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Betty: Well. there are always new things, new ailments. She goes to the [[doctor]] and she finds this wrong and that wrong with her. She’ll say she has prayed about this and then she would have a betterment of this ailment, but that doesn’t help because something else is wrong. It seems that this is her whole life, talking about it and [[complaining]]. I have said to her that Claire you should try really [[imaging]] [[healthy]] thoughts and see yourself as whole and when these [[negative]] thoughts enter in just turn them over to [[Jesus]], and use the mind of Jesus so that you are not [[burdened]] with this. She says that she does that, but this is not my [[experience]] with her. I guess she wants more out of the [[relationships]] than I am willing to give. I guess I feel [[guilty]] about that. . .I just don’t know.... I am going to take her down to San Diego to see her son for Thanksgiving because she doesn’t drive long distances. I [[feel]] that I am a good friend, but she is asking more than I am willing to give her, this calling me every night and complaining and [[complaining]]. I think I am doing a good job, but she wants more and more. I am [[afraid]] the more I give her the more she will demand.

Betty: Well. there are always new things, new ailments. She goes to the [[doctor]] and she finds this wrong and that wrong with her. She’ll say she has prayed about this and then she would have a betterment of this ailment, but that doesn’t help because something else is wrong. It seems that this is her whole life, talking about it and [[complaining]]. I have said to her that Claire you should try really [[imaging]] [[healthy]] thoughts and see yourself as whole and when these [[negative]] thoughts enter in just turn them over to [[Jesus]], and use the mind of Jesus so that you are not [[burdened]] with this. She says that she does that, but this is not my [[experience]] with her. I guess she wants more out of the [[relationships]] than I am willing to give. I guess I feel [[guilty]] about that. . .I just don’t know.... I am going to take her down to San Diego to see her son for Thanksgiving because she doesn’t drive long distances. I [[feel]] that I am a good friend, but she is asking more than I am willing to give her, this calling me every night and complaining and [[complaining]]. I think I am doing a good job, but she wants more and more. I am [[afraid]] the more I give her the more she will demand.

JarEl; If it is your [[desire]] to be of [[assistance]] to this one, we must remember that [[sacrifice]] is sometimes [[necessary]]. We have to give unselfishly of ourselves to aid another. This one appears to have the tendency of [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypochondria hypochondria]. These [[diseases]] are not being [[manifest]] in her physical environment they are more in the realm of the [[mind]], compensation for her loss, as part of the loss, the [[grieving]] [[process]].

JarEl; If it is your [[desire]] to be of [[assistance]] to this one, we must remember that [[sacrifice]] is sometimes [[necessary]]. We have to give unselfishly of ourselves to aid another. This one appears to have the tendency of [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypochondria hypochondria]. These [[diseases]] are not being [[manifest]] in her physical environment they are more in the realm of the [[mind]], compensation for her loss, as part of the loss, the [[grieving]] [[process]].

Betty: But Jarel they are real. They found a pinched nerve in her spine that she has been [[complaining]] about these [[pains]] in her legs. They found a [[growth]] in her neck and feel that it may be malignant, so apparently they are real. I don't know if she is [[manifesting]] these by her [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypochondria hypochondria], but she does have physical [[problems]] that the [[doctors]] find things wrong with her.

Betty: But Jarel they are real. They found a pinched nerve in her spine that she has been [[complaining]] about these [[pains]] in her legs. They found a [[growth]] in her neck and feel that it may be malignant, so apparently they are real. I don't know if she is [[manifesting]] these by her [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypochondria hypochondria], but she does have physical [[problems]] that the [[doctors]] find things wrong with her.

JarEl: This is very [[tragic]].... Speak to her [[heart]]... [[Express]] your true concerns with love. [[Share]] with her your fear concerning your relationship and allow here to gracefully back away from so much contact. Allow yourself room to [[breathe]], to grow, to regroup. Then [[proceed]] again in [[friendship]], to assist where you can. Do not attempt to handle all of her affairs, but remind her that you can [[assist]] in some thing’s, as your schedule and other [[obligations]] permit, but that all that you do is subject to prior commitments. This will help you.

JarEl: This is very [[tragic]].... Speak to her [[heart]]... [[Express]] your true concerns with love. [[Share]] with her your fear concerning your relationship and allow here to gracefully back away from so much contact. Allow yourself room to [[breathe]], to grow, to regroup. Then [[proceed]] again in [[friendship]], to assist where you can. Do not attempt to handle all of her affairs, but remind her that you can [[assist]] in some thing’s, as your schedule and other [[obligations]] permit, but that all that you do is subject to prior commitments. This will help you.