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Ham: Yes of course. The [[stillness]] for a certain time period every day brings a sense of [[balance]] and [[proportion]] into your lives. Having a time period where you are [[alone]] with God is [[essential]] to opening up spiritual [[channels]] but this must not be done to the exclusion of human [[interaction]]. It was this that we discourage.

Ham: Yes of course. The [[stillness]] for a certain time period every day brings a sense of [[balance]] and [[proportion]] into your lives. Having a time period where you are [[alone]] with God is [[essential]] to opening up spiritual [[channels]] but this must not be done to the exclusion of human [[interaction]]. It was this that we discourage.

===='''''[[Law]]''''', '''''[[Justice]]'''''====

===='''''[[Law]]''''', '''''[[Justice]]'''''====

Q: As a [[society]] we are about to put to [[death]] [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Timothy_McVeigh Timothy McVeigh] for killing hundreds of people. In your lesson you said we should give [[love]] for [[hate]]. Is it alright to put someone to [[death]] for an [[atrocity]] like this?

Q: As a [[society]] we are about to put to [[death]] [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Timothy_McVeigh Timothy McVeigh] for killing hundreds of people. In your lesson you said we should give [[love]] for [[hate]]. Is it alright to put someone to [[death]] for an [[atrocity]] like this?

Ham: This is a very good question. We do not [[interfere]] with the [[punishments]] that any human [[society]] should deem appropriate in retribution for [[criminal]] acts. Society has to have [[mechanisms]] which protect the greater [[law]] abiding [[majority]] from the [[antisocial]], [[confused]], perhaps even mentally ill or deranged sub [[population]]. As [[your world]] evolves, there will certainly be [[changes]] made in your [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Criminal_justice_system criminal justice system]. But we certainly are not here to pass [[judgement]] on what is appropriate in this type of situation. It is [[consistent]] to send [[love]] and [[prayers]] for someone who is to receive the just punishment meted out by your [[society]]. Sentencing someone to physical death is not sentencing someone to eternal [[hell]]. It is simply moving forward there time of [[judgment]] in a higher court, so to speak. Human [[justice]] is always flawed. It is never [[perfect]]. [[Divine]] justice is perfect.

Ham: This is a very good question. We do not [[interfere]] with the [[punishments]] that any human [[society]] should deem appropriate in retribution for [[criminal]] acts. Society has to have [[mechanisms]] which protect the greater [[law]] abiding [[majority]] from the [[antisocial]], [[confused]], perhaps even mentally ill or deranged sub [[population]]. As [[your world]] evolves, there will certainly be [[changes]] made in your [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Criminal_justice_system criminal justice system]. But we certainly are not here to pass [[judgement]] on what is appropriate in this type of situation. It is [[consistent]] to send [[love]] and [[prayers]] for someone who is to receive the just punishment meted out by your [[society]]. Sentencing someone to physical death is not sentencing someone to eternal [[hell]]. It is simply moving forward there time of [[judgment]] in a higher court, so to speak. Human [[justice]] is always flawed. It is never [[perfect]]. [[Divine]] justice is perfect.

===='''''[[Control]]'''''====

===='''''[[Control]]'''''====

Q: I have a question of how to [[love]] better. It seems there is a kind of love that empowers and a kind of love that keeps people in a situation of [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Co-dependency dependency]. Do you have any [[wisdom]] for me in my situation to have love that empowers instead of love that cripples.

Q: I have a question of how to [[love]] better. It seems there is a kind of love that empowers and a kind of love that keeps people in a situation of [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Co-dependency dependency]. Do you have any [[wisdom]] for me in my situation to have love that empowers instead of love that cripples.

Ham: Certainly, my daughter. [[Love]] is always empowering, but sometimes the [[actions]] of the lover can not be so empowering to the beloved. [[Human being]]s are not [[perfect]]. All of you have [[unconscious]] patterns which [[manifest]] in your lives. You are not completely in the [[rational]] drivers seat most of the time. And, it is very hard for you to judge what is truly best for someone because you cannot judge what is best for you. Sometimes it is easy to go overboard and label everything as co-dependency. But, there must be room in [[life]] for some [[simple]] [[acts]] of help and [[kindness]] and [[support]]. We spoke of a high [[ideal]] of [[independence]] that your society seems to hold as a [[standard]], but human beings are really meant to help each other through life. There are none so [[strong]] who do not require the [[love]] and aid of others. In other [[words]], when you love, love your own way. Don't try to make it some other way that is better, love how you love right now and allow others to do the same. Then you can [[grow]] [[together]].

