Changes

==Session==

==Session==

===Opening===

===Opening===

Welmek: This morning I would like to continue with what we started in our prior session. We said that the purpose of life is to live, to learn and to love. Each of these can be talked about in combination. Last time many of you focused on learning to live and we discussed this. Today, I wish to focus learning to love. What does that mean? How has loved changed your life? How can others find the love they seek? Why is love something that must be learned? Need it be learned in all situations? As you can see, there are many facets to this question, but I will pause for now. Later after you have shared your ideas, I will share mine.

Welmek: This [[morning]] I would like to continue with what we started in [[1998-07-19-Learning To Love, Part 1|our prior session]]. We said that the [[purpose]] of [[life]] is to live, to [[learn]] and to [[love]]. Each of these can be talked about in combination. Last time many of you [[focused]] on learning to live and we [[discussed]] this. Today, I wish to focus learning to love. What does that mean? How has loved changed your life? How can others find the love they seek? Why is love something that must be [[learned]]? Need it be learned in all situations? As you can see, there are many [[facets]] to this question, but I will pause for now. Later after you have [[shared]] your [[ideas]], I will share mine.

(Comments from students)

(Comments from [[students]])

===Lesson===

===Lesson===

I sense the lessons grow more difficult. We search more deeply. We have talked before about the human nature. You are indwelt by a spirit of God, and yet you have your identity, your self, your ego. As you grow, you are taught to seek outwardly for all that you desire. You are taught to seek with your ego, through your outward search with other people, experiences….these are what will bring you happiness and joy. And so, when you are unhappy or not feeling joy or not feeling love, you seek outwardly. You seek satisfaction of values in other humans. It is well that you do that, but like so many things, when you seek these things from other humans, you must be prepared to realize that it may not be exactly what you hoped for; it may not last as long as you hoped for. There may be difficulty in maintaining and sustaining relationships, as all of you know.

I sense the lessons grow more [[difficult]]. We search more deeply. We have talked before about the [[human]] [[nature]]. You are [[Ta|indwelt by a spirit of God]], and yet you have your [[identity]], your [[self]], your [[ego]]. As you [[grow]], you are taught to seek outwardly for all that you [[desire]]. You are taught to seek with your ego, through your outward search with other people, [[experiences]]….these are what will bring you [[happiness]] and [[joy]]. And so, when you are unhappy or not [[feeling]] [[joy]] or not feeling [[love]], you seek outwardly. You seek [[satisfaction]] of [[values]] in other humans. It is well that you do that, but like so many things, when you seek these things from other humans, you must be [[prepared]] to realize that it may not be exactly what you [[hoped]] for; it may not last as long as you hoped for. There may be [[difficulty]] in maintaining and sustaining [[relationships]], as all of you know.

Is not all that you have learned been an attempt to teach you one real truth? The one real truth is that the source of what you seek lies within. Yet no matter how many times we say it, you are so trained, you are so conditioned, you are so used to working through your ego that you still seek all of these things in the outer world. It takes time, it takes experience. For no matter how many times I might say it, until you are willing to try it, you will not know if my words are true. If you take the time to seek love, the real source of love which comes from God; if you take the time to seek this that comes from within, I say to you without hesitation, in all sincerity, in all honesty in every fiber, every atom, every element that fills my being, you will find what you seek.

Is not all that you have learned been an attempt to teach you one real [[truth]]? The one real truth is that [[the source]] of what you seek lies within. Yet no matter how many times we say it, you are so [[trained]], you are so conditioned, you are so used to working through your [[ego]] that you still seek all of these things in the outer world. It takes time, it takes [[experience]]. For no matter how many times I might say it, until you are willing to try it, you will not know if my [[words]] are true. If you take the time to seek [[love]], the real source of love which comes from [[God]]; if you take the time to seek this that comes from within, I say to you without [[hesitation]], in all [[sincerity]], in all [[honesty]] in every fiber, every [[atom]], every element that fills my [[being]], you will find what you seek.

