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==The Process of Healing==

==The Process of Healing==

1. While truth is simple, it must still be taught to those who have already lost their way in endless mazes of complexity. This is the great illusion. In its wake comes the inevitable belief that, to be safe, one must control the unknown. This strange belief relies on certain steps which never reach to consciousness. First, it is ushered in by the belief that there are forces to be overcome to be alive at all. And next, it seems as if these forces can be held at bay only by an inflated sense of self that holds in darkness what is truly felt, and seeks to raise illusions to the light.

1. While [[truth]] is [[simple]], it must still be taught to those who have already lost their way in endless [[mazes]] of [[complexity]]. This is the great [[illusion]]. In its wake comes the inevitable [[belief]] that, to be safe, one must [[control]] the [[unknown]]. This strange belief relies on certain [[steps]] which never reach to [[consciousness]]. First, it is ushered in by the belief that there are [[forces]] to be overcome to be alive at all. And next, it seems as if these forces can be held at bay only by an inflated sense of [[self]] that holds in [[darkness]] what is truly felt, and seeks to raise illusions to the [[light]].

2. Let us remember that the ones who come to us for help are bitterly afraid. What they believe will help can only harm; what they believe will harm alone can help. Progress becomes impossible until the patient is persuaded to reverse his twisted way of looking at the world; his twisted way of looking at himself. The truth is simple. Yet it must be taught to those who think it will endanger them. It must be taught to those who will attack because they feel endangered, and to those who need the lesson of defenselessness above all else, to show them what is strength.

2. Let us [[remember]] that the ones who come to us for help are bitterly [[afraid]]. What they [[believe]] will help can only harm; what they believe will harm alone can help. [[Progress]] becomes impossible until the patient is persuaded to [[reverse]] his twisted way of looking at the world; his twisted way of looking at himself. The [[truth]] is [[simple]]. Yet it must be taught to those who think it will endanger them. It must be taught to those who will [[attack]] because they feel endangered, and to those who need the lesson of [[defenselessness]] above all else, to show them what is [[strength]].

3. If this world were ideal, there could perhaps be ideal therapy. And yet it would be useless in an ideal state. We speak of ideal teaching in a world in which the perfect teacher could not long remain; the perfect psychotherapist is but a glimmer of a thought not yet conceived. But still we speak of what can yet be done in helping the insane within the bounds of the attainable.

3. If this world were [[ideal]], there could perhaps be ideal [[therapy]]. And yet it would be useless in an ideal state. We speak of ideal teaching in a world in which the [[perfect]] [[teacher]] could not long remain; the perfect psychotherapist is but a glimmer of a [[thought]] not yet conceived. But still we speak of what can yet be done in helping the [[insane]] within the bounds of the [[attainable]].

While they are sick, they can and must be helped. No more than that is asked of psychotherapy; no less than all he has to give is worthy of the therapist. For God Himself holds out his brother as his savior from the world.

While they are sick, they can and must be helped. No more than that is asked of [[psychotherapy]]; no less than all he has to give is [[worthy]] of the therapist. For God Himself holds out his brother as his savior from the world.

4. Healing is holy. Nothing in the world is holier than helping one who asks for help. And two come very close to God in this attempt, however limited, however lacking in sincerity.

4. [[Healing]] is holy. Nothing in the world is holier than helping one who asks for help. And [[two]] come very close to [[God]] in this attempt, however limited, however lacking in [[sincerity]].

Where two have joined for healing, God is there. And He has guaranteed that He will hear and answer them in truth. They can be sure that healing is a process He directs, because it is according to His Will. We have His Word to guide us, as we try to help our brothers. Let us not forget that we are helpless of ourselves, and lean upon a strength beyond our little scope for what to teach as well as what to learn.

Where two have joined for healing, God is there. And He has guaranteed that He will hear and answer them in [[truth]]. They can be sure that healing is a [[process]] He directs, because it is according to His Will. We have His Word to [[guide]] us, as we try to help our brothers. Let us not forget that we are helpless of ourselves, and lean upon a [[strength]] beyond our little scope for what to teach as well as what to learn.

