2002-10-07-Self Esteem

Session

Opening

Machiventa: "We are talking about self-esteem today.

"We enter into this discussion because I notice so many making such serious mistakes by virtue of their having such a low sense of worth and a lack of self-respect. The key word here is expectancy.

Lesson

"Of great importance is how you expect people to treat you, and also how you treat others, but most vital is this in a partnership, and in a work relationship. At times, it is easy to put all the blame for an unsuccessful relationship upon yourself entirely, when in truth you may be "giving", and the other person may be "taking" to a large extent.

"All good relationships are balanced give and take situations. And if one is doing most of the giving, the other most of the taking, one will soon tire of that, and begin running away from that association. Soon there may well be a lack of realization about with whom of the partners the problem originated.

"If realized in time that a relationship is not giving the satisfaction it should award, it is fitting to establish negotiations with the other party in order to correct what is going wrong. The most sinister aspect of a relationship or involvement that is unrewarding and deteriorating is how one can slowly lose one's self-esteem and how this will then reflect on one's approach to all other associations. All other relationships become more difficult to evaluate, and even harder to balance.

"Your most important relationship is the one you have with your God, and you may well have been brought up to mistakenly understand that God is going to turn away from you if you are not good enough for Him, or if you commit a sin. The concept of an ever-loving Father is so easy to logically accept -- that of a vengeful Creator Parent so difficult to erase from the human psyche. He sent us his Son, Michael (Jesus), as an example of how to live our lives. And Michael too, was at times apprehensive about how His life was progressing. He needed comforting words from the Father at those times, and the Father was there for Him, proud of His Son, as He is proud of each of you.

"When your relationship with another person is in trouble, talk with the Father about it. Bring your concerns to the Father, no matter how small these concerns may seem, for He is there, ready to assist, and so is Michael.

"Expect love and care in your personal relationships, and know that these relationships -- positive or negative -- may perhaps in time come to reflect on how you will perceive and conduct your interactions with the Father and with Michael.

Closing

"Be aware of the actions of the other party and be aware of your own actions and reactions. The building up of your self-esteem begins with you, and your judging yourself fairly. I will leave you with these thoughts. I send my love and care.

"I am Machiventa."