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===Topic: ''Monjoronson Special Session 5''===
===Group: [[N. Colorado TeaM]]===
==Facilitators==
===Teacher: [[Monjoronson]]===
===TR: [[Daniel Raphael]]===
==Session==
===Opening===
Vicki: Dear [[the Father|Father]], we meet again in this forum and we extend our [[hearts]] and [[minds]] in a [[circuit]] of [[divine]] [[energy]], with the [[intention]] to do your [[will]]. We [[pray]] for your [[guidance]] and your gentle hand in directing us toward [[co-creative]] [[activities]] that are both timely and effective. May those who read these [[words]] also feel the [[love]], [[passion]] and [[blessings]] we [[experience]] from your [[presence]] in our lives, and may it extend throughout their days so that they may apply with heartfelt [[joy]] the wisdom Monjoronson imparts to us. With these [[words]], we are [[humbly]] [[grateful]] for [[Michael]], [[Nebadonia]], [[Monjoronson]], the [[Most Highs]], and all other [[unseen]] [[friends]] who serve you on our behalf. [[Amen]]
Vicki: Good morning, Monjoronson. The [[sun]] is shining here, which is sometimes rare in this neck of the woods, and I am soaking up the rays as we talk together.
MONJORONSON: In our neck of the woods, [[Eternal Son|the Son]]/[[sun]] always shines!
Vicki: Oh, how wonderful! Before we begin, do you have anything you would like to share with us?
MONJORONSON: Yes. It is a [[pleasure]] to see [[measurable]] [[growth]] in those who consistently [[read]] these [[materials]], and who [[study]] them. And not only that, but who incorporate them into their [[being]]. They may not be [[conscious]] of this, but it is a tremendous [[difference]]; and even for those who [[read]] these occasionally, if their [[intention]] is to gain [[wisdom]] and to [[grow]] through this [[process]], then they do and it is measurable. So I congratulate you all for growing, for coming into greater “[[oneness]]” with us and this [[work]], and the [[presence]] of your [[Thought Adjuster]] within each of you. Thank you.
Vicki: Thank you, Monjoronson, and I would just like to take a [[moment]] to thank all of those people that are kind of “back stage” in this [[process]], that don’t always receive [[publicly]], the [[wonderful]] [[blessings]] that we do.
I’m going to begin with kind of an [[experiment]] today, and I [[hope]] this is amenable to the [[transmitting]] [[process]]. As I contemplate the [[content]] of your lessons, I see a [[vision]] [[unfolding]], one that prescribes for us in [[simple]] terms, how to [[prepare]] our [[children]] [[spiritually]]. And I would like to [[share]] this with our [[readers]], as a brief summary. This is not [[intended]] to replace or dilute the depth of your messages, which are so valuable to our [[understanding]], nor is it to be considered as the complete picture, but instead to bring to the [[surface]] key points you have expounded upon. What I would like to do is read this short summary, paraphrased from your [[words]], and then ask for your input. Is that alright?
MONJORONSON: Most certainly; let’s [[experiment]].
===='''''[[Parenting]]'''''====
*Guiding the spiritual growth of children
Vicki: Okay. From your lessons, we learned that [[spiritual]] [[growth]] and [[development]] unfolds best through a gentle and [[continuous]] exposure to the [[presence]] of [[God]], [[encompassed]] and [[applied]] in the [[fabric]] of our daily lives. You speak of one’s need to be [[accepted]] socially as [[equals]], regardless of age or handicap. You caution us not to let [[children]] miss out on frequent [[interactions]] with other children, and also those early [[challenges]] that build strong [[character]] and [[self esteem]]. But you tell us to serve as [[guides]] for them through the [[process]]. You speak of both the negative and positive impacts that [[environmental]] [[influences]] and adult role models have on their development. This impact occurs as early as the [[moment]] of [[conception]] and continues on through their lives. You suggest that we raise children [[morally]] and [[ethically]], as [[God]] [[knowing]]—not God fearing—and you suggest that we assist them in seeing themselves as sons and daughters of the living God, who has planned a [[future]] for them.
Now, having shared this, have I captured the main points here, or is there more you wish to add to my summary?
===='''''[[Intention]]'''''====
*Raising children with intention
MONJORONSON: Only one [[thought]], and that is that [[children]] be brought into the world, and then raised into adulthood with an [[intention]]. It is important that [[parents]] hold this [[intention]] in [[mind]] through the years of their child’s [[existence]] in their [[home]]. This [[intention]] may be [[written]] out on a plaque and placed in the child’s bedroom, or in the parent’s bedroom, where it is there to become aware of and not forgotten. [[Intention]] is important, and this is a [[personal]] and [[private]] [[enterprise]] between the [[parents]] and the [[child]]. This is something they devise on their own, for the child. And when I say, “[[intention]],” it is not for the child to become an accountant, or lawyer, or a company owner, or a [[being]] of that [[material]] [[nature]], but I am speaking of the intention of raising the individual to become as I said earlier, to be [[God]] knowing, to become aware that he or she is a [[child]] of the living [[God]], and they are living sons and daughters of that living God, and that their lives came into [[existence]] through [[intention]], that there was [[commitment]] on the part of the [[parents]] to have this child, [[purposely]] and intentionally. Thank you.
Vicki: Thank you. What a [[wonderful]] [[idea]]! Now I’d like to move on to some additional questions that will [[hopefully]] extend the depth of our [[understanding]], once again. I’d like to begin with a question left over from our last session. There seems to be a [[discrepancy]] between the time when many [[women]] are at their fertile peak to [[Birth|bear]] [[children]], and when in our [[society]] they are [[mature]] enough to raise them. In addition, it appears that young [[men]] are also experiencing a [[maturity]] lag. Could you speak to this?
