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Vicki:  I’m going to move to the birth [[experience]], and I’m not sure you can answer this, but I will ask.  Spiritually speaking, what would you describe as the [[perfect]] condition for one’s birth experience?

Vicki:  I’m going to move to the birth [[experience]], and I’m not sure you can answer this, but I will ask.  Spiritually speaking, what would you describe as the [[perfect]] condition for one’s birth experience?

===='''''[[Childbirth]]''''', '''''[[Grace]]''''', '''''[[Mentor]]'''''====

===='''''[[Birth]]''''', '''''[[Grace]]''''', '''''[[Mentor]]'''''====

MONJORONSON:  Ease and [[Grace]].  (Long pause.)  The [[emotional]] environment of the individual as they enter into this [[experience]] will be [[remembered]] by that [[individual]] in their [[unconscious]] and [[subconscious]] [[mind]].  It requires quite a regressive effort to recall that experience, by most individuals.  It sometimes can be made more easily through [[transpersonal]] [[experiences]], which involve [[accidents]] or some motivating, energetic experience that causes this to occur, with the [[intention]] of recalling those [[events]].  Yet, you can see [[evidence]] of ease and [[grace]] in the [[birth]] [[process]] among individuals around you.  If you were able to talk to the mothers of your [[friends]], or to the mothers of children around you and have them explain the birth experience, you would see a general [[trend]] of calm and tranquility and inner [[peace]] among those individuals who had glad tidings, a welcoming as they came into the world as another [[individual]], as they left their mothering experience.  This helps begin the [[emotional]] [[journey]] outside of the [[womb]].  This [[emotional]] [[experience]], however, did begin earlier before birthing and continues through the birth experience into their [[Childhood|early life]].  

MONJORONSON:  Ease and [[Grace]].  (Long pause.)  The [[emotional]] environment of the individual as they enter into this [[experience]] will be [[remembered]] by that [[individual]] in their [[unconscious]] and [[subconscious]] [[mind]].  It requires quite a regressive effort to recall that experience, by most individuals.  It sometimes can be made more easily through [[transpersonal]] [[experiences]], which involve [[accidents]] or some motivating, energetic experience that causes this to occur, with the [[intention]] of recalling those [[events]].  Yet, you can see [[evidence]] of ease and [[grace]] in the [[birth]] [[process]] among individuals around you.  If you were able to talk to the mothers of your [[friends]], or to the mothers of children around you and have them explain the birth experience, you would see a general [[trend]] of calm and tranquility and inner [[peace]] among those individuals who had glad tidings, a welcoming as they came into the world as another [[individual]], as they left their mothering experience.  This helps begin the [[emotional]] [[journey]] outside of the [[womb]].  This [[emotional]] [[experience]], however, did begin earlier before birthing and continues through the birth experience into their [[Childhood|early life]].  

   

   

In extended family situations, which are [[healthy]], and which have had great [[personal]], [[emotional]], social experiences, children can learn a tremendous amount by the time they leave the [[family]] [[group]], to be on their own.  And it is particularly [[influential]] when one adult member becomes the [[mentor]] to tutor the [[individual]] into [[responsible]] adulthood.  You see that particularly where this is a very positive [[influence]], or a very negative, socially destructive influence.  Tutoring and mentoring can occur from those who are antisocial, and those who are highly social and have the capacity and capability to bring out the best in their own lives, and those in others.  Of course, individuals from the family and clan, or [[community]] become [[mentors]] for many [[children]], and this is where grandparents are particularly useful, because they have already been through the [[turmoil]] and torment of difficulties of early adulthood [with] their own [[families]] and now have the [[peace]], the vast reservoir of [[experiences]] to [[reflect]] upon, and of course the residue of [[wisdom]] that emanates from the [[reflection]] of those experiences.  

In extended family situations, which are [[healthy]], and which have had great [[personal]], [[emotional]], social experiences, children can learn a tremendous amount by the time they leave the [[family]] [[group]], to be on their own.  And it is particularly [[influential]] when one adult member becomes the [[mentor]] to tutor the [[individual]] into [[responsible]] adulthood.  You see that particularly where this is a very positive [[influence]], or a very negative, socially destructive influence.  Tutoring and mentoring can occur from those who are antisocial, and those who are highly social and have the capacity and capability to bring out the best in their own lives, and those in others.  Of course, individuals from the family and clan, or [[community]] become [[mentors]] for many [[children]], and this is where grandparents are particularly useful, because they have already been through the [[turmoil]] and torment of difficulties of early adulthood [with] their own [[families]] and now have the [[peace]], the vast reservoir of [[experiences]] to [[reflect]] upon, and of course the residue of [[wisdom]] that emanates from the [[reflection]] of those experiences.  

