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It has been well spoken tonight in your [[discussion]] that your [[perspective]] on the [[meaning]] of the [[events]] in your [[life]] has major [[impact]] upon your [[reaction]] to those events which occur, whether internally or externally, on a daily basis. One of the recommendations of [[humor]] is that it is a means of altering a [[perspective]] in such a way as to see the [[progress]] that a person, a being, makes over [[time]] and to [[appreciate]] one's own childishness in [[retrospect]]. So first, then, I commend to you the full hearted [[enjoyment]] of [[humor]] to help deal with your tendency to become swallowed up and limited in a 'now' oriented view of the importance of a particular [[event]].

It has been well spoken tonight in your [[discussion]] that your [[perspective]] on the [[meaning]] of the [[events]] in your [[life]] has major [[impact]] upon your [[reaction]] to those events which occur, whether internally or externally, on a daily basis. One of the recommendations of [[humor]] is that it is a means of altering a [[perspective]] in such a way as to see the [[progress]] that a person, a being, makes over [[time]] and to [[appreciate]] one's own childishness in [[retrospect]]. So first, then, I commend to you the full hearted [[enjoyment]] of [[humor]] to help deal with your tendency to become swallowed up and limited in a 'now' oriented view of the importance of a particular [[event]].

Your [[culture]] is very persuaded that the [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Express_lanes fast lane], as it's termed, is the place to be in order to benefit the most from everyday [[events]]. And because of this [[orientation]] one, and this includes you all as well, one is put into a state of [[electro-chemical]] [[tension]] and [[priorities]] are arranged in such a way that the unexpected interruptions of unplanned for [[problems]] can disrupt a person's [[equilibrium]] and cause them to become disoriented. Therefore another [[strategy]] of great importance in dealing with [[disappointments]] is to look upon the whole stretch of [[time]] which is your real [[reality]]. For you, my friends, are given to know that this short life is but the prelude to [[eternity]] and that the [[desires]] of your [[heart]] and your [[plans]] cannot be fulfilled in entirety in this lifetime. These desires are not put there to [[frustrate]] you but to speak of your true [[eternal]] [[status]], if you so choose the [[ascension career]].

Your [[culture]] is very persuaded that the [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Express_lanes fast lane], as it's termed, is the place to be in order to benefit the most from everyday [[events]]. And because of this [[orientation]] one, and this includes you all as well, one is put into a state of [[electro-chemical]] [[tension]] and [[priorities]] are arranged in such a way that the unexpected interruptions of unplanned for [[problems]] can disrupt a person's [[equilibrium]] and cause them to become disoriented. Therefore another [[strategy]] of great importance in dealing with [[disappointments]] is to look upon the whole stretch of [[time]] which is your real [[reality]]. For you, my friends, are given to know that this short life is but the prelude to [[eternity]] and that the [[desires]] of your [[heart]] and your [[plans]] cannot be fulfilled in entirety in this lifetime. These desires are not put there to [[frustrate]] you but to speak of your true [[eternal]] [[status]], if you so choose the [[ascension career]].

Another [[realization]] which has been presented in your [[discussion]] has to do with the [[relative]] [[status]] that each of you have in regard to your [[influence]] on the outcome of '[[everything]]'. I know that I speak [[words]] that you have heard before, words that you intellectually [[understand]] when I say that you are not [[responsible]] for the [[overcare]] of this world. Yes, Isaac [TR #3] is concerned that this lesson is primarily intended for him, but I will say that we teachers do not single anyone out. Our lessons are broadly based.  

Another [[realization]] which has been presented in your [[discussion]] has to do with the [[relative]] [[status]] that each of you have in regard to your [[influence]] on the outcome of '[[everything]]'. I know that I speak [[words]] that you have heard before, words that you intellectually [[understand]] when I say that you are not [[responsible]] for the [[overcare]] of this world. Yes, Isaac [TR #3] is concerned that this lesson is primarily intended for him, but I will say that we teachers do not single anyone out. Our lessons are broadly based.  

