2001-02-24-Divine Love, Relying On The Adjuster

Session

Opening

GINNY: I have a question for the Teachers. We were talking last week about "God is love but love is not God" and I've been kind of thinking about that -- (I can feel them rushing around, "Oooh, no, I wanted that!") and my question is how . .. Is it possible for us mortals to love more divinely? I mean, even each other? How can we do that? It seems so much of a premium on this planet.

TOMAS: Yes, we all are eager to respond. I will begin.

I am Tomas. Good afternoon. I am gladdened by your approach. You have been categorized of late by Machiventa as being "static" and an example of that would be the passivity you display, those of you who wait for the upsurge of impetus in and through the spirit, and so we as your teachers are relieved when you aspire to attempt to take on for yourself those questions, those challenges which would give rise to a clearer picture and therefore a more direct reaction/response to your life circumstances which would move you beyond static into fluid action.

Lesson

Love

How indeed are you to know and reveal a better kind of love? -- a higher, divine love, as compared to the human and sentimental and romantic love of the mortal creature? Once again you will find your answer in the heart of Stillness. You will recognize those of you who have engaged in a communication with Our Father within that He responds to you in love but it is not the same kind of quality of love that you would get from your companions, peers, parents, teachers, children, neighbors, et cetera. The realm of divine love is such that your emotions are a lesser factor, but in human love, emotions are the greater factor.

Love to an animal is having its needs met. You feed your pets and they respond and you think they love you. The same truth can be perceived in relationships, human relationships of all sorts, yet love is often the least factored of all. Many times your relationships are based on respect, which runs a fine line with fear; many times your relationships are primarily sentimental, which runs a fine line with tenderness; many times your relationships are intense, which runs a fine line with driven. When lovers say "I love you" it is because they see their ideals reflected, and so they are saying, "I see myself in you and I like myself" but as soon as the facts of life reveal themselves, that which is reflected may not be "love" but something else, thus love must be redefined on each new level of experiential living.

This is why love is advancing. The state of puppy love of the pubescent is not that far removed from the idyllic love of young lovers, but it is far removed from the octogenarians who have seen life through heartbreak, health problems, death of children, war and so on and have within them a profound appreciation for the constancy of their companion. And so while we realize the full range of human love as having great value, it is a wise student who will seek to perceive what spiritual love is, as compared to mere human love.

In the short term definition, divine love seeks to find the farther view. Indeed, Our Father who IS Love, is able to see the ending from the beginning, He has such perception, such clear vision, and from this vantage point He understands how the creature is responding to the moment by moment situations en route to a more sublime understanding that can only be born from experience, from having garnered wisdom. A point regarding higher love is therefore a certain detachment from all that is a reflection of the human condition.

Divine love persists even when you are ugly, or frail, or wrong, or lost, or unlovable. And humans haven't got what it takes to consistently love unlovely mankind. Only a divine love is capable of seeing it through, through forbearance, through long-suffering, through meditation and understanding, through forgiveness, through the long run, from the farther view that will give the perspective that transcends the human condition in making room for the divine perspective, which is true love.

I perceive my companions would like to provide a response as well, but before we pass the baton, is there another facet of your question that can also be met?

Dialogue

Parenting

GINNY: Well, I was wondering if there isn't any cross over between divine love and human love. Is it just one love is divine and one love is human? Or can we kind of blend it and bring one into the other? I would imagine this would happen in more advanced cultures, but it was kind of hard here.

THOROAH: I was thinking that our text talks about the value of the family unit and as Tomas was talking I was thinking about the unqualified or the unequivocal love that a parent has for its children being about the closest example to what he was describing as divine love and in that context probably grandparents love is even closer because they are older, wiser, and have a certain amount of detachment from that, so that could be . ..

GINNY: Well, I guess this is more of a personal consideration because I don't have children. I have not experienced that and I feel like I've missed a great deal because I don't have that connection and bonding....

THOROAH: Maybe we need to go to everybody as our children.