===='''''[[Culture]]'''''====
Fertile peaks in childbearing and delay in childrearing
MONJORONSON: Most definitely. The lag you speak of is a lag that is [[expressed]] in the [[development]] of a [[culture]]. As a culture becomes more [[educated]], has a greater [[history]] to it, and greater [[experience]] in its [[existence]] and the [[individuals]] begin to invest themselves more in that [[culture]], they as well unconsciously extend their early adulthood, the [[developmental]] [[time]] into the [[future]] before they become needing and wanting to be [[fathers]] and [[mothers]], and to be a part of a [[family]] of their own. This is very [[natural]]. You will see in lesser educated, less culturally developed and evolved cultures, that [[childhood]], [[Parenting|childrearing]], comes into [[existence]] much earlier in their lives. [[Women]] are most [[fertile]]—and as are [[men]]—in their late teens and early twenties, but they are hardly more than [[grown]] [[children]] themselves. The advancement of age before [[consciously]] choosing to become [[fathers]] and [[mothers]] is an important aspect of childrearing, to do this [[consciously]], to do it [[intentionally]], to make a [[commitment]] to that child. You will as well find that usually when [[individuals]] delay childrearing until their late twenties, early thirties, that they have fewer children, and that they invest more of themselves into that. If they see this as an intrusion, albeit one that they [[personally]] chose, into their [[personal]] lives and their [[careers]], it is an important [[development]] of any [[culture]] and signals a [[change]] of the [[energetic]] [[environment]] of a [[culture]]. Thank you.
Vicki: Let me see if I [[understand]] this: Basically then, [[children]] come into this [[fertile]] peak early, when they are still under the [[influence]] of their parents, so that their parents can [[guide]] them. Is that correct?
MONJORONSON: That is correct. You see when and if individuals delay childrearing until their late twenties, early thirties, by the time their children come into early adolescence, they are already in the mid-time of their lives, so that they have greater [[wisdom]] and they too, are in this pivotal area. [[Parents]], too, are [[growing]], but they have the [[wisdom]] and [[experience]] to raise their [[children]] into becoming much more [[effective]] [[partners]] with [[society]]. Thank you.
Vicki: And that pivotal age is one that I think you should probably [[discuss]]. [[Adolescence]]—it certainly provides its [[challenges]], for both the [[child]] and the [[parent]], so I think I’ll direct my questions that I have there, next.
Though we are aware that [[challenges]] are a [[necessary]] ingredient for [[growth]], I am still concerned with the amount of adverse, outside [[influences]] that impact our children and adolescents every day, and it is increasingly harder to shield or protect them from these [[influences]]. What do you recommend we do at this time?
===='''''[[Presence]]'''''====
*The challenging adolescent years
MONJORONSON: Your question and this situation go hand-in-hand with your previous questions and my answers. It is important that when children are brought into [[existence]] by [[parents]], that those parents have the time to rear them, and to be present with them, not on a sporadic basis, but continually so the child is raised in the [[home]] where there is the [[parent]] continuously, and that when the child goes to school, when they come home, there is the parent who is there to greet them and receive them, sit down and [[discuss]] the day and help them [[interpret]] their [[experiences]]. Very few families do that today, and those that do are exceptional, and of course raise exceptional children, who become exceptional adults. It is important that the [[parent]] who receives the child from school be of such age themselves, as to be capable of aiding their child to [[reflect]] upon their [[experiences]] and then give them [[mature]], [[wise]], [[interpretations]] of those [[events]], in the event the child does not do so well on their own, in their reporting.
===='''''[[Materialism]]'''''====
Your [[cultural]] situation in [http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_States this nation] is truly not much [[different]] than it has been through the millennia where adolescents tend to get into [[mischief]], as they [[experiment]] with the [[challenges]] of growing adulthood, whether that is bringing a “skunk” into the tribe’s area, or whether they are in the [[Internet]], bringing pornography into their computer. [[Vigilance]] is a [[necessary]] [[duty]] of parents at all times, in all these [[environments]]. There are many more outside [[influences]], however, which are detrimental to the [[evolving]] [[psyche]] of the child, so the parent must set boundaries and be available to enforce those boundaries for the child’s [[good]], until the child can engrain those boundaries into their own [[thinking]] and adhere to them through their own [[wise]] [[Decision|choice-making]].
Yes, your [[culture]] does have many [[powerful]] [[influences]], they are extremely powerful, and many of them are extremely [[violent]]. This nation is most violent and it is abhorrent to the [[development]] of your [[culture]]. It will be seen as a stain upon this culture for centuries to come—something to be overcome. Thus [[Parenting|childrearing]] is most important and that parents of good [[mature]] [[consciousness]], with a [[commitment]] and [[intention]] to raise the child conscientiously, are present and able to do so.
For those who are [[materialistically]] invested, this may cause great [[compromise]] in the cars they drive, the houses they live in and the [[communities]] where the houses are. There is far too much [[money]] and obligation to [[support]] those [[material]] [[habits]], to raise children effectively. Only those of great [[wealth]] can afford to have all these tremendous material [[assets]], which need to be paid for, and raise children with one of the parents at [[home]]. Thus, those middleclass [[individuals]] who are the majority of your [[population]], it is suggested that they pull back and withhold those material [[pleasures]] from themselves, so that one parent can be available to raise these [[children]]. For those [[individuals]] who [[read]] this and are already greatly indebted to the material proclivities, this may be a [[difficult]] [[choice]] and one that is almost impossible; therefore, during those hours that a [[parent]] is available with the child, parents are urged to make every [[moment]] count by maintaining a conscious [[presence]] with the child. This is conscious [[parenting]] when there is deep [[quality]] time and transference of the [[family]] [[culture]] and [[values]] to the child. Thank you.
Vicki: Thank you. In our [[culture]], when [[children]] reach an adolescent or young adult age, they are often resistant to [[spiritual]] [[guidance]], and [[parents]] find it difficult to engage them in [[spiritual]] activity. I [[understand]] that some of this is part of our [[culture]]’s inability to provide a continuous spiritual growth throughout their childhood. Does it also have something to do with ages and [[stages]] of [[spiritual]] [[development]] that we [[experience]] as well?