   

   

It is important for [[parents]] and [[mentors]], grandparents, to help the child [[reflect]] upon their [[experiences]], to give them the [[capacity]] to [[weigh]] the [[value]], or the severity or the difficulty or [[joy]] of these experiences that they have. Simply saying to them, “This too will pass,” is one way of assisting them and assessing their situation.  Another is to remind the child, “Well, remember last year, when such and such occurred, and how you haven’t [[thought]] about it for months, have you?”  The child will say, “No,” and you will say, “Well then, think of this [[problem]] the same way, that you have a problem to overcome, that you will resolve it and you will be back in [[peace]], and all will be past.”  This [[develops]] the [[resiliency]] of the individual to not only overcome, but [[work]] through the issues and problems of [[personal]] and [[social]] life, during their life’s [[journey]].  So too, experiences of grand accomplishment must also be given the same weighting and assessing [[process]], as those of tremendously [[negative]] and destructive experiences.  Sometimes, positive experiences of a grandiose [[nature]] totally overwhelm the child and they are swept from their [[childhood]], into adulthood, missing the [[wonderful]] era of [[growing]] through their adolescence and all it entails.  

It is important for [[parents]] and [[mentors]], grandparents, to help the child [[reflect]] upon their [[experiences]], to give them the [[capacity]] to [[weigh]] the [[value]], or the severity or the difficulty or [[joy]] of these experiences that they have. Simply saying to them, “This too will pass,” is one way of assisting them and assessing their situation.  Another is to remind the child, “Well, remember last year, when such and such occurred, and how you haven’t [[thought]] about it for months, have you?”  The child will say, “No,” and you will say, “Well then, think of this [[problem]] the same way, that you have a problem to overcome, that you will resolve it and you will be back in [[peace]], and all will be past.”  This [[develops]] the [[resiliency]] of the individual to not only overcome, but [[work]] through the issues and problems of [[personal]] and [[social]] life, during their life’s [[journey]].  So too, experiences of grand accomplishment must also be given the same weighting and assessing [[process]], as those of tremendously [[negative]] and destructive experiences.  Sometimes, positive experiences of a grandiose [[nature]] totally overwhelm the child and they are swept from their [[childhood]], into adulthood, missing the [[wonderful]] era of [[growing]] through their adolescence and all it entails.

 

===='''''[[Prodigies]]'''''====

===='''''[[Prodigies]]'''''====

Child [[prodigies]] are difficult for your [[society]] to [[work]] with, as they are still social children who need to go through the socially [[developmental]] [[process]] of achieving adulthood, peacefully and with capacity to engage their [[eventual]] fame in an appropriate [[manner]].  Your recent example of a tremendous golfer is one that we have in [[mind]].  This wonderful [[person]] had the wonderful and generous assistance of a [[mentor]], who aided him tremendously in the accomplishments of his [[sport]].  Yet when this child’s father passed away, he was left on his own to then deal with his fame on his own, and of course he has fallen from [[grace]] and [[status]] in your [[society]].  This is a [[reflection]] of his lack of [[learning]] from his [[mentor]] [[father]] the [[vicissitudes]] of [http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/fame fame], the succumbing to the [[environment]] of fame, [[power]] and [[money]] by those who would want to [[share]] in his fame and [[wealth]].  

Child [[prodigies]] are difficult for your [[society]] to [[work]] with, as they are still social children who need to go through the socially [[developmental]] [[process]] of achieving adulthood, peacefully and with capacity to engage their [[eventual]] fame in an appropriate [[manner]].  Your recent example of a tremendous golfer is one that we have in [[mind]].  This wonderful [[person]] had the wonderful and generous assistance of a [[mentor]], who aided him tremendously in the accomplishments of his [[sport]].  Yet when this child’s father passed away, he was left on his own to then deal with his fame on his own, and of course he has fallen from [[grace]] and [[status]] in your [[society]].  This is a [[reflection]] of his lack of [[learning]] from his [[mentor]] [[father]] the [[vicissitudes]] of [http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/fame fame], the succumbing to the [[environment]] of fame, [[power]] and [[money]] by those who would want to [[share]] in his fame and [[wealth]].