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83:2.1 [[Primitive]] marriages were always [[planned]] by the [[parents]] of the boy and girl. The [[transition]] [[stage]] between this [[custom]] and the times of [[free]] [[choosing]] was occupied by the marriage [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Broker broker] or [[professional]] [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matchmaking matchmaker]. These matchmakers were at first the [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Barber barbers]; later, the [[priests]]. Marriage was originally a [[group]] affair; then a [[family]] matter; only recently has it become an [[individual]] [[adventure]].

83:2.1 [[Primitive]] marriages were always [[planned]] by the [[parents]] of the boy and girl. The [[transition]] [[stage]] between this [[custom]] and the times of [[free]] [[choosing]] was occupied by the marriage [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Broker broker] or [[professional]] [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matchmaking matchmaker]. These matchmakers were at first the [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Barber barbers]; later, the [[priests]]. Marriage was originally a [[group]] affair; then a [[family]] matter; only recently has it become an [[individual]] [[adventure]].

83:2.2 [[Coercion]], not [[attraction]], was the approach to [[primitive]] marriage. In early times [[woman]] had no [[sex]] aloofness, only sex inferiority as inculcated by the [[mores]]. As [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Theft raiding] preceded [[trading]], so marriage by capture preceded marriage by [[contract]]. Some [[women]] would connive at capture in order to [[escape]] the [[domination]] of the older men of their [[tribe]]; they preferred to fall into the hands of men of their own age from another [[tribe]]. This pseudo [[elopement]] was the [[transition]] [[stage]] between capture by [[force]] and subsequent [[courtship]] by [[charming]].

83:2.2 [[Coercion]], not [[attraction]], was the approach to [[primitive]] marriage. In early times [[woman]] had no [[sex]] aloofness, only sex inferiority as inculcated by the [[mores]]. As [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Theft raiding] preceded [[trading]], so marriage by capture preceded marriage by [[contract]]. Some [[women]] would connive at capture in order to [[escape]] the [[domination]] of the older men of their [[tribe]]; they preferred to fall into the hands of men of their own age from another [[tribe]]. This pseudo [[elopement]] was the [[transition]] [[stage]] between capture by [[force]] and subsequent [[courtship]] by [[charming]].

83:2.3 An early type of [[wedding]] [[ceremony]] was the mimic flight, a sort of [[elopement]] [[rehearsal]] which was once a common [[practice]]. Later, mock capture became a part of the regular wedding [[ceremony]]. A [[modern]] girl's pretensions to resist "capture," to be reticent toward marriage, are all [[relics]] of olden [[customs]]. The carrying of the bride over the [[threshold]] is reminiscent of a [[number]] of [[ancient]] [[practices]], among others, of the days of [[wife]] [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Theft stealing].

83:2.3 An early type of [[wedding]] [[ceremony]] was the mimic flight, a sort of [[elopement]] [[rehearsal]] which was once a common [[practice]]. Later, mock capture became a part of the regular wedding [[ceremony]]. A [[modern]] girl's pretensions to resist "capture," to be reticent toward marriage, are all [[relics]] of olden [[customs]]. The carrying of the bride over the [[threshold]] is reminiscent of a [[number]] of [[ancient]] [[practices]], among others, of the days of [[wife]] [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Theft stealing].

83:2.4 [[Woman]] was long denied full [[freedom]] of self-disposal in marriage, but the more [[intelligent]] women have always been able to circumvent this restriction by the clever [[exercise]] of their wits. Man has usually taken the [[lead]] in [[courtship]], but not always. Woman sometimes [[formally]], as well as [[covertly]], [[initiates]] marriage. And as [[civilization]] has [[progressed]], women have had an increasing part in all [[phases]] of [[courtship]] and marriage.

83:2.4 [[Woman]] was long denied full [[freedom]] of self-disposal in marriage, but the more [[intelligent]] women have always been able to circumvent this restriction by the clever [[exercise]] of their wits. Man has usually taken the [[lead]] in [[courtship]], but not always. Woman sometimes [[formally]], as well as [[covertly]], [[initiates]] marriage. And as [[civilization]] has [[progressed]], women have had an increasing part in all [[phases]] of [[courtship]] and marriage.

83:2.5 Increasing [[love]], [[romance]], and [[personal]] selection in premarital courtship are an [http://nordan.daynal.org/wiki/index.php?title=Paper_78#78:4._THE_ANDITES Andite] [[contribution]] to the world races. The [[relations]] between the sexes are evolving favorably; many advancing peoples are [[gradually]] substituting somewhat [[idealized]] [[concepts]] of [[sex]] [[attraction]] for those older [[motives]] of utility and ownership. [[Sex]] impulse and [[feelings]] of [[affection]] are beginning to displace cold [[calculation]] in the [[choosing]] of life [[partners]].

83:2.5 Increasing [[love]], [[romance]], and [[personal]] selection in premarital courtship are an [https://nordan.daynal.org/wiki/index.php?title=Paper_78#78:4._THE_ANDITES Andite] [[contribution]] to the world races. The [[relations]] between the sexes are evolving favorably; many advancing peoples are [[gradually]] substituting somewhat [[idealized]] [[concepts]] of [[sex]] [[attraction]] for those older [[motives]] of utility and ownership. [[Sex]] impulse and [[feelings]] of [[affection]] are beginning to displace cold [[calculation]] in the [[choosing]] of life [[partners]].

83:2.6 The [[betrothal]] was originally [[equivalent]] to marriage; and among early peoples [[sex]] relations were [[conventional]] during the [[engagement]]. In recent times, [[religion]] has established a [[sex]] [[taboo]] on the period between [[betrothal]] and marriage.

83:2.6 The [[betrothal]] was originally [[equivalent]] to marriage; and among early peoples [[sex]] relations were [[conventional]] during the [[engagement]]. In recent times, [[religion]] has established a [[sex]] [[taboo]] on the period between [[betrothal]] and marriage.

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[[Category:Paper 83 - The Marriage Institution]]

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