Parental Commitment and conscious intention in childrearing
MONJORONSON: Not so much. Again, this [[culture]] is awfully [[busy]]; it is the [[busyness]] it has given itself [that] is far too high and occupies too much [[time]]. The time that parents took in the evenings to read bedtime stories, [[parables]] and [[morals]] to [[children]] while they were in preschool years is commendable, and there is no reason why this same [[commitment]] to time and tucking the children in bed with stories and [[wisdoms]] and later on [[meditations]] and [[prayers]], could not and should not continue. It is the [[choice]] of the [[parent]] to be distracted by other [[things]], rather than their children. It is unfortunate that in this [[culture]], children who go to school come [[home]] and have dinner and then every [[individual]] in the household goes their own way. This is not how a [[family]] is built; this is not how [[communities]] are built and maintained, so that they are morally and socially sustainable. Again, it is the parent’s [[responsibility]] to take the time to be with their [[children]] and to engage them. It is much like teaching young [[children]] and [[adolescents]] [[martial arts]]—it requires [[time]], [[patience]], [[diligence]], instruction and time to [[practice]] those [[skills]]. It is admirable to see children [[learning]] [http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tae_Kwon_Do tae kwon do] and [http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karate karate], and the martial arts lend themselves to [[discipline]] of the [[mind]] and [[prayer]] and [[relationship]] to the [[divine]] as well. We see no loss of [[continuum]] in this [[learning]] [[process]]. It is a matter of your culture being too busy and too distracted by [[individual]] needs, to spend [[time]] with their [[children]]. Parents are far too invested in their [[careers]], and the obligations of their duties to their employment. Many other [[cultures]]—even western cultures—do not invest this kind of unreal amounts of time to their careers after hours, when they are with their [[families]].
It begins with the [[conscious]] [[conception]]. It begins with the conscious [[intention]] of how to raise that child and that [[consciousness]]. That intention, that [[commitment]] does not end even after the child has left [[home]], but then is given to the grandchildren who come [[home]] to visit. If you are going to be [[parents]], then commit yourself and obligate yourselves to those [[duties]]. If you are going to be begrudging or resentful of the time [[necessary]] to raise children, then it is better that you ought not to have children. You can become a very deeply [[spiritually]] centered [[individual]] without having children, and it is your [[responsibility]] to raise those children that way, if you do choose to have them.
===='''''[[Ritual]]'''''====
Vicki: Thank you. I have found that children learn from, and find comfort in [[ritual]]. You did [[touch]] upon a couple, but are there some other rituals you would suggest that we engage children in?
*The important roles of ritual]] and celebration in a child’s life
MONJORONSON: Most definitely! Each child should have a—some [[cultures]] call it an [[altar]]—but they should have a [[sacred]] place in their bedroom or someplace that is theirs; it is a [[private]] space where they can go to be alone. Oftentimes, children have a need for space alone, away from [[parents]] and [[siblings]] and obligations of their own social networks, to be with themselves, and when they are with themselves, they can be with their [[Thought Adjuster]]. This begins early on, even in [[infancy]], where the child has time to [[play]] by themselves, to be with themselves. It is helpful if the adult, the [[parent]], assist that child in [[interpreting]] that time alone, so that they can [[determine]] that this is a time to be with [[God]], to be with their [[Creator]] and to be within the [[growing]], [[spiritual]] [[presence]] within themselves.
Yes, [[rituals]] are extremely important; ceremonies lesser so. Rituals and [[preparation]] for those rituals are important. It is much like two little girls [[practicing]] having tea, where they have little teacups and saucers and milk and so on, and they practice having tea—whether they are English or Japanese, this is a [[preparation]] for adulthood. So, too, is time to be in [[meditation]] and [[prayer]], time alone, time to recreate with the [[Creator]]; it is a [[preparation]] for adulthood.
You have far too little genuine celebration for accomplishment. Your sign of celebration, which we have received and congratulate you on, is the “high five.” It is a “Yes!” to some accomplishment. It is important to signalize, to create a spark of [[memory]], around accomplishments, and this is also [[ceremony]]. And everyone knows that when your pet frog dies that everybody is solemn and you go out and bury the frog with due ceremony and ritual. So, too, must you celebrate when your pet gerbils have offspring, that this is a time of celebration. When ducks fledge and swim, so too is this to be [[observed]] and [[appreciated]]. There are so many rituals and ceremonies that can be accomplished in [[childhood]] that train the [[individual]] to be in [[tune]] with special [[moments]], and this is important. Those special moments can be daily, weekly, monthly, or on some special occurrence or [[event]]. Certainly everyone goes out for pizza and soda drinks after they have won the pennant of their [http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Little_League_Baseball Little League baseball] [[games]], or [http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Soccer soccer], or [http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hockey hockey], or whatever. There is the celebration of accomplishment, the [[attainment]] of goals. So, too, the goals of growing [[spirituality]] in a child is celebrated as well.
I thank you for your question, and it is a [[pleasure]] to assist you in this way. It gives much greater [[meaning]] to [[childhood]] for [[individuals]]. Many of you look back at your childhood as being bereft of significance, of happy times, celebrations, accomplishments, and of the awareness of [[commitment]] by your [[parents]]. It is [[time]] to [[change]] that, so that all are aware of the obligations and [[commitments]] of everyone. Thank you.
Vicki: This is just tremendously [[practical]] [[advice]]. [[Wonderful]]! I [[think]] many people will benefit from this. We talked about the significance and variations in the practice of [[baptism]], and I was going to ask if there are other [[practices]] that would be particularly relevant to [[children]], but I’m [[wondering]] if in your [[reference]] to the [[fact]] that ceremonies are not as important as ritual, if you’ve already answered this question.
===='''''[[Morality]]'''''====
*Celebrating the child’s first moral choice
MONJORONSON: I would add one factor, one important occasion when the child becomes of age to make their first [[moral]] [[choice]]. The first moral choice occurs when the child knows the right options for [[behavior]] and makes the right choice; or knows the right choice and chooses wrongly. The significance is that the child knows the [[difference]] when they make the [[decision]] and then [[acts]] on that decision. This usually occurs between four and six, and is the first [[appearance]] of coming of age and is an initiation into moral adulthood, because this is the age when the [[responsibilities]] of adulthood begin to emerge.