The great source of love is within. That source of love will never fail you, it will never change, it will never be fickle, it is always there for you. It is a difficult experience in life to feel unloved, and you see how your brothers and sisters and yourselves react to a sense of being unloved. Humans will endure abuse and mistreatment if they at least feel or have some connection with a feeling of love from another person. The need is strong. The need was not put there to torture you or confuse you. It was put there so you could taste the real source of love. The difficulty is in finding the right direction. When you take the time to seek love from God, you will find it. It will grow within you, it will well up within you. Every atom of your body in time will be saturated with this love of God. Once you have that feeling, loving others and having others love you is really quite easy, because you have freed yourself from all of the bonds. You can love others, but if they do not love you in return, so be it because you still have the love within you.

The great [[source]] of [[love]] is within. That source of love will never fail you, it will never [[change]], it will never be fickle, it is always there for you. It is a difficult [[experience]] in life to feel unloved, and you see how your brothers and sisters and yourselves [[react]] to a sense of being unloved. Humans will [[endure]] [[abuse]] and mistreatment if they at least feel or have some [[connection]] with a [[feeling]] of [[love]] from another person. The need is strong. The need was not put there to [[torture]] you or [[confuse]] you. It was put there so you could [[taste]] the real [[source]] of [[love]]. The difficulty is in finding the right [[direction]]. When you take the time to seek love from [[God]], you will find it. It will [[grow]] within you, it will well up within you. Every [[atom]] of your body in time will be [[saturated]] with this love of God. Once you have that [[feeling]], loving others and having others love you is really quite easy, because you have freed yourself from all of the bonds. You can [[love]] others, but if they do not love you in return, so be it because you still have the love within you.

If others love you, but you do not feel the same for them, you do not feel badly because you now realize they could also find this great source of love within them if they try. Love has no ties, it has no bonds, it is free. It should be given freely, it should be received freely. But when love comes from your sense of what love is, from your ego (and by ego I mean the accumulation of experiences and ideas, your own thinking and its limitations) you put these ties, you put these bonds and attach them to it, and then when they are broken or become frayed, then you feel love has not found you or you have not found love. Release this thinking, find the true source of love and you will find that all of your relationships will improve. Someone earlier mentioned acceptance. When you have expectations of others and they do not meet these expectations, you grow frustrated, disappointed, perhaps even resentful. But if you already are in love then these relationships are free from these expectations. For you look at others realizing they need the same source of love that you have. Your goal is to help them find it. You know if they find it, then if they can walk each day in love, and your relationships with them will be free.

If others love you, but you do not [[feel]] the same for them, you do not feel badly because you now [[realize]] they could also find this great source of love within them if they try. [[Love]] has no ties, it has no bonds, it is [[free]]. It should be given freely, it should be received freely. But when love comes from your sense of what love is, from your [[ego]] (and by ego I mean the accumulation of [[experiences]] and [[ideas]], your own [[thinking]] and its [[limitations]]) you put these ties, you put these bonds and [[attach]] them to it, and then when they are broken or become frayed, then you feel love has not found you or you have not found love. Release this [[thinking]], find the true [[source]] of love and you will find that all of your [[relationships]] will improve. Someone earlier mentioned [[acceptance]]. When you have [[expectations]] of others and they do not meet these expectations, you grow [[frustrated]], [[disappointed]], perhaps even [[resentful]]. But if you already are in love then these relationships are [[free]] from these [[expectations]]. For you look at others realizing they need the same source of love that you have. Your [[goal]] is to help them find it. You know if they find it, then if they can walk each day in [[love]], and your [[relationships]] with them will be [[free]].

