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===Topic: ''Dimensions of Being Human''===
===Topic: ''Companionship, Sharing Your Lives''===
===Group: [[Marin TeaM]]===
===Group: [[Marin TeaM]]===
==Facilitators==
==Facilitators==
lives to be quiet, and still, and say, “Hello Michael. Hello Mother Spirit. Thank you
lives to be quiet, and still, and say, “Hello Michael. Hello Mother Spirit. Thank you
for me.”
for me.”
*(Companionship-sharing your lives)
Tonight I would like to talk about a few of your attributes, a few of your dimensions
Tonight I would like to talk about a few of your attributes, a few of your dimensions
of being human. I think the greatest of these is the way you are so much like our
of being human. I think the greatest of these is the way you are so much like our
acquire the ability to tune in--tune into yourself and tune in to each other. You can
acquire the ability to tune in--tune into yourself and tune in to each other. You can
share your histories, your actual living experience.
share your histories, your actual living experience.
*(Escaping the prison of self)
True companionship gives you so much. Above all it gives you a way of escaping what
True companionship gives you so much. Above all it gives you a way of escaping what
we sometimes call the prison of self. I am sure you all know some poor, unfortunate
we sometimes call the prison of self. I am sure you all know some poor, unfortunate
This is the promise and the actual reward of companionship, of having real, honest-to-
This is the promise and the actual reward of companionship, of having real, honest-to-
God, living and breathing companions with whom to share your life.
God, living and breathing companions with whom to share your life.
*(The blessing of curiosity)
All this comes about with the help of another great quality I’d like to talk about
All this comes about with the help of another great quality I’d like to talk about
tonight, and that is curiosity. Let’s pause a moment to wonder: what is it? (I must
tonight, and that is curiosity. Let’s pause a moment to wonder: what is it? (I must
in joy with others and satisfy their curiosity. So think of the satisfaction, my dear ones,
in joy with others and satisfy their curiosity. So think of the satisfaction, my dear ones,
that has led you to know so much.
that has led you to know so much.
*(The mind-spirit of courage)
I would like to mention one other attribute that I actually help increase right within
I would like to mention one other attribute that I actually help increase right within
you. If you will, I augment another real ability of yours. As I mentioned companionship-
you. If you will, I augment another real ability of yours. As I mentioned companionship-
something new suggests itself. Or you are simply in an honest experiment and you
something new suggests itself. Or you are simply in an honest experiment and you
have to find the courage to be open-minded to whatever comes out.
have to find the courage to be open-minded to whatever comes out.
*(Courage to welcome the unknown)
Some of your famous scientists have said that they suddenly encountered some new
Some of your famous scientists have said that they suddenly encountered some new
fact that challenged everything they believed up to that point. They had to have the
fact that challenged everything they believed up to that point. They had to have the
that I share with you, this thing of courage, of determination, of the ability to do what
that I share with you, this thing of courage, of determination, of the ability to do what
your heart, your mind, and your soul suggests.
your heart, your mind, and your soul suggests.
Now, my dear ones, if you have any questions or comments on these attributes of
Now, my dear ones, if you have any questions or comments on these attributes of
being human, or anything else, let us both open our minds and welcome them. Come
being human, or anything else, let us both open our minds and welcome them. Come
forth if you will.
forth if you will.
===Dialogue===
Student #1: I have an idea on courage that seems to involve a lot of faith. You just can’t know everything so you have to have the courage of your faith to jump into something and do it. But I also like the idea of fool-hardy, actually, because after a kind of spontaneous thing you have to have the courage to go out there and try something new. If you can’t know everything, you can think to yourself it is fool-hardy. I was wondering if you could talk a little more about the difference of being fool-hardy, and courage.
