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Please, try to remember, try to hold on to the [[idea]] that this is much more overwhelming and emotionally provocative world that these young people are entering into. The most you and S. faced in terms of "world [[anxieties]]" were, perhaps, the [[question]] of over-population and a [[limited]] [[perspective]], perhaps, about some of the species on the planet. But, My God, look what these young people face, now, in the way of [[potential]] [[fears]]...

Please, try to remember, try to hold on to the [[idea]] that this is much more overwhelming and emotionally provocative world that these young people are entering into. The most you and S. faced in terms of "world [[anxieties]]" were, perhaps, the [[question]] of over-population and a [[limited]] [[perspective]], perhaps, about some of the species on the planet. But, My God, look what these young people face, now, in the way of [[potential]] [[fears]]...

"Will my life be touched by [[AIDS]]? Will my life be touched by [[violence]]? Will my life be touched by the [[plagues]], the potentials of the world [[chaos]], the remaining concerns regarding [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nuclear_war nuclear violence] and the instability of the world?"

"Will my life be touched by [[AIDS]]? Will my life be touched by [[violence]]? Will my life be touched by the [[plagues]], the potentials of the world [[chaos]], the remaining concerns regarding [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nuclear_war nuclear violence] and the instability of the world?"

By the time you and S. approached your [[college]] years, you both had some sense of [[confidence]] that the world stress of the nuclear problems would, indeed, be dealt with. There was the sense that the [[authorities]] in charge did somehow know what they were doing. But, these children have seen so many examples of adult ineptitude, ways in which the very [[leaders]] of the world are not, indeed, [[responsible]] people, at times, not capable of handling the [[moral]] [[vicissitudes]] that they are expected to administer and respond to. No wonder they wish to [[escape]], at times. No wonder they "get cold feet" about what they will do with their own particular life amidst all the [[chaos]] that they are led to feel exists in the world.

By the time you and S. approached your [[college]] years, you both had some sense of [[confidence]] that the world stress of the nuclear problems would, indeed, be dealt with. There was the sense that the [[authorities]] in charge did somehow know what they were doing. But, these children have seen so many examples of adult ineptitude, ways in which the very [[leaders]] of the world are not, indeed, [[responsible]] people, at times, not capable of handling the [[moral]] [[vicissitudes]] that they are expected to administer and respond to. No wonder they wish to [[escape]], at times. No wonder they "get cold feet" about what they will do with their own particular life amidst all the [[chaos]] that they are led to feel exists in the world.

Student: [[Fear]] of having children, too.

Student: [[Fear]] of having children, too.

Olfana: Fear of "you name it." What area of [[life]] can you think that they face without a sense that there could be a [[problem]]? Their [[careers]]? Will they have a [[marriage]] that will remain stable? Will the air be breathable by the time they have grandchildren? Will the [[oceans]] continue to die? What part of life is not in some way tinged with this deep [[anxiety]] for them, now? And, you see it in their [[music]]. You see it in the markings, the [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tattoos tattoos], the [[violence]], the way they dress. They are crying out with this deep [[anxiety]] and, at times, the rest of us, and I do not necessarily include [[The Teachers]], but I am speaking as if I am now with you, the rest of the world can sometimes merely look on and say, "My God, look at those [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_piercing nose piercings]. How hideous! My God, who would want such a tattoo on their arm by the time they reach their forties?"

Olfana: Fear of "you name it." What area of [[life]] can you think that they face without a sense that there could be a [[problem]]? Their [[careers]]? Will they have a [[marriage]] that will remain stable? Will the air be breathable by the time they have grandchildren? Will the [[oceans]] continue to die? What part of life is not in some way tinged with this deep [[anxiety]] for them, now? And, you see it in their [[music]]. You see it in the markings, the [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tattoos tattoos], the [[violence]], the way they dress. They are crying out with this deep [[anxiety]] and, at times, the rest of us, and I do not necessarily include [[The Teachers]], but I am speaking as if I am now with you, the rest of the world can sometimes merely look on and say, "My God, look at those [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_piercing nose piercings]. How hideous! My God, who would want such a tattoo on their arm by the time they reach their forties?"

Some of these [[children]] have no [[faith]] they will live that long. It is that deep a sense of despair and [[anxiety]]. So be patient with your daughter. Speak of your own [[hopes]] for the world. [[Encourage]] her just as you now see in the example of Ct. (S's daughter, 20 years old), being encouraged. That there is, indeed, [[hope]] for the world. That there are good things astir. That you not only hope for this, but, you see [[evidence]] of it. And as long as you say this in a soft, companionable way, she will not feel assaulted by too much of your cheerleader-like [[energy]], at times, which she will definitely respond to, back off from. ([[Smiling]]) Do you understand the [[dynamic]] I speak of here?

Some of these [[children]] have no [[faith]] they will live that long. It is that deep a sense of despair and [[anxiety]]. So be patient with your daughter. Speak of your own [[hopes]] for the world. [[Encourage]] her just as you now see in the example of Ct. (S's daughter, 20 years old), being encouraged. That there is, indeed, [[hope]] for the world. That there are good things astir. That you not only hope for this, but, you see [[evidence]] of it. And as long as you say this in a soft, companionable way, she will not feel assaulted by too much of your cheerleader-like [[energy]], at times, which she will definitely respond to, back off from. ([[Smiling]]) Do you understand the [[dynamic]] I speak of here?