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T: Even though it causes [[friction]] and [[negativity]], it’s still the thing to do?

T: Even though it causes [[friction]] and [[negativity]], it’s still the thing to do?

Ham: Every situation of course is [[different]]. Sometimes the road of [[litigation]] can be more damaging than simply taking the initial [[assault]] and moving on. But it is difficult to extricate yourself once you are involved in that [[process]] because then it is [[step]] after step after step. So I understand that you have [[conflicts]] in wishing this to be resolved and over with, but at the same time needing to go each step as it drags on. Remember that this is a [[learning]] [[process]]. There is not right or wrong in the [[totality]] of your [[decisions]]. You are simply learning. By making this decision, or that decision, you are learning all that goes with it, so I would say the [[value]] is found in what you are gaining as far as experience with human [[nature]], experience with the simply the [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Judicial_system legal system] and experience with yourself and the hard decisions that you have had to make. You’ve tried to be above it and yet be part of it at the same time and it has been very [[stressful]]. So it is not a question of what is best or what would have been best to have done in the [[past]] or to do now, but simply a question of what can you learn from this [[experience]], what are you taking from it and what is it giving you? Yes, it is taking a lot, it is taking a lot of [[emotional]] [[energy]], but it is also giving you something as well. The more you find that it is giving you, the more you will find [[strength]] within it to carry forward.

Ham: Every situation of course is [[different]]. Sometimes the road of [[litigation]] can be more damaging than simply taking the initial [[assault]] and moving on. But it is difficult to extricate yourself once you are involved in that [[process]] because then it is [[step]] after step after step. So I understand that you have [[conflicts]] in wishing this to be resolved and over with, but at the same time needing to go each step as it drags on. Remember that this is a [[learning]] [[process]]. There is not right or wrong in the [[totality]] of your [[decisions]]. You are simply learning. By making this decision, or that decision, you are learning all that goes with it, so I would say the [[value]] is found in what you are gaining as far as experience with human [[nature]], experience with the simply the [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Judicial_system legal system] and experience with yourself and the hard decisions that you have had to make. You’ve tried to be above it and yet be part of it at the same time and it has been very [[stressful]]. So it is not a question of what is best or what would have been best to have done in the [[past]] or to do now, but simply a question of what can you learn from this [[experience]], what are you taking from it and what is it giving you? Yes, it is taking a lot, it is taking a lot of [[emotional]] [[energy]], but it is also giving you something as well. The more you find that it is giving you, the more you will find [[strength]] within it to carry forward.

===Personal Counsel===

===Personal Counsel===

===='''''[[Marriage]]'''''====

===='''''[[Marriage]]'''''====

T: Could I have a message of a personal nature?

T: Could I have a message of a personal nature?

Ham: Daughter, you are a person who finds the [http://www.thefreedictionary.com/silver+lining silver lining] in most things. You are one who constantly brings [[joy]] and [[comfort]] to others. Remember to rely on the [[spirit]], to learn as you have, that the world is a fickle place where the [[hopes]] and [[dreams]] of yesterday can be shattered in a [[moment]]. There is no [[permanence]] in the world, only [[change]]. The only permanent thing you will find is [[Ta|the Father’s spirit]], the [[love]] of God. His love is permanent and grows [[stronger]] over time and grows stronger as you grow toward Him and [[become]] more and more reliant upon Him. Do not worry about tomorrow so much as [[focusing]] on today - one day at a time. You can only do so much in a day’s working hours. Do not worry that you should do this or you should do that. Take that which comes and discharge your [[duties]] without worry about worry about what will happen in the [[future]]. Use this [[opportunity]] to develop your sense of [[acceptance]] and spiritual [[poise]]. Go forth with great [[love]] and [[care]] and be completely at ease for you do very well.

Ham: Daughter, you are a person who finds the [https://www.thefreedictionary.com/silver+lining silver lining] in most things. You are one who constantly brings [[joy]] and [[comfort]] to others. Remember to rely on the [[spirit]], to learn as you have, that the world is a fickle place where the [[hopes]] and [[dreams]] of yesterday can be shattered in a [[moment]]. There is no [[permanence]] in the world, only [[change]]. The only permanent thing you will find is [[Ta|the Father’s spirit]], the [[love]] of God. His love is permanent and grows [[stronger]] over time and grows stronger as you grow toward Him and [[become]] more and more reliant upon Him. Do not worry about tomorrow so much as [[focusing]] on today - one day at a time. You can only do so much in a day’s working hours. Do not worry that you should do this or you should do that. Take that which comes and discharge your [[duties]] without worry about worry about what will happen in the [[future]]. Use this [[opportunity]] to develop your sense of [[acceptance]] and spiritual [[poise]]. Go forth with great [[love]] and [[care]] and be completely at ease for you do very well.

Melissa wants a message.

Melissa wants a message.