It is important that [[children]] be [[educated]] in this [[process]], so that they are consciously aware of when those [[moments]], those [[decisions]], come into [[existence]] and know [[consciously]] that they are making the right [[decision]], or consciously making the wrong decision. To allow children to remain in ignorance of that [[fact]] unfortunately supports the perpetuation of wrong decision-making. A [[responsibility]] of [[spiritually]] [[oriented]] [[parenting]], of childrearing, is to help the child move out of ignorance and into awareness of the larger aspects of their evolving childhood. This takes nothing away from their childhood. This is a primary [[ceremony]], a primary celebration to signalize the entering into the earliest phase of [[adulthood]] for the child. In this, they will always be reminded of this as they make conscious [[choices]] under the tutelage of their [[parents]]. Thank you.
===='''''[[Discipline]]'''''====
Vicki: Much to think about; many good [[ideas]]. Now we come to the topic of [[discipline]]. I understand that there are factors to consider when disciplining [[children]], such as age, [[maturity]], one’s own [[unique]] [[personality]], and the situation at the time. In general terms though, what do you consider as the most effective and also the most harmful [[practices]] of discipline.
*Effective and ineffective discipline practices
MONJORONSON: The most effective practices of [[discipline]] with children are those disciplines which assist the child in making [[choices]]—[[ethical]], [[social]], [[moral]] choices. The most [[powerfully]] destructive are those which teach the child to be destructive, to be harmful, to see that [[power]] and [[force]] are the way of adulthood. This is most detrimental to the [[thinking]] of the individual, whether or not they [[act]] out this [[violence]] in their adulthood. [[Effective]] [[discipline]] leads the child into effective adulthood; effectively assists them in making [[good]] [[decisions]]. Effective discipline is such that it is a point in time where the child becomes aware of having made a wrong choice. How the [[parent]] engages that [[practice]] of [[discipline]] is a matter of [[maturity]] on the part of the [[parent]] themselves. Parents who have raised more than one child know that oftentimes children come into life with a predisposed [[temperament]] which may be completely at odds with the [[family]]’s [[Lifestyle|way of living]], their [[values]] and their [[beliefs]] and their social [[behaviors]]. That simply means that this child has come into [[existence]] as a young soul who is immature and needs a much firmer hand in the [[discipline]], and the discipline of [[learning]] the helpful and [[supportive]] [[behaviors]] that will assist them in adulthood, getting along with their [[peers]] and their [[communities]].
Some children seem to raise themselves and require little effort to [[guide]] them along the way. [[Discipline]] may be as simple as taking the child aside, sitting them in a chair, looking at them, holding their hands and helping them [[interpret]] what they had done, and assisting them in making right decisions. Too often, the child is belittled, may be punished [[physically]], and may be embarrassed socially. These truly are harshly punitive and [[unnecessary]]. When children have [[privileges]], it gives the parent a [[leverage]] to discipline the child by withholding those privileges. At no time should privileges or any form of punishment be engaged without explaining thoroughly to the child what they have done, what was wrong about it and what is correct in the [[future]]. And, further, at no time should the parent engage in [[discipline]] when they are [[reacting]] to the child’s [[behavior]]. [[Emotional]] reaction by the [[parent]] is harmful, is detrimental and ingrains a [[model]] for [[discipline]] of the child in the [[future]], when they have their own children, which is detrimental then to the grandchildren.
Concerning the perpetuation of [[irrational]] and unproductive disciplines—it is important that they cease; it is important that new [[practices]] of [[discipline]] begin. It may require that the [[parents]] learn from a parenting coach, or from a child [[psychologist]], or grandparents or other parents who have effectively raised children. [[Professionals]] who have not raised children usually are only [[academic]] pros, [[professionals]] at giving [[advice]], rather than having known how to use that advice in their own [[family]] [[environment]]. You will see that discipline is…when you think of disciplining children, you think of giving instruction, you think of giving children a punitive time out or some withholding of privileges, and so on. True [[discipline]] [[leads]] to a way of [[thinking]], a way of engaging your [[environment]] and your world in a productive [[manner]]. [[Self-discipline]] is a [[Art of Living|way of living life]], and knowing the rules and when to bend them and when not to. When rules sometimes [[absolutely]] do not work, then you may have to throw them out. Self-discipline and a disciplined life lead to a life of [[order]], a life of [[practice]], and not to the extent of being obsessive or compulsive, but to have the [[freedom]] to know when you to bend those rules, and when not to; and, know when your daily procedures of self-discipline [[work]] best, and when it is time to [[relax]] and let them go for a while. Thank you.
===='''''[[Race]]''''', '''''[[Diversity]]'''''====
Vicki: Monjoronson, I’m going to move on to a [[discussion]] on the [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Multiculturalism blended family]. First, I want to mention the [[fact]] that I am a part of a blended family, both in religious terms, and racial terms. My husband and I created a blended [[family]]. I’m going to start with this question: As [[future]] [[events]] unfold[http://nordan.daynal.org/wiki/index.php?title=Catastrophism], causing disruption to families, similar to what we’ve seen in [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Haiti Haiti], [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chile Chile], and maybe some other [[events]] that are soon to come, we can expect the [[possibility]] that there will be more [[orphans]], and that there will be more racially blended families. Am I correct? (That is correct.) I’m guessing that this will have both a positive and a negative impact. Could you speak to this?
*Blended families
MONJORONSON: Most certainly. On most [http://nordan.daynal.org/wiki/index.php?title=Paper_49 inhabited planets] that are not [http://nordan.daynal.org/wiki/index.php?title=Paper_58#PAPER_58:_LIFE_ESTABLISHMENT_ON_URANTIA decimal planets], or [[experimental]] [[planets]], as [[earth]] or [[Urantia]], there is the time where the [[races]] of men are blended with the races of [[spirit]]. Your world has not had that benefit to any great [[degree]], to be of great [[influence]] today. Your world struggles with blended families of various [[religions]]. You can have two or three religions being [[practiced]] in one [[family]]. You can have [[individuals]] who are [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Caucasian_race Caucasian], [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Indigenous_peoples_of_the_Americas American Indian], [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Template:Ethnic_groups_of_India East Indian], [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/African African], and [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_ethnic_groups_in_China Chinese] that are in the same [[family]]. For your world and your families, this may or may not be any [[difficulty]]. It most generally occurs that when you have a multiple blended family, racially; someone has made a [[conscious]] [[choice]] to bring those [[children]] into that [[family]]. There is [[receptivity]] to it. It is important for this world, as it moves ahead, to have the removal of [[stigmatism]], [[prejudice]], bias, and [[bigotry]] against [[Race|racial]] aspects of your world. This is a [[fact]] of your world; there are races that are very distinct, and it is important that this outward [[appearance]] not have any [[effect]] upon your estimation of an [[individual]]’s [[worth]]. It is remarkable, however, that you may have a single [[race]] [[family]], where each [[individual]] exhibits far, far greater [[difference]] of [[temperament]] and social [[maturity]] and [[spiritual]] [[evolution]], than a [[http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Multiculturalism blended family], but you [[accept]] each other as the same, because you are of the same [[Body|skin]] [[color]].