5. A brother seeking aid can bring us gifts beyond the heights perceived in any dream. He offers us salvation, for he comes to us as Christ and Savior. What he asks is asked by God through him. And what we do for him becomes the gift we give to God. The sacred calling of God's holy Son for help in his perceived distress can be but answered by his Father. Yet He needs a voice through which to speak His holy Word; a hand to reach His Son and touch his heart. In such a process, who could not be healed? This holy interaction is the plan of God Himself, by which His Son is saved.

5. A brother seeking aid can bring us gifts beyond the heights [[perceived]] in any [[dream]]. He offers us [[salvation]], for he comes to us as [[Christ]] and Savior. What he asks is asked by God through him. And what we do for him [[becomes]] the gift we give to God. The sacred [[calling]] of God's holy Son for help in his [[perceived]] distress can be but answered by his Father. Yet He needs a [[voice]] through which to speak His holy Word; a hand to reach His Son and [[touch]] his [[heart]]. In such a [[process]], who could not be healed? This holy [[interaction]] is the plan of God Himself, by which His Son is saved.

6. For two have joined. And now God's promises are kept by Him. The limits laid on both the patient and the therapist will count as nothing, for the healing has begun. What they must start their Father will complete. For He has never asked for more than just the smallest willingness, the least advance, the tiniest of whispers of His Name. To ask for help, whatever form it takes, is but to call on Him. And He will send His Answer through the therapist who best can serve His Son in all his present needs. Perhaps the answer does not seem to be a gift from Heaven. It may even seem to be a worsening and not a help. Yet let the outcome not be judged by us.

6. For [[two]] have joined. And now God's [[promises]] are kept by Him. The [[limits]] laid on both the patient and the therapist will count as nothing, for the [[healing]] has begun. What they must start their Father will complete. For He has never asked for more than just the smallest willingness, the least advance, the tiniest of [[whispers]] of His Name. To ask for help, whatever form it takes, is but to call on Him. And He will send His [[Answer]] through the therapist who best can serve His Son in all his present needs. Perhaps the answer does not seem to be a gift from [[Heaven]]. It may even seem to be a worsening and not a help. Yet let the outcome not be judged by us.

7. Somewhere all gifts of God must be received. In time no effort can be made in vain. It is not our perfection that is asked in our attempts to heal. We are deceived already, if we think there is a need of healing. And the truth will come to us only through one who seems to share our dream of sickness. Let us help him to forgive himself for all the trespasses with which he would condemn himself without a cause. His healing is our own. And as we see the sinlessness in him come shining through the veil of guilt that shrouds the Son of God, we will behold in him the face of Christ, and understand that it is but our own.

7. Somewhere all gifts of God must be [[received]]. In [[time]] no [[effort]] can be made in vain. It is not our [[perfection]] that is asked in our attempts to [[heal]]. We are [[deceived]] already, if we think there is a need of healing. And the [[truth]] will come to us only through one who seems to [[share]] our dream of sickness. Let us help him to [[forgive]] himself for all the [[trespasses]] with which he would [[condemn]] himself without a [[cause]]. His healing is our own. And as we see the sinlessness in him come [[shining]] through the veil of [[guilt]] that shrouds the Son of God, we will behold in him the face of Christ, and [[understand]] that it is but our own.

 

There is no other way to seek His Son. There is no other way to find your [[Self]]. [[Holy]] is [[healing]], for the Son of God returns to [[Heaven]] through its kind [[embrace]]. For healing tells him, in the Voice for God, that all his sins have been [[forgiven]] him.

==The Definition of Healing==

==The Definition of Healing==

1. The process of psychotherapy, then, can be defined simply as forgiveness, for no healing can be anything else. The unforgiving are sick, believing they are unforgiven. The hanging-on to guilt, its hugging-close and sheltering, its loving protection and alert defense,–all this is but the grim refusal to forgive. "God may not enter here" the sick repeat, over and over, while they mourn their loss and yet rejoice in it. Healing occurs as a patient begins to hear the dirge he sings, and questions its validity. Until he hears it, he cannot understand that it is he who sings it to himself. To hear it is the first step in recovery. To question it must then become his choice.

