grandparents or other parents who have effectively raised children.  [[Professionals]] who have not raised children usually are only [[academic]] pros, [[professionals]] at giving [[advice]], rather than having known how to use that advice in their own [[family]] [[environment]].  You will see that discipline is…when you think of disciplining children, you think of giving instruction, you think of giving children a punitive time out or some withholding of privileges, and so on.  True [[discipline]] [[leads]] to a way of [[thinking]], a way of engaging your [[environment]] and your world in a productive [[manner]].  [[Self-discipline]] is a [[Art of Living|way of living life]], and knowing the rules and when to bend them and when not to.  When rules sometimes [[absolutely]] do not work, then you may have to throw them out.  Self-discipline and a disciplined life lead to a life of [[order]], a life of [[practice]], and not to the extent of being obsessive or compulsive, but to have the [[freedom]] to know when you to bend those rules, and when not to; and, know when your daily procedures of self-discipline [[work]] best, and when it is time to [[relax]] and let them go for a while.  Thank you.

Concerning the perpetuation of irrational and unproductive disciplines—it is important that they cease; it is important that new [[practices]] of [[discipline]] begin.  It may require that the [[parents]] learn from a parenting coach, or from a child [[psychologist]], or grandparents or other parents who have effectively raised children.  [[Professionals]] who have not raised children usually are only [[academic]] pros, [[professionals]] at giving [[advice]], rather than having known how to use that advice in their own [[family]] [[environment]].  You will see that discipline is…when you think of disciplining children, you think of giving instruction, you think of giving children a punitive time out or some withholding of privileges, and so on.  True [[discipline]] [[leads]] to a way of [[thinking]], a way of engaging your [[environment]] and your world in a productive [[manner]].  [[Self-discipline]] is a [[Art of Living|way of living life]], and knowing the rules and when to bend them and when not to.  When rules sometimes [[absolutely]] do not work, then you may have to throw them out.  Self-discipline and a disciplined life lead to a life of [[order]], a life of [[practice]], and not to the extent of being obsessive or compulsive, but to have the [[freedom]] to know when you to bend those rules, and when not to; and, know when your daily procedures of self-discipline [[work]] best, and when it is time to [[relax]] and let them go for a while.  Thank you.

 

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Vicki:  Monjoronson, I’m going to move on to a [[discussion]] on the [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Multiculturalism blended family].  First, I want to mention the [[fact]] that I am a part of a blended family, both in religious terms, and racial terms.  My husband and I created a blended [[family]].  I’m going to start with this question:  As [[future]] [[events]] unfold[http://nordan.daynal.org/wiki/index.php?title=Catastrophism], causing disruption to families, similar to what we’ve seen in [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Haiti Haiti], [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chile Chile], and maybe some other [[events]] that are soon to come, we can expect the [[possibility]] that there will be more [[orphans]], and that there will be more racially blended families.  Am I correct?  (That is correct.)  I’m guessing that this will have both a positive and a negative impact.  Could you speak to this?

Vicki:  Monjoronson, I’m going to move on to a [[discussion]] on the [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Multiculturalism blended family].  First, I want to mention the [[fact]] that I am a part of a blended family, both in religious terms, and racial terms.  My husband and I created a blended [[family]].  I’m going to start with this question:  As [[future]] [[events]] unfold[http://nordan.daynal.org/wiki/index.php?title=Catastrophism], causing disruption to families, similar to what we’ve seen in [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Haiti Haiti], [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chile Chile], and maybe some other [[events]] that are soon to come, we can expect the [[possibility]] that there will be more [[orphans]], and that there will be more racially blended families.  Am I correct?  (That is correct.)  I’m guessing that this will have both a positive and a negative impact.  Could you speak to this?