In many ways, considering the [[Ascension Career|ascendant journey]] that you will [[experience]] in your [[infinite]] [[ascension]] to [[Paradise]], in the many lifetimes that you will [[experience]] along the way, and all the hundreds of [[different]] [[planets]] upon which you will live and be educated, you will come into contact with not only one or two dozen [[races]], but [[literally]] hundreds of different races of incredibly [[different]] [[individuals]]. As you come into contact with them, even on the [[Mansion Worlds|morontial realm]], you will have capacity when you meet them, to view their [[history]] in their [[Aura|auric field]], their “record,” so to speak. You will see whether they were of a very [[different]] [[body]] shape or style/[[type]], or metabolism, height or [[weight]], or [[dimensions]]. Most all are bilateral in [[nature]], and this is the [[unifying]] factor of all of you. You have on this planet, the [[opportunity]] to overcome shock and amazement at seeing and having [[conversations]] with [[individuals]] who are so diversely [[different]] than you are, [[Vision|visually]]. Yet, and because of this, you have the [[opportunity]] to [[appreciate]] those [[differences]], and secondly, to look within to see who the [[person]] really is. Remember, this is just a “[[costume]]” you are wearing; you are all [[Siblings|brothers and sisters]] of the [[soul]] within, and this is the genuine self who you really are in the [[infinity]] of [[time]]. So see this as an [[opportunity]] to [[develop]] your [[spiritual]] [[growth]] in [[different]] ways.
As for the [[practicality]] of [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_ethnic_groups_in_China adopting] [[children]] from other [[races]], from other [[cultures]], from other nations, other ethnic [[groups]], be aware that you will be required to have great [[patience]]. You should [[examine]] your own [[personal]] [[maturity]] before you do this, as you want to be the best [[influence]] to these children, rather than giving them the lesser [[dimensions]] of your [[behavior]], of your [[personality]]. Thank you.
Vicki: Yes, in having experienced that and having an adopted foreign-born son racially diverse from my husband and I, there are [[challenges]], and [with] these [[challenges]], we found there were others that extended beyond [[race]]. They included [[developmental]] adjustments that the child had to make to a new [[culture]], and also recovery from some very early harmful [[experiences]]. Do you have anything else to add to that?
MONJORONSON: No, you have spoken well.
Vicki: This is a [[curiosity]] question—I’m not even sure if you might have answered it, in talking about past [[discussions]] of [[genetics]]—I’ll give this a try: As [[parents]] of an adopted and racially [[diverse]] foreign-born son, who joined our [[family]] in early infancy, we observed some cultural propensities, not typical of the culture we raised him in, but more typical of his [[ancestral]] [[culture]]. Some say that the cultural practices and orientations of our early ancestors, is deeply ingrained, and indeed stored in our [[DNA]]. Is this a valid [[assumption]]? (Yes.) Okay, then my next question takes a [[spiritual]] turn here: Does our ancestral [[DNA]] then affect our leaning toward certain [[spiritual]] [[practices]] and [[beliefs]], regardless of [[environmental]] [[influences]]? (Yes.) Can you speak to that more?
===='''''[[DNA]]'''''====
*Culture, thinking and behavior imprinted on genes
MONJORONSON: Certainly. I have spoken to you before about the imprinting [[process]] of [[behaviors]] and [[cultures]] and [[thinking]], upon your [[gene]] [[structure]]. What your genetic [[scientists]] have not [[discovered]], and perhaps will not discover for quite some time, is the encoding [[process]], where it is encoded, how it is retained, and how it is [[expressed]] later in the progeny of those who have learned new [[behaviors]]. Yes, the [[powerful]] [[influences]] of your [[culture]], of your [[thinking]], of your [[behavior]], do imprint on your [[gene]] [[structure]], and are transferred to others even after the [[birth]] of your [[children]]. It is a remarkable [[process]] that few will discover, or understand thoroughly for decades, if not for centuries, as this is one of the [[mysteries]] of life. Just as no one of your [[scientists]] will ever discover how the [http://nordan.daynal.org/wiki/index.php?title=Paper_36#36:3._LIFE_TRANSPLANTATION spark of life] initiates life and imprints itself upon that [[growing]] [[embryo]], they will have as much [[difficulty]] [[understanding]] the imprinting process, upon the gene [[structure]] of individuals and its transference.
It is both [[individual]], and it is [[cultural]], and it is [[racial]]—racial meaning, I should rather say, “[[species]] specific”—that the species of [[humankind]] holds an [[energetic]] [[cosmic]] [[mind]], [[cosmic consciousness]], planetary consciousness, that affects all those who enter into this [[energetic]] realm. Were your children raised on the moon, they would still have ties to the [[earth]], earth’s [[population]] and the mass of humankind’s [[consciousness]], simply because they are of that kind. So it is that your adopted children from another [[race]] often begin to exhibit [[practices]] which their parents or grandparents—or someone else—earlier in their heritage had practiced. They will have interests that tend to move them towards areas of the [[past]]. These may [[express]] soon, or they may express later in life. Sometimes these racial [[memories]] do not come into expression and awareness in the individual until later in life, in the 30’s and 40’s, when there is time to [[reflect]] and to have the [[consciousness]] that they are [[different]], and they begin to [[measure]] how they are [[different]], and of course this ignites a chain of [[memories]], or a chain of [[thoughts]] that [[reflect]] their earlier [[ancestry]].