1. The [[process]] of [[psychotherapy]], then, can be defined simply as [[forgiveness]], for no [[healing]] can be anything else. The unforgiving are sick, believing they are unforgiven. The hanging-on to [[guilt]], its hugging-close and sheltering, its loving protection and alert [[defense]],–all this is but the grim refusal to forgive. "God may not enter here" the sick repeat, over and over, while they [[mourn]] their loss and yet rejoice in it. Healing occurs as a patient begins to hear the [[dirge]] he sings, and [[questions]] its validity. Until he hears it, he cannot [[understand]] that it is he who sings it to himself. To hear it is the first [[step]] in recovery. To question it must then [[become]] his choice.

 

2. There is a tendency, and it is very strong, to hear this song of [[death]] only an instant, and then dismiss it uncorrected. These fleeting awarenesses represent the many [[opportunities]] given us literally "to [[change]] our tune." The sound of [[healing]] can be heard instead. But first the willingness to question the "[[truth]]" of the song of [[condemnation]] must arise. The strange [[distortions]] woven inextricably into the [[self]]-concept, itself but a pseudo-creation, make this ugly sound seem truly [[beautiful]]. "The [[rhythm]] of [[the universe]]," "the herald [[angel]]'s song," all these and more are heard instead of loud discordant shrieks.

2. There is a tendency, and it is very strong, to hear this song of death only an instant, and then dismiss it uncorrected. These fleeting awarenesses represent the many opportunities given us literally "to change our tune." The sound of healing can be heard instead. But first the willingness to question the "truth" of the song of condemnation must arise. The strange distortions woven inextricably into the self-concept, itself but a pseudo-creation, make this ugly sound seem truly beautiful. "The rhythm of the universe," "the herald angel's song," all these and more are heard instead of loud discordant shrieks.

3. The ear [[translates]]; it does not hear. The eye reproduces; it does not see. Their task is to make agreeable whatever is called on, however disagreeable it may be. They answer the [[decisions]] of [[the mind]], reproducing its [[desires]] and translating them into acceptable and pleasant [[forms]]. Sometimes the [[thought]] behind the [[form]] breaks through, but only very briefly, and the [[mind]] grows fearful and begins to [[doubt]] its [[sanity]]. Yet it will not permit its [[slaves]] to change the forms they look upon; the sounds they hear. These are its "remedies"; its "safeguards" from [[insanity]].

3. The ear translates; it does not hear. The eye reproduces; it does not see. Their task is to make agreeable whatever is called on, however disagreeable it may be. They answer the decisions of the mind, reproducing its desires and translating them into acceptable and pleasant forms. Sometimes the thought behind the form breaks through, but only very briefly, and the mind grows fearful and begins to doubt its sanity. Yet it will not permit its slaves to change the forms they look upon; the sounds they hear. These are its "remedies"; its "safeguards" from insanity.

4. These [[testimonies]] which the [[senses]] bring have but one [[purpose]]; to justify [[attack]] and thus keep unforgiveness unrecognized for what it is. Seen undisguised it is intolerable. Without protection it could not [[endure]]. Here is all sickness cherished, but without the [[recognition]] that

this is so. For when an unforgiveness is not recognized, the form it takes seems to be something else. And now it is the "something else" that seems to [[terrify]]. But it is not the "something else" that can be [[healed]]. It is not sick, and needs no remedy. To concentrate your healing efforts here is but futility. Who can cure what cannot be sick and make it well?

4. These testimonies which the senses bring have but one purpose; to justify attack and thus keep unforgiveness unrecognized for what it is. Seen undisguised it is intolerable. Without protection it could not endure. Here is all sickness cherished, but without the recognition that

5. Sickness takes many forms, and so does unforgiveness. The forms of one but reproduce the forms of the other, for they are the same [[illusion]]. So closely is one translated into the other, that a careful study of the form a sickness takes will point quite clearly to the form of unforgiveness that it represents. Yet seeing this will not effect a cure. That is [[achieved]] by only one [[recognition]]; that only [[forgiveness]] heals an unforgiveness, and only an unforgiveness can possibly give rise to sickness of any kind.

this is so. For when an unforgiveness is not recognized, the form it takes seems to be something else. And now it is the "something else" that seems to terrify. But it is not the "something else" that can be healed. It is not sick, and needs no remedy. To concentrate your healing efforts here is but futility. Who can cure what cannot be sick and make it well?