*(Courage contra-distinct from fool-hardiness)
Nebadonia: Yes, my son. Courage--to me—is the human ability to act or to do, the determination to do what you feel is right--all the while admitting and feeling all the fear that might be keeping you from doing that! It means staying open, moment by moment. You have a commitment, a determination, to understand moment by moment that your fear that can be a righteous caution. Think about traveling a very dark, winding road at night with only that oncoming road dancing in your headlights. You are determined to go somewhere and you know you have to be very attentive moment by moment. You can feel, not just the fear, but the caution that keeps you from going too fast and throwing your life away by ignoring the present situation and all the threat that it contains. Whereas fool-hardiness is saying “Well, to hell with this caution, I’m just going to rush into whatever it is. Whatever scary thing it is, whatever threat is coming at me, I’m just going to let myself go.” It’s called fool-hardy because yes, you may be very hardy, but you’re a fool because you’re throwing your life away. You’re refusing to acknowledge the genuine fear and threat in the situation. You’re refusing to feel. You have a saying about your alcoholic drinks that “courage comes in a bottle,” but it doesn’t always take some strong booze. Some folks haven’t the courage or nerve to stay with the situation moment by moment, but can only throw themselves into it. The reason fool-hardiness has such a negative connotation is because of the result.
*(Foolish impatience)
Impatience often leads to this kind of fool-hardiness, whereas courage means the ability to not just react right within that feeling. Fear may sometimes be overwhelming, but it can be a wisdom coming from your whole self, your whole sense of past experience and your soul--all your deeper knowledge and understanding. These can give rise to a fear that is simply caution. You need to do your best to feel it, acknowledge it, and respect it. And still act!
That takes courage. Does this give you some notion? It’s not being a fool, but the exact opposite.
Student: Yes, a little bit. Still… I guess I’m kind of impatient and spontaneous, and I kind of rely on… I get myself in trouble, but I kind-of rely on your spirit of intuition. I just jump into things and hope my spirit and intuition are going to guide me through. It is kind of an adventure, and I do feel kind of a fool because sometimes I end up in something I wasn’t expecting. But I am always learning. Could you talk a little bit more about the spirit of intuition and how it guides our courage?
*(Intuition, knowledge, understanding)
Nebadonia: Yes, my son. Intuition has a lot of different connotations, but we mean it as your very most basic, direct, immediate perception, your experience of life itself in all of its dimensions. It’s your ability to know both yourself and others--the essence of experience itself. You store that living experience as knowledge; you know something because you’ve done it. And of course you have vicarious experience, the way your intuition can give you an experience because you’ve read it in a book. Yet even that is a creative, learned art because, as you know, some folks can get an enormous amount of experience from reading, while others who have not learned that particular art cannot.
Sometimes intuition can be led by curiosity to an openness, a wondering about what something is, that leads you to more experience. Also sometimes, the intuition of your whole being can present you with certain feelings, such as fear. All of a sudden, you don’t even know where it is coming from, but you hesitate or stop because you have this feeling. It may take you a few moments to realize what is causing it. As I said before, it’s wonderful to be open to caution, where to be fool-hardy is to deny any kind of fear.
It does not take courage to feel impatient, or the inability to experience fear. But my son, the very fact that we are here, talking together, means that most of your fool-hardiness has been genuine courage, or you simply would not be here. Every person in their life--especially in your highly mechanical age now—has experienced more than one time the impulse to throw their life away; yet here you are. Does this give you a deeper notion?
Student: Thank you for exploring that with me.
*(Where courage leads)
Nebadonia: Thank you. Again, my son, I congratulate you on your courage, especially with those things that were a total surprise and you could not anticipate. That is the very purpose of courage--to lead you to things that you have not yet encountered. Consider what happens after this human life of yours. Go out on a starry sky at night and entertain the notion that that is where you are headed. That is where your curiosity will be leading you, and all the courage, all this ability you will have acquired, will stand you in good stead. So be in my Love.
Student: Thank you. (long pause) If there is not another question, I have another one for you.
Nebadonia: Of course. Go ahead.