This is a fascinating area of the [[Life Carriers]]; it is part of their own [[discipline]] for bringing into [[existence]] the [[survival]] capacity of a [[species]] of [[individuals]] on a [[planet]]. It is important for the [[survival]] of that species, that they be able to transfer the [[wisdom]] of the [[races]] forward. Consciously engaging this [[process]], knowing that you are making a [[difference]] in this and future [[generations]], is perhaps one of the most conscientious aspects that you can have as a [[participant]] of a [[race]] of [[mortal]] [[beings]], who have [[Thought Adjusters]]. This is the greatest [[service]] one can provide to their world, and to [[future]] [[generations]]. Thank you.
===Closing===
Vicki: I think that concludes our session. I would really like to thank you, Monjoronson, for this session. It has been one of my favorites. I lean towards the sessions that give us [[practical]] [[advice]] and help us now, in our [[co-creative]] efforts. You have provided a [[wealth]] of knowledge here today, and I truly [[appreciate]] it.
===='''''[[Spirituality]]'''''====
*Practical Spirituality 101
MONJORONSON: You are most welcome. You have among you, several [[Melchizedeks]], who are [[Mansion World|morontial world]] [[teachers]], and they would call this, “Practical Spirituality 101.” It is a conscious engagement of living life as a [[spiritual]] being on a [[material]] world, and this is a [[continuum]] that does not end. It is simply a matter of [[knowing]] that you are not separated from your [[Creator]], you are not separated from [[individuals]], either by life or [[death]], by [[culture]] or [[planet]] of [[origin]]. Thank you.
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===Topic: ''Monjoronson Special Session 5''===
===Group: [[N. Colorado TeaM]]===
==Facilitators==
===Teacher: [[Monjoronson]]===
===TR: [[Daniel Raphael]]===
==Session==
===Opening===
Vicki: Dear [[the Father|Father]], we meet again in this forum and we extend our [[hearts]] and [[minds]] in a [[circuit]] of [[divine]] [[energy]], with the [[intention]] to do your [[will]]. We [[pray]] for your [[guidance]] and your gentle hand in directing us toward [[co-creative]] [[activities]] that are both timely and effective. May those who read these [[words]] also feel the [[love]], [[passion]] and [[blessings]] we [[experience]] from your [[presence]] in our lives, and may it extend throughout their days so that they may apply with heartfelt [[joy]] the wisdom Monjoronson imparts to us. With these [[words]], we are [[humbly]] [[grateful]] for [[Michael]], [[Nebadonia]], [[Monjoronson]], the [[Most Highs]], and all other [[unseen]] [[friends]] who serve you on our behalf. [[Amen]]
Vicki: Good morning, Monjoronson. The [[sun]] is shining here, which is sometimes rare in this neck of the woods, and I am soaking up the rays as we talk together.
MONJORONSON: In our neck of the woods, [[Eternal Son|the Son]]/[[sun]] always shines!
Vicki: Oh, how wonderful! Before we begin, do you have anything you would like to share with us?
MONJORONSON: Yes. It is a [[pleasure]] to see [[measurable]] [[growth]] in those who consistently [[read]] these [[materials]], and who [[study]] them. And not only that, but who incorporate them into their [[being]]. They may not be [[conscious]] of this, but it is a tremendous [[difference]]; and even for those who [[read]] these occasionally, if their [[intention]] is to gain [[wisdom]] and to [[grow]] through this [[process]], then they do and it is measurable. So I congratulate you all for growing, for coming into greater “[[oneness]]” with us and this [[work]], and the [[presence]] of your [[Thought Adjuster]] within each of you. Thank you.
Vicki: Thank you, Monjoronson, and I would just like to take a [[moment]] to thank all of those people that are kind of “back stage” in this [[process]], that don’t always receive [[publicly]], the [[wonderful]] [[blessings]] that we do.
I’m going to begin with kind of an [[experiment]] today, and I [[hope]] this is amenable to the [[transmitting]] [[process]]. As I contemplate the [[content]] of your lessons, I see a [[vision]] [[unfolding]], one that prescribes for us in [[simple]] terms, how to [[prepare]] our [[children]] [[spiritually]]. And I would like to [[share]] this with our [[readers]], as a brief summary. This is not [[intended]] to replace or dilute the depth of your messages, which are so valuable to our [[understanding]], nor is it to be considered as the complete picture, but instead to bring to the [[surface]] key points you have expounded upon. What I would like to do is read this short summary, paraphrased from your [[words]], and then ask for your input. Is that alright?
MONJORONSON: Most certainly; let’s [[experiment]].
===='''''[[Parenting]]'''''====
*Guiding the spiritual growth of children
Vicki: Okay. From your lessons, we learned that [[spiritual]] [[growth]] and [[development]] unfolds best through a gentle and [[continuous]] exposure to the [[presence]] of [[God]], [[encompassed]] and [[applied]] in the [[fabric]] of our daily lives. You speak of one’s need to be [[accepted]] socially as [[equals]], regardless of age or handicap. You caution us not to let [[children]] miss out on frequent [[interactions]] with other children, and also those early [[challenges]] that build strong [[character]] and [[self esteem]]. But you tell us to serve as [[guides]] for them through the [[process]]. You speak of both the negative and positive impacts that [[environmental]] [[influences]] and adult role models have on their development. This impact occurs as early as the [[moment]] of [[conception]] and continues on through their lives. You suggest that we raise children [[morally]] and [[ethically]], as [[God]] [[knowing]]—not God fearing—and you suggest that we assist them in seeing themselves as sons and daughters of the living God, who has planned a [[future]] for them.
Now, having shared this, have I captured the main points here, or is there more you wish to add to my summary?
===='''''[[Intention]]'''''====
*Raising children with intention
MONJORONSON: Only one [[thought]], and that is that [[children]] be brought into the world, and then raised into adulthood with an [[intention]]. It is important that [[parents]] hold this [[intention]] in [[mind]] through the years of their child’s [[existence]] in their [[home]]. This [[intention]] may be [[written]] out on a plaque and placed in the child’s bedroom, or in the parent’s bedroom, where it is there to become aware of and not forgotten. [[Intention]] is important, and this is a [[personal]] and [[private]] [[enterprise]] between the [[parents]] and the [[child]]. This is something they devise on their own, for the child. And when I say, “[[intention]],” it is not for the child to become an accountant, or lawyer, or a company owner, or a [[being]] of that [[material]] [[nature]], but I am speaking of the intention of raising the individual to become as I said earlier, to be [[God]] knowing, to become aware that he or she is a [[child]] of the living [[God]], and they are living sons and daughters of that living God, and that their lives came into [[existence]] through [[intention]], that there was [[commitment]] on the part of the [[parents]] to have this child, [[purposely]] and intentionally. Thank you.
