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Bob: [[Food]]?

Bob: [[Food]]?

Alana: . ...food; that it is more important to you than it is to her. Again, this is just a guess on my part. So in some [[marriages]] there is this [[difference]] in [[roles]] where, let us say, the [[wife]], coming from a [[traditional]] background has been [[trained]] and really enjoys cooking. There must be both factors, not merely the training, but the [[pleasure]] in providing food. The husband, in this hypothetical example, has no training in preparing food, and not much interest in it. This is not a [[difficult]] [[partnership]], for both parties are [[satisfied]] with that arrangement. In this same marriage, coming from a traditional background, the husband is more familiar with [[mechanical]] things and so assumes [[responsibility]] for the [[maintenance]] of the automobiles and other machinery that the wife has no interest in. However, as times change, there are women who are very interested in mechanical things and men who are very interested in cooking. Some men always have been, as the [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chef chefs in France].

Alana: . ...food; that it is more important to you than it is to her. Again, this is just a guess on my part. So in some [[marriages]] there is this [[difference]] in [[roles]] where, let us say, the [[wife]], coming from a [[traditional]] background has been [[trained]] and really enjoys cooking. There must be both factors, not merely the training, but the [[pleasure]] in providing food. The husband, in this hypothetical example, has no training in preparing food, and not much interest in it. This is not a [[difficult]] [[partnership]], for both parties are [[satisfied]] with that arrangement. In this same marriage, coming from a traditional background, the husband is more familiar with [[mechanical]] things and so assumes [[responsibility]] for the [[maintenance]] of the automobiles and other machinery that the wife has no interest in. However, as times change, there are women who are very interested in mechanical things and men who are very interested in cooking. Some men always have been, as the [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chef chefs in France].

These things are there to work out. Again, the [[principle]] is, respect the other person and do not require of that other person that they do as you do, whether or not they want to, you see. To [[force]] an unwilling [[husband]] to cook every other night, to give a [[balance]] in a [[marriage]], as some couples have done, would be a mistake. However, that husband might develop a real interest and [[pleasure]] in cooking, so it is hard to say.

These things are there to work out. Again, the [[principle]] is, respect the other person and do not require of that other person that they do as you do, whether or not they want to, you see. To [[force]] an unwilling [[husband]] to cook every other night, to give a [[balance]] in a [[marriage]], as some couples have done, would be a mistake. However, that husband might develop a real interest and [[pleasure]] in cooking, so it is hard to say.

This [[process]] of learning to [[accept]] [[diversity]], my friends, has just barely begun for you. Just wait till you get [[the constellation]]s! (Laughter) Even on [[Jerusem]], from the many [[inhabited planets]] there are varieties of individuals who vary somewhat. There is a universe full of beings who share common [[spiritual]] [[values]] with you and spiritual [[dignity]], but not necessarily [[Thought Adjusters]]. Still they have spiritual dignity because they are person and they are brothers and sisters in God's great [[universal family]]. No, this is not something that comes naturally. It is something that you will learn and struggle with. However, as you go on, it becomes easier. It becomes easier. The [[mortal]] life is unique. It is bedrock bottom. There is so much to be learned here. I say this with all [[generosity]] that you are all wonderful [[students]] and you are making great [[progress]]. Is there another pressing question?

This [[process]] of learning to [[accept]] [[diversity]], my friends, has just barely begun for you. Just wait till you get [[the constellation]]s! (Laughter) Even on [[Jerusem]], from the many [[inhabited planets]] there are varieties of individuals who vary somewhat. There is a universe full of beings who share common [[spiritual]] [[values]] with you and spiritual [[dignity]], but not necessarily [[Thought Adjusters]]. Still they have spiritual dignity because they are person and they are brothers and sisters in God's great [[universal family]]. No, this is not something that comes naturally. It is something that you will learn and struggle with. However, as you go on, it becomes easier. It becomes easier. The [[mortal]] life is unique. It is bedrock bottom. There is so much to be learned here. I say this with all [[generosity]] that you are all wonderful [[students]] and you are making great [[progress]]. Is there another pressing question?

Virginia: Yes, Daniel, there is. In the comments you made to answer this [[question]] and [[reflecting]] on the first question about whether or not it was a [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Generation_gap generation gap], I believe that young women, today, are caught up in trying to do the activities that will please the gentleman that is [[courting]] them. All of a sudden they are interested in mountain bikes or they are into [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rock_climbing rock climbing]. I just feel that my generation had a lot more [[traditional]] female [[roles]] to play. But I also believe that the young women of today, who are [[eager]] to please the male, become what that male wants or is doing. I know that is a generalized [[statement]] and is not true across the board. But I believe that the [[majority]] of young women are out there pleasing the male, instead of pleasing themselves. I guess my question is, am I observing this, or is it a [[prejudice]] that I have?

Virginia: Yes, Daniel, there is. In the comments you made to answer this [[question]] and [[reflecting]] on the first question about whether or not it was a [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Generation_gap generation gap], I believe that young women, today, are caught up in trying to do the activities that will please the gentleman that is [[courting]] them. All of a sudden they are interested in mountain bikes or they are into [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rock_climbing rock climbing]. I just feel that my generation had a lot more [[traditional]] female [[roles]] to play. But I also believe that the young women of today, who are [[eager]] to please the male, become what that male wants or is doing. I know that is a generalized [[statement]] and is not true across the board. But I believe that the [[majority]] of young women are out there pleasing the male, instead of pleasing themselves. I guess my question is, am I observing this, or is it a [[prejudice]] that I have?

Daniel: Both. (Laughter) It is both, my dear, because, as you say, it is a generalization. It is also true, sometimes, that men try to please women and undertake tasks that the women wish them to do. However, I would have to [[agree]] with you that the [[majority]] are going in the other [[direction]], attempting to please men. I say both because it has to be partly a [[prejudice]], for what else can you do but judge from your [[experience]]? I believe these usual activities in common are another [[transition]] in your [[progress]]. In a perfectly balanced [[relationship]] it is possible for each partner to have their own [[activities]] that the other person gives their [[blessing]] to, but is not required to [[assist]] them with. It is also true that the more things you have in common, which are really meaningful activities, that are on the spiritual level, [[service]] activities and [[worship]], rather than just sports or [[hobbies]], when you have these things in common, this tends to solidify the two partners. Have I addressed this to your [[satisfaction]]?

Daniel: Both. (Laughter) It is both, my dear, because, as you say, it is a generalization. It is also true, sometimes, that men try to please women and undertake tasks that the women wish them to do. However, I would have to [[agree]] with you that the [[majority]] are going in the other [[direction]], attempting to please men. I say both because it has to be partly a [[prejudice]], for what else can you do but judge from your [[experience]]? I believe these usual activities in common are another [[transition]] in your [[progress]]. In a perfectly balanced [[relationship]] it is possible for each partner to have their own [[activities]] that the other person gives their [[blessing]] to, but is not required to [[assist]] them with. It is also true that the more things you have in common, which are really meaningful activities, that are on the spiritual level, [[service]] activities and [[worship]], rather than just sports or [[hobbies]], when you have these things in common, this tends to solidify the two partners. Have I addressed this to your [[satisfaction]]?