Many people say, “I would love if only someone would love me,” and they search for that human who will love them. And they decide if they will return that love. Well, if you find that God loves you, then you will find it is easy to love others. But if you do not feel the love from within, if you do not feel loved yourself, it is more difficult to love others. The more love you feel, the more loving you are. This is a difficult lesson for you think to yourself, “well, how can I feel this love, I’ve only felt it with others, and now you tell me that I can feel this love, this same feeling of love from God, this God, who is this God? Where is this God? How do I feel love from this God who is so far away? How can that be?” Well, you know from your text that a fragment, a spirit of God is within you. God is there with you.

Many people say, “I would love if only someone would [[love]] me,” and they search for that [[human]] who will love them. And they [[decide]] if they will return that love. Well, if you find that [[God]] loves you, then you will find it is easy to love others. But if you do not feel the [[love]] from within, if you do not feel loved yourself, it is more [[difficult]] to love others. The more love you feel, the more loving you are. This is a difficult lesson for you [[think]] to yourself, “well, how can I feel this love, I’ve only felt it with others, and now you tell me that I can feel this love, this same [[feeling]] of love from [[God]], this God, who is this God? Where is this God? How do I feel love from this God who is so far away? How can that be?” Well, you know from [[your text]] that a [[Ta|fragment, a spirit of God]] is within you. God is there with you.

Someone else mentioned God does not cut the love off, humans cut off the love. Very true. You cannot feel the love of God if you do not search for it and open yourself to it. How do you change, how do you begin this process? It begins with an idea or a concept. As long as your concept says it is not possible, then obviously, you will not find it. So you must open your mind first to say maybe it is possible to find this love that I seek from God. After your open your mind, you must open your heart. You must spend time with God. Ask God to feel the love, bask in the love. Feel the arms of God surround you. Feel the peace of God penetrate your very soul. You will feel it in time and it will grow, but you must give it a chance. You must let it grow. As it does, the feeling of loneliness, the feeling of being unloved, and crowded out will fade because it is being replaced by the feeling of love.

Someone else mentioned God does not cut the [[love]] off, [[humans]] cut off the love. Very true. You cannot [[feel]] the love of God if you do not search for it and open yourself to it. How do you [[change]], how do you begin this [[process]]? It begins with an [[idea]] or a [[concept]]. As long as your concept says it is not possible, then obviously, you will not find it. So you must open your [[mind]] first to say maybe it is possible to find this love that I seek from God. After your open your mind, you must open your [[heart]]. You must spend [[time]] with God. Ask God to feel the love, bask in the love. Feel the arms of God [[surround]] you. Feel the [[peace]] of God [[penetrate]] your very [[soul]]. You will feel it in time and it will [[grow]], but you must give it a [[chance]]. You must let it grow. As it does, the [[feeling]] of [[loneliness]], the feeling of being unloved, and crowded out will fade because it is being replaced by the feeling of love.

The Master did not have a woman to share in this love of marriage and yet he was filled with love for everyone he met. How could that be? Because he felt the love of God that filled his being. And when he walked in love every moment each day others were magnetically drawn to that power of that love. And he radiated that love to all who came to him. You may not grow, you may not develop to that level while you are on this world, but it is possible. All comes down my friends to a choice. To know whether my words are true, you must choose to experience them.

[[The Master]] did not have a [[woman]] to [[share]] in this love of [[marriage]] and yet he was filled with love for everyone he met. How could that be? Because he felt the [[love]] of God that filled his [[being]]. And when he walked in love every moment each day others were [[magnetically]] drawn to that power of that love. And he [[radiated]] that love to all who came to him. You may not [[grow]], you may not develop to that level while you are on [[this world]], but it is possible. All comes down my friends to a [[choice]]. To know whether my [[words]] are true, you must choose to [[experience]] them.

Some of your earlier spoke of the changes within you. The only way in which you could share those changes and speak truthfully that you have felt this love is because you sought it and you tried it. If you had not, your words would be empty as you spoke to others in this group. Others sense when words are empty, they sense when the words have experience and truth. Many of you crave to do the work of the kingdom. But, how can the work be done until there are workers, and how can the workers do what they need to do if they have not been trained? So now you learn, now you are in training. If you want to do the work of the kingdom, you must be a worker in the kingdom. To be a worker in the kingdom you must have experienced what we discuss here. It must be real, it must be a part of you. And until it is a part of you, then you can talk about the work but you cannot do the work. You need not be perfect, but you need to have tasted the love and you need to know what you say is real.

