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| Greetings, children and [[friends]], I am Ham and I welcome you all tonight. You are all welcome to my [[heart]] always and forever. | | Greetings, children and [[friends]], I am Ham and I welcome you all tonight. You are all welcome to my [[heart]] always and forever. |
| ===Lesson=== | | ===Lesson=== |
− | ===='''''[[Deception]]''''', '''''[[Perfection]]'''''==== | + | ===='''''[[Anxiety]]''''', '''''[[Perfection]]'''''==== |
| Tonight, I wish to address [[anxiety]] and your coping [[mechanisms]] with it. Many feel anxious concerning the [[perception]] that others have of them, especially specific people, often [[family]] members. | | Tonight, I wish to address [[anxiety]] and your coping [[mechanisms]] with it. Many feel anxious concerning the [[perception]] that others have of them, especially specific people, often [[family]] members. |
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| You want [[perfection]] in all your dealings from the waitress that brings your breakfast to the mechanic who fixes your car to your [[political]] [[leadership]], you want them all to be [[experts]]. You don't want them to display any hint of not knowing or inefficiency. And this [[intolerance]] stems from having to hold up this [[facade]] yourselves all the time. | | You want [[perfection]] in all your dealings from the waitress that brings your breakfast to the mechanic who fixes your car to your [[political]] [[leadership]], you want them all to be [[experts]]. You don't want them to display any hint of not knowing or inefficiency. And this [[intolerance]] stems from having to hold up this [[facade]] yourselves all the time. |
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− | This societal intolerance and shading of the [[truth]] is a recipe for [[ultimate]] [[disaster]]. Individually, it leads to [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heart_Attack heart attacks], strokes, [[depression]], mental illness, and so on. As [[nations]], it leads to intolerance of [[weakness]] of the unfortunate and between nations it leads to [[Violence|armed conflicts]] as everyone wants to see their side as white and the other side as black. You all want to be [[assured]] of your rightness, your [[innocence]], that you were certainly right to lose your temper over the dry cleaner losing a shirt or something. | + | This societal intolerance and shading of the [[truth]] is a recipe for [[ultimate]] [[disaster]]. Individually, it leads to [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heart_Attack heart attacks], strokes, [[depression]], mental illness, and so on. As [[nations]], it leads to intolerance of [[weakness]] of the unfortunate and between nations it leads to [[Violence|armed conflicts]] as everyone wants to see their side as white and the other side as black. You all want to be [[assured]] of your rightness, your [[innocence]], that you were certainly right to lose your temper over the dry cleaner losing a shirt or something. |
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| This [[society]] is taking a cardboard [[perfectionism]] to [[extremes]]. In part, it is said to be due to the congestion of people, [[the masses]] of people living in close proximity, that little things tend to cause greater perturbations. But, I contend that it is the strain of keeping up [[appearances]], the strain of maintaining this cardboard [[perfection]] in yourselves, that causes you to jump on others for their slips because you are [[afraid]] of your slipping. When we speak of [[tolerance]] as a [[fruit of the spirit]], we are speaking of it extending to your whole, entire [[life]]. We are speaking of you tolerating yourself to the point that you can tolerate others and tolerate others seeing your imperfections and it is this that decreases [[anxiety]]. If you can allow others to see your [[faults]], to see your [[fears]], then you can easily, very easily, tolerate seeing fears in others and imperfections in others. | | This [[society]] is taking a cardboard [[perfectionism]] to [[extremes]]. In part, it is said to be due to the congestion of people, [[the masses]] of people living in close proximity, that little things tend to cause greater perturbations. But, I contend that it is the strain of keeping up [[appearances]], the strain of maintaining this cardboard [[perfection]] in yourselves, that causes you to jump on others for their slips because you are [[afraid]] of your slipping. When we speak of [[tolerance]] as a [[fruit of the spirit]], we are speaking of it extending to your whole, entire [[life]]. We are speaking of you tolerating yourself to the point that you can tolerate others and tolerate others seeing your imperfections and it is this that decreases [[anxiety]]. If you can allow others to see your [[faults]], to see your [[fears]], then you can easily, very easily, tolerate seeing fears in others and imperfections in others. |
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| You are all in places in your [[careers]] where this is very [[difficult]], but it is not impossible. It is the equivalent of letting down a piece of cardboard, you will still be standing, you won't disappear. Is this making sense to you? | | You are all in places in your [[careers]] where this is very [[difficult]], but it is not impossible. It is the equivalent of letting down a piece of cardboard, you will still be standing, you won't disappear. Is this making sense to you? |
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| ===Dialogue=== | | ===Dialogue=== |
| Q: Yes. | | Q: Yes. |
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| Ham: That is where it starts, but it's not always [[unconscious]] or repressed [[memories]] that trigger these things. | | Ham: That is where it starts, but it's not always [[unconscious]] or repressed [[memories]] that trigger these things. |
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− | Q: Did you have any [[insights]] into when two intolerant [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Perfectionism_%28psychology%29 perfectionists] butt heads. | + | Q: Did you have any [[insights]] into when two intolerant [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Perfectionism_%28psychology%29 perfectionists] butt heads. |
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| Ham: [[Humor]], humor will save many situations. Because, humor can make you see the [[absurdity]] of the situation. | | Ham: [[Humor]], humor will save many situations. Because, humor can make you see the [[absurdity]] of the situation. |
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| [[Category: Ham]] | | [[Category: Ham]] |
| [[Category: Rebecca]] | | [[Category: Rebecca]] |
− | [[Category: Deception]] | + | [[Category: Anxiety]] |
| [[Category: Perfection]] | | [[Category: Perfection]] |
| [[Category: Ego]] | | [[Category: Ego]] |
| [[Category: Acceptance]] | | [[Category: Acceptance]] |
| [[Category: 1996]] | | [[Category: 1996]] |