PamElla:  If you would like a [[reaction]], an [[honest]] reaction rather than a [[question]] or whatever, I guess I am willing to take that role tonight. I had a couple of [[thoughts]], but my initial reaction was to Daniel when you said for us to take the longer view, I think that really is an impossible thing for us to do because it is asking us to do something which is beyond our [[experience]]! Although now I can look back to [[childhood]] easily and understand [[children]] I can remember being a child and [[thinking]] about being a grownup and being [[assured]] that that would never happen, because it was so long and far away. Even though I knew [[intellectually]] that someday I would be a grownup, an adult, my [[emotional]] reaction was, no, I will never be a grownup, never be an [[adult]]. And so that's how I feel when that is given as -- I was sort of in and out but I [[interpreted]] to be as [[solace]] to our [[disappointment]] to realize that this is just the [[preface]] to [[eternity]]. Well, that just doesn't help because right now this is my [[existence]] and it's my entire existence. I did like the comment on [[humor]]. I have found that a good [[laugh]] helps break up my disappointment. Well, anyway, there is a [[reaction]], not necessarily a question.  

PamElla:  If you would like a [[reaction]], an [[honest]] reaction rather than a [[question]] or whatever, I guess I am willing to take that role tonight. I had a couple of [[thoughts]], but my initial reaction was to Daniel when you said for us to take the longer view, I think that really is an impossible thing for us to do because it is asking us to do something which is beyond our [[experience]]! Although now I can look back to [[childhood]] easily and understand [[children]] I can remember being a child and [[thinking]] about being a grownup and being [[assured]] that that would never happen, because it was so long and far away. Even though I knew [[intellectually]] that someday I would be a grownup, an adult, my [[emotional]] reaction was, no, I will never be a grownup, never be an [[adult]]. And so that's how I feel when that is given as -- I was sort of in and out but I [[interpreted]] to be as [[solace]] to our [[disappointment]] to realize that this is just the [[preface]] to [[eternity]]. Well, that just doesn't help because right now this is my [[existence]] and it's my entire existence. I did like the comment on [[humor]]. I have found that a good [[laugh]] helps break up my disappointment. Well, anyway, there is a [[reaction]], not necessarily a question.  

DANIEL:  My dear it was not my [[intention]] to minimize the [[reality]] of [[disappointment]] by '[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Preacher_and_the_Slave pie in the sky by and by]' which seems to be how you may have [[thought]] or how you [[interpreted]] what I said, but rather to provide a broader framework for [[understanding]] that it doesn't all have to be done in this lifetime since you know that there is more. Much of the [[disappointment]] of Urantians today has to do with their lack of [[knowledge]] and [[faith]] regarding the whole [[perspective]] of [[eternal]] life so that they plan for the [[objectives]] of their life when they are [[young]] only to find them not being met and not being fulfilled. Many people succumb to massive [[disappointment]] that they cannot do all that they wish in this short lifetime, and knowing no other time become very sad, indeed. Rather I would [[intend]] to say that knowing there is [[time]], much greater time than most people allow for or believe in frees you from the [[anxiety]] of that intense [[disappointment]] so that you can focus on your [[desires]] effectively and bring about those things which you [[earnestly]] and [[eagerly]] seek, of course in the overall [[perspective]] of seeking to [[do the Father's will]]. Has this [[clarified]] or helped or are you still in disagreement with what I have said?  

DANIEL:  My dear it was not my [[intention]] to minimize the [[reality]] of [[disappointment]] by '[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Preacher_and_the_Slave pie in the sky by and by]' which seems to be how you may have [[thought]] or how you [[interpreted]] what I said, but rather to provide a broader framework for [[understanding]] that it doesn't all have to be done in this lifetime since you know that there is more. Much of the [[disappointment]] of Urantians today has to do with their lack of [[knowledge]] and [[faith]] regarding the whole [[perspective]] of [[eternal]] life so that they plan for the [[objectives]] of their life when they are [[young]] only to find them not being met and not being fulfilled. Many people succumb to massive [[disappointment]] that they cannot do all that they wish in this short lifetime, and knowing no other time become very sad, indeed. Rather I would [[intend]] to say that knowing there is [[time]], much greater time than most people allow for or believe in frees you from the [[anxiety]] of that intense [[disappointment]] so that you can focus on your [[desires]] effectively and bring about those things which you [[earnestly]] and [[eagerly]] seek, of course in the overall [[perspective]] of seeking to [[do the Father's will]]. Has this [[clarified]] or helped or are you still in disagreement with what I have said?  