Some of your earlier spoke of the [[changes]] within you. The only way in which you could share those changes and speak [[truthfully]] that you have felt this love is because you sought it and you tried it. If you had not, your words would be empty as you spoke to others in this [[group]]. Others sense when words are empty, they sense when the words have [[experience]] and [[truth]]. Many of you crave to do the work of [[the kingdom]]. But, how can the work be done until there are workers, and how can the workers do what they need to do if they have not been [[trained]]? So now you learn, now you are in training. If you want to do the work of the kingdom, you must be a worker in the kingdom. To be a worker in the kingdom you must have [[experienced]] what we [[discuss]] here. It must be real, it must be a part of you. And until it is a part of you, then you can talk about the work but you cannot do the work. You need not be [[perfect]], but you need to have [[tasted]] the love and you need to know what you say is real.

Is it so difficult to take 15, 20 or 30 minutes each day to achieve this? You spend endless time going places meeting people searching for love. I say to you spend 20 or 30 minutes a day and you will find it. You spend much more time than that in your search. When you have found this love inside, then you will see relationships in a different way. If you find another person you want to share your life with, you can do that, you can do it freely and without constantly feeling you must do certain things in certain ways or the person will no longer love you. This will free you from all of those bonds. For if you have found the love within, it is only a matter of sharing that love. If you do not find someone to live with to share that love on a more intimate basis, you can share that love with everyone that you meet. Many will not understand, but you will find some who will understand that you can share more deeply with. Look at this group you are with, are they not here to understand who you are, can you not share this love with them?

Is it so difficult to take 15, 20 or 30 minutes each day to [[achieve]] this? You spend endless time going places meeting people searching for [[love]]. I say to you spend 20 or 30 minutes a day and you will find it. You spend much more time than that in your search. When you have found this [[love]] inside, then you will see [[relationships]] in a [[different]] way. If you find another person you want to [[share]] your life with, you can do that, you can do it freely and without constantly [[feeling]] you must do certain things in certain ways or the person will no longer love you. This will [[free]] you from all of those bonds. For if you have found the love within, it is only a matter of [[sharing]] that love. If you do not find someone to live with to [[share]] that love on a more [[intimate]] basis, you can share that love with everyone that you meet. Many will not [[understand]], but you will find some who will understand that you can [[share]] more deeply with. Look at this group you are with, are they not here to [[understand]] who you are, can you not share this love with them?

The outer world will not so much give you the answers to the things you need. These will come from within. The outer world gives you the opportunity to share what you have found. When you have found this, you will feel the need to share it with others. If they do not return it, you will not feel resentment, you will not feel anger. You will only feel compassion for you know they have not found real love in their lives. So what does it mean to learn to love? You must learn the source of real true love. Then you must learn to seek this love, and when you feel it inside you will learn to share it with others. I will pause and entertain questions and comments

The outer world will not so much give you the answers to the things you need. These will come from within. The outer world gives you the [[opportunity]] to share what you have found. When you have found this, you will [[feel]] the need to [[share]] it with others. If they do not return it, you will not feel resentment, you will not feel [[anger]]. You will only feel [[compassion]] for you know they have not found real love in their lives. So what does it mean to learn to love? You must learn [[the source]] of real true love. Then you must learn to seek this [[love]], and when you feel it inside you will learn to share it with others. I will pause and entertain [[questions]] and comments

===Dialogue===

===Dialogue===

Q: Synposis of comment: moving from the external focus to more of an internal focus as it relates to faith, student asking Welmek for his comments.

Q: Synposis of comment: moving from the external focus to more of an internal focus as it relates to faith, student asking Welmek for his comments.