5. Sickness takes many forms, and so does unforgiveness. The forms of one but reproduce the forms of the other, for they are the same illusion. So closely is one translated into the other, that a careful study of the form a sickness takes will point quite clearly to the form of unforgiveness that it represents. Yet seeing this will not effect a cure. That is achieved by only one recognition; that only forgiveness heals an unforgiveness, and only an unforgiveness can possibly give rise to sickness of any kind.

6. This realization is the final [[goal]] of [[psychotherapy]]. How is it reached? The therapist sees in the patient all that he has not forgiven in himself, and is thus given another [[chance]] to look at it, open it to re-[[evaluation]] and forgive it. When this occurs, he sees his [[sins]] as gone into a past that is no longer here. Until he does this, he must think of [[evil]] as besetting him here and now.

The patient is his screen for the [[projection]] of his sins, enabling him to let them go. Let him retain one spot of sin in what he looks upon, and his release is partial and will not be sure.

6. This realization is the final goal of psychotherapy. How is it reached? The therapist sees in the patient all that he has not forgiven in himself, and is thus given another chance to look at it, open it to re-evaluation and forgive it. When this occurs, he sees his sins as gone into a past that is no longer here. Until he does this, he must think of evil as besetting him here and now.

7. No one is [[healed]] alone. This is the [[joyous]] song [[salvation]] sings to all who hear its [[Voice]]. This statement cannot be too often remembered by all who see themselves as therapists. Their patients can but be seen as the bringers of [[forgiveness]], for it is they who come to demonstrate their sinlessness to eyes that still [[believe]] that sin is there to look upon. Yet will the [[proof]] of sinlessness, seen in the patient and [[accepted]] in the therapist, offer [[the mind]] of both a [[covenant]] in which they meet and join and are as one.

The patient is his screen for the projection of his sins, enabling him to let them go. Let him retain one spot of sin in what he looks upon, and his release is partial and will not be sure.

==The Ideal Patient : Therapist Relationship==

==The Ideal Patient : Therapist Relationship==

1. Who, then, is the therapist, and who is the patient? In the end, everyone is both. He who needs healing must heal. Physician, heal thyself. Who else is there to heal? And who else is in need of healing? Each patient who comes to a therapist offers him a chance to heal himself. He is therefore his therapist. And every therapist must learn to heal from each patient who comes to him. He thus becomes his patient. God does not know of separation. What He knows is only that He has one Son. His knowledge is reflected in the ideal patient-therapist relationship. God comes to him who calls, and in Him he recognizes Himself.

1. Who, then, is the therapist, and who is the patient? In the end, everyone is both. He who needs [[healing]] must heal. [[Physician]], heal thyself. Who else is there to heal? And who else is in need of healing? Each patient who comes to a therapist offers him a [[chance]] to heal himself. He is therefore his therapist. And every therapist must learn to heal from each patient who comes to him. He thus [[becomes]] his patient. God does not know of [[separation]]. What He knows is only that He has one Son. His [[knowledge]] is [[reflected]] in the [[ideal]] patient-therapist relationship. God comes to him who calls, and in Him he [[recognizes]] Himself.

2. Think carefully, teacher and therapist, for whom you pray, and who is in need of healing. For therapy is prayer, and healing is its aim and its result. What is prayer except the joining of minds in a relationship which Christ can enter? This is His home, into which psychotherapy invites Him. What is symptom cure, when another is always there to choose? But once Christ enters in, what choice is there except to have Him stay? There is no need for more than this, for it is everything. Healing is here, and happiness and peace. These are the "symptoms" of the ideal patient-therapist relationship, replacing those with which the patient came to ask for help.