Student: Imagine two people coming together in a third dimension. I got an idea that as two people come together, there is always a medium between the two, kind-of like a quantum affect in the sense that Paradise is the center. So any interaction between two people always goes through Paradise first, then goes to the other person, which gives it that one-plus-one-equals-three. Can you explore that a little bit?
*(Where one and one make three)
Nebadonia: Well, yes, my son. You definitely have your finger on it insofar as each of you is unique, right from God. That means that any time two of you get together, that combination, that living dynamic, is also unique. But believe me, it doesn’t have to go through Paradise. It is right down here on earth, and im-mediate—no intermediary--because each of you has your own intuition of each other. Obviously your intuition of each other is enormously complex, depending on how long you have known each other. Are you brand new? What prejudices—pre-judging--are each of you bringing to the meeting? But because the meeting is itself unique, it’s why I called it a “third party”—the shared companionship that can arise.
And of course you can have more than two. You can have three, or four, or a whole group that is unique to themselves.
Think of religion mainly as your personal relationship to God. Yet this can be socialized in what you normally called “religion” as a group of people coming together to share and enjoy their religious and spiritual experiences. The different religions of the world vary according to the different cultures that people are raised in. So this is the extra something that comes about when people get together. What we call companionship concerns the dearest true companions that you’ve had in your life—what you call your closest friends--those with whom you’ve shared the broadest and deepest experience. This is what I mean by that “third something,” that living companionship that arises that is just as unique as the two of you are. Does that fill the bill?
Student: Yes, that is pretty good. I feel it seems that always when people interact they are transcending the frame or background--sort of what you are saying. I was thinking: there is always a background there. You are saying we transcend the frame we are working in--and our circumstances—when we are into pure communication.
*(Trust, faith, and spontaneity)
Nebadonia: Yes! When each person is open-minded and sufficiently curious, the third thing, the relationship, can be very spontaneous. It can transcend what either one can anticipate. That is really the delight! Two friends who have known each other for fifty years or more, can still get together and have something spring up all by itself. It’s that very “something else” that is actually holding them together. It’s something that spontaneous arises which is beyond what either one can create by themselves alone. It comes about when each lets themselves go, not controlling the situation, but with an earned deep trust and faith in their basic humanity, this basic incomprehensible part of another person you can never throw a loop around. Rather, you can simply respect it and have a humble, delightful attitude toward another person. You appreciate them so much you let them be. And they let you be. Then something spontaneous arises. We call this spirit because it is alive and creative. It is capturing the aspect of now that has not happened before and will never happen again. I pointed out poor souls that cannot let go of themselves and actually know this. It is tragic indeed when they have to control everything to be sure that nothing spontaneous does arise, they are so afraid of others. So it does take courage to really enjoy spontaneity and let it come about.
Student: Thank you.
Nebadonia: Thank you, my son. These are fun things to explore are they not? Be in
my love.
Student: One more comment I have, and that is: one beauty of personality is that it is made to interact with other personalities. That is its purpose; and that is a kind of beauty.
*(Respecting a child’s spirit and autonomy)
Nebadonia: That interaction is the great ability of those who were fortunate enough to have had wonderful parents. If the parents are this way with each other, and with their
children, it is the way they give their children autonomy right from the very beginning.
They can recognize that yes, although this little creature, this little boy or girl definitely came from all their efforts, his or her personality is coming from God. What a gift to enjoy and acknowledge this even to a very young child, and respect that this little creature of theirs has his or her own autonomy: and relate that way! What a blessing. What a total blessing for a child to have this kind of parents who can enjoy and enter into a spontaneous exchange, encouraging and acknowledging their child’s creativity.
===Closing===
Well, my dears, if there are no further questions or comments, this has been a long lesson--getting together this evening. I’ll go ahead and wrap things up with my blessing upon you all.
Thank you so much for attending these sessions, and creating what you call the gestalt--the shared mind that we have during these lessons, with these marvelous technological inventions of yours--these telephones. So bid you all Good Night. Be in my love.