Ham: Certainly, my daughter. [[Love]] is always empowering, but sometimes the [[actions]] of the lover can not be so empowering to the beloved. [[Human being]]s are not [[perfect]]. All of you have [[unconscious]] patterns which [[manifest]] in your lives. You are not completely in the [[rational]] drivers seat most of the time. And, it is very hard for you to judge what is truly best for someone because you cannot judge what is best for you. Sometimes it is easy to go overboard and label everything as co-dependency. But, there must be room in [[life]] for some [[simple]] [[acts]] of help and [[kindness]] and [[support]]. We spoke of a high [[ideal]] of [[independence]] that your society seems to hold as a [[standard]], but human beings are really meant to help each other through life. There are none so [[strong]] who do not require the [[love]] and aid of others. In other [[words]], when you love, love your own way. Don't try to make it some other way that is better, love how you love right now and allow others to do the same. Then you can [[grow]] [[together]].

Q: Ham I am going through a situation that is [[challenging]] my [[patience]] like it has never been tested before. Can you give me some [[words]] of [[wisdom]] about how to [[manifest]] perfect [[timing]] around a situation and advice on how to put my patience in the back seat, so to speak.

Q: Ham I am going through a situation that is [[challenging]] my [[patience]] like it has never been tested before. Can you give me some [[words]] of [[wisdom]] about how to [[manifest]] perfect [[timing]] around a situation and advice on how to put my patience in the back seat, so to speak.

Ham: Well, it's easy my daughter. There are [[simply]] some things which you cannot [[control]]. Life is filled with [[different]] kinds of [[Accidents|train wrecks]] that are the seeming result of bad [[timing]], so to speak. And yet, look again. There is always some [[good]] that comes as the result of something that seems to be quite [[evil]]. Acts of evil, injustice, and [[cruelty]] do not multiply, necessarily, they have a tendency to feed in on themselves. But, the [[love]] and [[understanding]], the [[spiritual growth]] which comes out of these acts of human [[failure]] do multiply. [[Spiritual growth]] always feeds and creates more spiritual growth among others. The good [[repercussions]] can be immense from something which seems to have no reason at all. There was a terrible [[tragedy]] in [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oklahoma_city_bombing Oklahoma City], a senseless [[murderous]] act. And yet the [[love]], the [[growth]], the spiritual [[connection]] between people [[reverberated]] throughout the country and indeed through out [[the world]]. What you are experiencing is very small [[compared]] with something like that. And look again, look at the [[growth]] you have experienced already and the [[change]] that your life is undergoing will continue to reverberate in the changes that you make in the lives of others. The [[good]] [[eventually]] will completely outshine the [[evil]], it always does. Have [[faith]].

Ham: Well, it's easy my daughter. There are [[simply]] some things which you cannot [[control]]. Life is filled with [[different]] kinds of [[Accidents|train wrecks]] that are the seeming result of bad [[timing]], so to speak. And yet, look again. There is always some [[good]] that comes as the result of something that seems to be quite [[evil]]. Acts of evil, injustice, and [[cruelty]] do not multiply, necessarily, they have a tendency to feed in on themselves. But, the [[love]] and [[understanding]], the [[spiritual growth]] which comes out of these acts of human [[failure]] do multiply. [[Spiritual growth]] always feeds and creates more spiritual growth among others. The good [[repercussions]] can be immense from something which seems to have no reason at all. There was a terrible [[tragedy]] in [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oklahoma_city_bombing Oklahoma City], a senseless [[murderous]] act. And yet the [[love]], the [[growth]], the spiritual [[connection]] between people [[reverberated]] throughout the country and indeed through out [[the world]]. What you are experiencing is very small [[compared]] with something like that. And look again, look at the [[growth]] you have experienced already and the [[change]] that your life is undergoing will continue to reverberate in the changes that you make in the lives of others. The [[good]] [[eventually]] will completely outshine the [[evil]], it always does. Have [[faith]].

===='''''[[Acceptance]]'''''====

===='''''[[Acceptance]]'''''====

Q: I need your [[advice]]. Last week I was fired because of breaking a company [[policy]].... When I try to think about what I want to do I feel [[blocked]]. What is the [[path]] that I should follow. What is blocking me? How can I make better [[decisions]]?

Q: I need your [[advice]]. Last week I was fired because of breaking a company [[policy]].... When I try to think about what I want to do I feel [[blocked]]. What is the [[path]] that I should follow. What is blocking me? How can I make better [[decisions]]?