2. [[Think]] carefully, teacher and therapist, for whom you [[pray]], and who is in need of [[healing]]. For [[therapy]] is prayer, and healing is its aim and its result. What is prayer except the joining of [[minds]] in a relationship which [[Christ]] can enter? This is His [[home]], into which psychotherapy invites Him. What is [[symptom]] cure, when another is always there to [[choose]]? But once Christ enters in, what choice is there except to have Him stay? There is no need for more than this, for it is [[everything]]. Healing is here, and [[happiness]] and [[peace]]. These are the "symptoms" of the ideal patient-therapist relationship, replacing those with which the patient came to ask for help.

3. The process that takes place in this relationship is actually one in which the therapist in his heart tells the patient that all his sins have been forgiven him, along with his own. What could be the difference between healing and forgiveness? Only Christ forgives, knowing His sinlessness. His vision heals perception and sickness disappears. Nor will it return again, once its cause has been removed. This, however, needs the help of a very advanced therapist, capable of joining with the patient in a holy relationship in which all sense of separation finally is overcome.

3. The [[process]] that takes place in this [[relationship]] is actually one in which the therapist in his [[heart]] tells the patient that all his sins have been [[forgiven]] him, along with his own. What could be the [[difference]] between healing and [[forgiveness]]? Only Christ forgives, knowing His sinlessness. His [[vision]] heals [[perception]] and sickness disappears. Nor will it return again, once its cause has been removed. This, however, needs the help of a very advanced therapist, capable of joining with the patient in a [[holy relationship]] in which all sense of separation finally is overcome.

4. For this, one thing and one thing only is required: The therapist in no way confuses himself with God. All "unhealed healers" make this fundamental confusion in one form or another, because they must regard themselves as self-created rather than God-created. This confusion is rarely if ever in awareness, or the unhealed healer would instantly become a teacher of God, devoting his life to the function of true healing. Before he reached this point, he thought he was in charge of the therapeutic process and was therefore responsible for its outcome. His patient's errors thus became his own failures, and guilt became the cover, dark and strong, for what should be the Holiness of Christ. Guilt is inevitable in those who use their judgment in making their decisions. Guilt is impossible in those through whom the Holy Spirit speaks.

4. For this, one thing and one thing only is required: The therapist in no way [[confuses]] himself with God. All "unhealed healers" make this fundamental [[confusion]] in one form or another, because they must regard themselves as [[self]]-created rather than [[God]]-created. This confusion is rarely if ever in [[awareness]], or the unhealed healer would instantly [[become]] a [[teacher of God]], devoting his life to the [[function]] of true healing. Before he reached this point, he thought he was in charge of the therapeutic [[process]] and was therefore responsible for its outcome. His patient's [[errors]] thus became his own [[failures]], and guilt became the cover, dark and strong, for what should be the Holiness of [[Christ]]. [[Guilt]] is inevitable in those who use their [[judgment]] in making their [[decisions]]. Guilt is impossible in those through whom the [[Holy Spirit]] speaks.

5. The passing of guilt is the true aim of therapy and the obvious aim of forgiveness. In this their oneness can be clearly seen. Yet who could experience the end of guilt who feels responsible for his brother in the role of guide for him? Such a function presupposes a knowledge that no one here can have; a certainty of past, present and future, and of all the effects that may occur in them. Only from this omniscient point of view would such a role be possible.

5. The passing of guilt is the true aim of [[therapy]] and the obvious aim of [[forgiveness]]. In this their oneness can be clearly seen. Yet who could [[experience]] the end of guilt who feels [[responsible]] for his brother in the role of [[guide]] for him? Such a function presupposes a knowledge that no one here can have; a [[certainty]] of past, present and future, and of all the [[effects]] that may occur in them. Only from this [[omniscient]] [[point of view]] would such a role be possible.

Yet no perception is omniscient, nor is the tiny self of one alone against the universe able to assume he has such wisdom except in madness. That many therapists are mad is obvious. No unhealed healer can be wholly sane.

Yet no [[perception]] is omniscient, nor is the tiny self of one alone against [[the universe]] able to assume he has such [[wisdom]] except in madness. That many therapists are mad is obvious. No unhealed healer can be wholly sane.

6. Yet it is as insane not to accept a function God has given you as to invent one He has not. The advanced therapist in no way can ever doubt the power that is in him. Nor does he doubt its Source. He understands all power in earth and Heaven belongs to him because of who he is.