Vicki: Thank you. What a [[wonderful]] [[idea]]! Now I’d like to move on to some additional questions that will [[hopefully]] extend the depth of our [[understanding]], once again. I’d like to begin with a question left over from our last session. There seems to be a [[discrepancy]] between the time when many [[women]] are at their fertile peak to [[Birth|bear]] [[children]], and when in our [[society]] they are [[mature]] enough to raise them. In addition, it appears that young [[men]] are also experiencing a [[maturity]] lag. Could you speak to this?
===='''''[[Culture]]'''''====
Fertile peaks in childbearing and delay in childrearing
MONJORONSON: Most definitely. The lag you speak of is a lag that is [[expressed]] in the [[development]] of a [[culture]]. As a culture becomes more [[educated]], has a greater [[history]] to it, and greater [[experience]] in its [[existence]] and the [[individuals]] begin to invest themselves more in that [[culture]], they as well unconsciously extend their early adulthood, the [[developmental]] [[time]] into the [[future]] before they become needing and wanting to be [[fathers]] and [[mothers]], and to be a part of a [[family]] of their own. This is very [[natural]]. You will see in lesser educated, less culturally developed and evolved cultures, that [[childhood]], [[Parenting|childrearing]], comes into [[existence]] much earlier in their lives. [[Women]] are most [[fertile]]—and as are [[men]]—in their late teens and early twenties, but they are hardly more than [[grown]] [[children]] themselves. The advancement of age before [[consciously]] choosing to become [[fathers]] and [[mothers]] is an important aspect of childrearing, to do this [[consciously]], to do it [[intentionally]], to make a [[commitment]] to that child. You will as well find that usually when [[individuals]] delay childrearing until their late twenties, early thirties, that they have fewer children, and that they invest more of themselves into that. If they see this as an intrusion, albeit one that they [[personally]] chose, into their [[personal]] lives and their [[careers]], it is an important [[development]] of any [[culture]] and signals a [[change]] of the [[energetic]] [[environment]] of a [[culture]]. Thank you.
Vicki: Let me see if I [[understand]] this: Basically then, [[children]] come into this [[fertile]] peak early, when they are still under the [[influence]] of their parents, so that their parents can [[guide]] them. Is that correct?
MONJORONSON: That is correct. You see when and if individuals delay childrearing until their late twenties, early thirties, by the time their children come into early adolescence, they are already in the mid-time of their lives, so that they have greater [[wisdom]] and they too, are in this pivotal area. [[Parents]], too, are [[growing]], but they have the [[wisdom]] and [[experience]] to raise their [[children]] into becoming much more [[effective]] [[partners]] with [[society]]. Thank you.
Vicki: And that pivotal age is one that I think you should probably [[discuss]]. [[Adolescence]]—it certainly provides its [[challenges]], for both the [[child]] and the [[parent]], so I think I’ll direct my questions that I have there, next.
Though we are aware that [[challenges]] are a [[necessary]] ingredient for [[growth]], I am still concerned with the amount of adverse, outside [[influences]] that impact our children and adolescents every day, and it is increasingly harder to shield or protect them from these [[influences]]. What do you recommend we do at this time?
===='''''[[Presence]]'''''====
*The challenging adolescent years
MONJORONSON: Your question and this situation go hand-in-hand with your previous questions and my answers. It is important that when children are brought into [[existence]] by [[parents]], that those parents have the time to rear them, and to be present with them, not on a sporadic basis, but continually so the child is raised in the [[home]] where there is the [[parent]] continuously, and that when the child goes to school, when they come home, there is the parent who is there to greet them and receive them, sit down and [[discuss]] the day and help them [[interpret]] their [[experiences]]. Very few families do that today, and those that do are exceptional, and of course raise exceptional children, who become exceptional adults. It is important that the [[parent]] who receives the child from school be of such age themselves, as to be capable of aiding their child to [[reflect]] upon their [[experiences]] and then give them [[mature]], [[wise]], [[interpretations]] of those [[events]], in the event the child does not do so well on their own, in their reporting.
===='''''[[Materialism]]'''''====
Your [[cultural]] situation in [http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_States this nation] is truly not much [[different]] than it has been through the millennia where adolescents tend to get into [[mischief]], as they [[experiment]] with the [[challenges]] of growing adulthood, whether that is bringing a “skunk” into the tribe’s area, or whether they are in the [[Internet]], bringing pornography into their computer. [[Vigilance]] is a [[necessary]] [[duty]] of parents at all times, in all these [[environments]]. There are many more outside [[influences]], however, which are detrimental to the [[evolving]] [[psyche]] of the child, so the parent must set boundaries and be available to enforce those boundaries for the child’s [[good]], until the child can engrain those boundaries into their own [[thinking]] and adhere to them through their own [[wise]] [[Decision|choice-making]].
Yes, your [[culture]] does have many [[powerful]] [[influences]], they are extremely powerful, and many of them are extremely [[violent]]. This nation is most violent and it is abhorrent to the [[development]] of your [[culture]]. It will be seen as a stain upon this culture for centuries to come—something to be overcome. Thus [[Parenting|childrearing]] is most important and that parents of good [[mature]] [[consciousness]], with a [[commitment]] and [[intention]] to raise the child conscientiously, are present and able to do so.