GINNY: . .. so I'd like to feel that, yeah, the love between parent and child is just unspeakable. Unnameable. It's just something that I cannot experience because I haven't done it, so I think this becomes a real personal need of mine because I haven't done that. How can I . .. and anybody else who hasn't had that experience . .. how can I fill that gap and experience that.

AARON: Aaron here.

THOROAH: Hi, Aaron.

GINNY: Hi, Aaron! I knew you'd be here.

AARON: I have to be here because this is one thing that's dear to my heart, this talk about the bond between parent and child, between brother and sister, this filiality aspect of love which is a reality in the finite realms as it is in the infinite. So yes, there is a quality of love that cuts across the spectrum, that realizes the noble truths that we learn from the ideals of family life that are set out by our Eternal Parents and shared by the human parents. This treasure trove of insight, parenting, is indeed invaluable to a full comprehension of what you ask, what you seek to know.

This is why it is essential that you experience parenting, and this group is an example of the paucity of understanding that will be made up when you are made replete by your morontia world experiences in the parenting portion of your advancement. But let's not feel bereft. There's a lot of equations that can be drawn in life so that you have a great understanding of what this parenting is. It in a way is a means whereby a mortal may feel the wonder of creation, the miracle of creation.

The plan of procreation in itself is an impressive scheme and all of you are all too familiar with the side effects of basic hormonal activation which results in perpetuation of the race. There's certainly the physical attraction aspect, that is often more powerful than good sense, that insures the survival of the race, that tricks men and women into civilizing themselves so as to provide advancing mores and culture for their progeny.

There is the delightful context of looking into the eyes of your child and seeing your contribution to this continuum of evolution and even more to realizing the spark of life that can only be given as a gift of God has been recreated by and through your participation. In the eyes of your child you see creation revisited, much as Our Father sees life revisited in the eyes of each of His children. And thus rejoicing is an eternal condition, for love and life renewing itself is cause for joy indeed.

Look also to your child and see yourself reflected in his physical traits. He has his daddy's nose and his mommy's eyes. He has grandpa's long fingers, grandma's long legs. He has red hair like Uncle Homer and it looks like his eyes are going to be the color of Aunt Meg's. All of this brings a profound recognition of the continuity of that in life which makes life meaningful and good, all the way from the divine vantage point to the human appreciation of what it is to be part of family.

This standard that has been provided by Our Father and carried forth by the Creator Son and the Divine Minister is the generational appreciation of life being reborn again and again in each new generation to carry on all that is noble and good and to pass it along to those who come after as we all march toward the destiny of the ages. This kind of perspective that connects you with the whole of advancing life - in the spirit and in the flesh - is a perspective that gives great breadth and depth to the quality of love. Indeed it does constitute the greatest part of the spiritual, morontial, and material existence.

I have the pleasure of being close to a mortal here on Urantia who has been brought to his knees by the Fatherhood experience, the fathering experience, and the profound wealth of consciousness of contributing to the best and holding hope for the best and giving all you've got for the best, which is something to related to yourself, but outside of yourself, is something that is greatly maturing and elevating of that human nature which is often so immature as to be consistently self-absorbed and thus falling short of all that this life has been designed to provide for it.

You will recognize these qualities in others, even as you realize your handicap, and knowing the values of parenting and passing on your culture from this generation to the next is something that we can all contribute to, whether we have the burden of the formula, the diapers, the 2:00 feedings, the childhood mumps and measles, the teaching to share, ad infinitum that comes with the parenting experience. Those of you who can at least appreciate what you are missing are able to enjoy your contributions in the cultural and social arena, even while your genetic contribution may be only slight or non-existent. It is better than removing yourself from the understanding entirely and avoiding the sensations and abasement that might go with understanding that you are missing something important in the scheme of things. This is such an important element of your learning and growing, you will be given every opportunity to make up for it and give to your arena those same qualities and values in your future experience as many of your mortal associates have and do now.

See also

• 2001-02-24-More On Love as it serves as Part 2 of this record.