6. Yet it is as [[insane]] not to [[accept]] a function God has given you as to [[invent]] one He has not. The advanced therapist in no way can ever [[doubt]] the [[power]] that is in him. Nor does he doubt its [[Source]]. He [[understands]] all power in earth and [[Heaven]] belongs to him because of who he is.

And he is this because of his Creator, Whose Love is in him and Who cannot fail. Think what this means; he has the gifts of God Himself to give away. His patients are God's saints, who call upon his sanctity to make it theirs. And as he gives it to them, they behold Christ's shining face as it looks back at them.

And he is this because of his [[Creator]], [[Love of God|Whose Love]] is in him and Who cannot fail. Think what this means; he has the gifts of God Himself to give away. His patients are God's saints, who call upon his [[sanctity]] to make it theirs. And as he gives it to them, they behold Christ's [[shining]] face as it looks back at them.

7. The insane, thinking they are God, are not afraid to offer weakness to God's Son. But what they see in him because of this they fear indeed. The unhealed healer cannot but be fearful of his patients, and suspect them of the treachery he sees in him. He tries to heal, and thus at times he may. But he will not succeed except to some extent and for a little while. He does not see the Christ in him who calls. What answer can he give to one who seems to be a stranger; alien to the truth and poor in wisdom, without the god who must be given him? Behold your God in him, for what you see will be your Answer.

7. The insane, [[thinking]] they are God, are not [[afraid]] to offer [[weakness]] to God's Son. But what they see in him because of this they [[fear]] indeed. The unhealed healer cannot but be fearful of his patients, and [[suspect]] them of the [[treachery]] he sees in him. He tries to heal, and thus at times he may. But he will not succeed except to some extent and for a little while. He does not see the Christ in him who calls. What answer can he give to one who seems to be a [[stranger]]; alien to the [[truth]] and [[poor]] in [[wisdom]], without the god who must be given him? Behold your God in him, for what you see will be your Answer.

8. Think what the joining of two brothers really means. And then forget the world and all its little triumphs and its dreams of death. The same are one, and nothing now can be remembered of the world of guilt. The room becomes a temple, and the street a stream of stars

8. Think what the joining of two brothers really means. And then [[forget]] the world and all its little [[triumphs]] and its [[dreams]] of [[death]]. The same are one, and nothing now can be remembered of the world of [[guilt]]. The room becomes a [[temple]], and the street a stream of [[stars]]

that brushes lightly past all sickly dreams. Healing is done, for what is perfect needs no healing, and what remains to be forgiven where there is no sin?

that brushes lightly past all sickly dreams. [[Healing]] is done, for what is perfect needs no healing, and what remains to be [[forgiven]] where there is no sin?

9. Be thankful, therapist, that you can see such things as this, if you but understand your proper role. But if you fail in this, you have denied that God created you, and so you will not know you are His Son. Who is your brother now? What saint can come to take you home with him? You lost the way. And can you now expect to see in him an answer that you have refused to give? Heal and be healed. There is no other choice of pathways that can ever lead to peace.

9. Be thankful, therapist, that you can see such things as this, if you but [[understand]] your proper role. But if you fail in this, you have denied that [[God]] created you, and so you will not know you are His Son. Who is your brother now? What saint can come to take you home with him? You lost the way. And can you now [[expect]] to see in him an answer that you have refused to give? Heal and be healed. There is no other [[choice]] of [[pathways]] that can ever lead to [[peace]].

O let your patient in, for he has come to you from God. Is not his holiness enough to wake your memory of Him?[http://nordan.daynal.org/wiki/index.php?title=Psychotherapy:_Purpose,_Process,_and_Practice#The_Process_of_Psychotherapy-Introduction]

O let your patient in, for he has come to you from God. Is not his [[holiness]] enough to wake your [[memory]] of Him?

[https://nordan.daynal.org/wiki/index.php?title=Psychotherapy:_Purpose,_Process,_and_Practice#The_Process_of_Psychotherapy-Introduction]

==See also==

==See also==

[[Category: Psychology]]

[[Category: Psychology]]