PamElla:  Both. That did [[clarify]]. But I am still in disagreement. I'm sure it is out of [[ignorance]] because there are things that I want to do that have to do with [[this planet]] now that I can't see how they could be answered in a [[different]] [[time]] and place or in a different form. So to some extent I can [[understand]] some of the [[experiences]] that we are looking for, the [[feelings]] of [[adventure]] and that sort of thing can be had in different forms. And the [[problem]] is I have an attachment to the [[form]]! I guess right now I am [[thinking]] about experiential [[training]] that I took where one of the [[processes]] dealt with letting go of the form and realizing the [[experience]], the [[emotional]] experience that you wanted from the form, and to let go of the form in favor of the emotional experience. And I suppose that is what would be a [[good]] avenue for me to follow at this [[point]] of time in my life, to let go of the form in which my [[disappointments]] take place so that I might have the [[emotional]] [[experience]]. That is where my disagreement remains, and I am sure that could be out of [[ignorance]]. You guys are in a-- I have no [[idea]] where you are. I have no idea what you experience. We are very [[limited]] or at least I am very limited by my experiences which are here and now. I really can't [[imagine]] what you know to be true by your experience. So it is not that I [[doubt]] -- well I guess I do doubt what you say because I haven't [[experienced]] it and I guess I am very much like the [[Apostle Thomas]].  

PamElla:  Both. That did [[clarify]]. But I am still in disagreement. I'm sure it is out of [[ignorance]] because there are things that I want to do that have to do with [[this planet]] now that I can't see how they could be answered in a [[different]] [[time]] and place or in a different form. So to some extent I can [[understand]] some of the [[experiences]] that we are looking for, the [[feelings]] of [[adventure]] and that sort of thing can be had in different forms. And the [[problem]] is I have an attachment to the [[form]]! I guess right now I am [[thinking]] about experiential [[training]] that I took where one of the [[processes]] dealt with letting go of the form and realizing the [[experience]], the [[emotional]] experience that you wanted from the form, and to let go of the form in favor of the emotional experience. And I suppose that is what would be a [[good]] avenue for me to follow at this [[point]] of time in my life, to let go of the form in which my [[disappointments]] take place so that I might have the [[emotional]] [[experience]]. That is where my disagreement remains, and I am sure that could be out of [[ignorance]]. You guys are in a-- I have no [[idea]] where you are. I have no idea what you experience. We are very [[limited]] or at least I am very limited by my experiences which are here and now. I really can't [[imagine]] what you know to be true by your experience. So it is not that I [[doubt]] -- well I guess I do doubt what you say because I haven't [[experienced]] it and I guess I am very much like the [[Apostle Thomas]].  

TOMAS:  Thank you, my sister.  

TOMAS:  Thank you, my sister.  

===='''''[[Failure]]'''''====

===='''''[[Failure]]'''''====

DANIEL:  Leetah we are somewhat more [[mature]] than you [[mortals]] and we have learned to a greater extent that there are [[limits]] to our ability to [[influence]] other people so that when our students fail as you describe it we see it differently. We see this as a [[learning]] [[process]]. We see this as perfectly understandable, even as [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Toddlers toddlers] fall down when they are first attempting to walk, even as children fall out of trees and break their bones, even as adults make minor to horrendous [[mistakes]] in [[magnitude]]. [[Failure]] is only appropriately described, if at all, in the unwillingness to learn from [[experience]], to change [[procedure]], to [[change]] expectation and etc. When you stumble, get back up. When you are unhappy with yourself, let go of that [[judgement]]. Do you see?  

DANIEL:  Leetah we are somewhat more [[mature]] than you [[mortals]] and we have learned to a greater extent that there are [[limits]] to our ability to [[influence]] other people so that when our students fail as you describe it we see it differently. We see this as a [[learning]] [[process]]. We see this as perfectly understandable, even as [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Toddlers toddlers] fall down when they are first attempting to walk, even as children fall out of trees and break their bones, even as adults make minor to horrendous [[mistakes]] in [[magnitude]]. [[Failure]] is only appropriately described, if at all, in the unwillingness to learn from [[experience]], to change [[procedure]], to [[change]] expectation and etc. When you stumble, get back up. When you are unhappy with yourself, let go of that [[judgement]]. Do you see?  

Leetah: Yes. But I think if we are going to hang on to the [[ideal]] then I would say when you fall, when you are [[disappointed]] in yourself then I would say to myself, [[change]], rather than let go of the judgement. If I don't change...there has to be judgement and [[evaluation]] before change can occur. And the only person I can really change is me. So I think there has to be a point of evaluation!  

Leetah: Yes. But I think if we are going to hang on to the [[ideal]] then I would say when you fall, when you are [[disappointed]] in yourself then I would say to myself, [[change]], rather than let go of the judgement. If I don't change...there has to be judgement and [[evaluation]] before change can occur. And the only person I can really change is me. So I think there has to be a point of evaluation!