For those who are [[materialistically]] invested, this may cause great [[compromise]] in the cars they drive, the houses they live in and the [[communities]] where the houses are. There is far too much [[money]] and obligation to [[support]] those [[material]] [[habits]], to raise children effectively. Only those of great [[wealth]] can afford to have all these tremendous material [[assets]], which need to be paid for, and raise children with one of the parents at [[home]]. Thus, those middleclass [[individuals]] who are the majority of your [[population]], it is suggested that they pull back and withhold those material [[pleasures]] from themselves, so that one parent can be available to raise these [[children]]. For those [[individuals]] who [[read]] this and are already greatly indebted to the material proclivities, this may be a [[difficult]] [[choice]] and one that is almost impossible; therefore, during those hours that a [[parent]] is available with the child, parents are urged to make every [[moment]] count by maintaining a conscious [[presence]] with the child. This is conscious [[parenting]] when there is deep [[quality]] time and transference of the [[family]] [[culture]] and [[values]] to the child. Thank you.
Vicki: Thank you. In our [[culture]], when [[children]] reach an adolescent or young adult age, they are often resistant to [[spiritual]] [[guidance]], and [[parents]] find it difficult to engage them in [[spiritual]] activity. I [[understand]] that some of this is part of our [[culture]]’s inability to provide a continuous spiritual growth throughout their childhood. Does it also have something to do with ages and [[stages]] of [[spiritual]] [[development]] that we [[experience]] as well?
Parental Commitment and conscious intention in childrearing
MONJORONSON: Not so much. Again, this [[culture]] is awfully [[busy]]; it is the [[busyness]] it has given itself [that] is far too high and occupies too much [[time]]. The time that parents took in the evenings to read bedtime stories, [[parables]] and [[morals]] to [[children]] while they were in preschool years is commendable, and there is no reason why this same [[commitment]] to time and tucking the children in bed with stories and [[wisdoms]] and later on [[meditations]] and [[prayers]], could not and should not continue. It is the [[choice]] of the [[parent]] to be distracted by other [[things]], rather than their children. It is unfortunate that in this [[culture]], children who go to school come [[home]] and have dinner and then every [[individual]] in the household goes their own way. This is not how a [[family]] is built; this is not how [[communities]] are built and maintained, so that they are morally and socially sustainable. Again, it is the parent’s [[responsibility]] to take the time to be with their [[children]] and to engage them. It is much like teaching young [[children]] and [[adolescents]] [[martial arts]]—it requires [[time]], [[patience]], [[diligence]], instruction and time to [[practice]] those [[skills]]. It is admirable to see children [[learning]] [http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tae_Kwon_Do tae kwon do] and [http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karate karate], and the martial arts lend themselves to [[discipline]] of the [[mind]] and [[prayer]] and [[relationship]] to the [[divine]] as well. We see no loss of [[continuum]] in this [[learning]] [[process]]. It is a matter of your culture being too busy and too distracted by [[individual]] needs, to spend [[time]] with their [[children]]. Parents are far too invested in their [[careers]], and the obligations of their duties to their employment. Many other [[cultures]]—even western cultures—do not invest this kind of unreal amounts of time to their careers after hours, when they are with their [[families]].
It begins with the [[conscious]] [[conception]]. It begins with the conscious [[intention]] of how to raise that child and that [[consciousness]]. That intention, that [[commitment]] does not end even after the child has left [[home]], but then is given to the grandchildren who come [[home]] to visit. If you are going to be [[parents]], then commit yourself and obligate yourselves to those [[duties]]. If you are going to be begrudging or resentful of the time [[necessary]] to raise children, then it is better that you ought not to have children. You can become a very deeply [[spiritually]] centered [[individual]] without having children, and it is your [[responsibility]] to raise those children that way, if you do choose to have them.
===='''''[[Ritual]]'''''====
Vicki: Thank you. I have found that children learn from, and find comfort in [[ritual]]. You did [[touch]] upon a couple, but are there some other rituals you would suggest that we engage children in?
*The important roles of ritual]] and celebration in a child’s life
MONJORONSON: Most definitely! Each child should have a—some [[cultures]] call it an [[altar]]—but they should have a [[sacred]] place in their bedroom or someplace that is theirs; it is a [[private]] space where they can go to be alone. Oftentimes, children have a need for space alone, away from [[parents]] and [[siblings]] and obligations of their own social networks, to be with themselves, and when they are with themselves, they can be with their [[Thought Adjuster]]. This begins early on, even in [[infancy]], where the child has time to [[play]] by themselves, to be with themselves. It is helpful if the adult, the [[parent]], assist that child in [[interpreting]] that time alone, so that they can [[determine]] that this is a time to be with [[God]], to be with their [[Creator]] and to be within the [[growing]], [[spiritual]] [[presence]] within themselves.
Yes, [[rituals]] are extremely important; ceremonies lesser so. Rituals and [[preparation]] for those rituals are important. It is much like two little girls [[practicing]] having tea, where they have little teacups and saucers and milk and so on, and they practice having tea—whether they are English or Japanese, this is a [[preparation]] for adulthood. So, too, is time to be in [[meditation]] and [[prayer]], time alone, time to recreate with the [[Creator]]; it is a [[preparation]] for adulthood.
You have far too little genuine celebration for accomplishment. Your sign of celebration, which we have received and congratulate you on, is the “high five.” It is a “Yes!” to some accomplishment. It is important to signalize, to create a spark of [[memory]], around accomplishments, and this is also [[ceremony]]. And everyone knows that when your pet frog dies that everybody is solemn and you go out and bury the frog with due ceremony and ritual. So, too, must you celebrate when your pet gerbils have offspring, that this is a time of celebration. When ducks fledge and swim, so too is this to be [[observed]] and [[appreciated]]. There are so many rituals and ceremonies that can be accomplished in [[childhood]] that train the [[individual]] to be in [[tune]] with special [[moments]], and this is important. Those special moments can be daily, weekly, monthly, or on some special occurrence or [[event]]. Certainly everyone goes out for pizza and soda drinks after they have won the pennant of their [http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Little_League_Baseball Little League baseball] [[games]], or [http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Soccer soccer], or [http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hockey hockey], or whatever. There is the celebration of accomplishment, the [[attainment]] of goals. So, too, the goals of growing [[spirituality]] in a child is celebrated as well.
I thank you for your question, and it is a [[pleasure]] to assist you in this way. It gives much greater [[meaning]] to [[childhood]] for [[individuals]]. Many of you look back at your childhood as being bereft of significance, of happy times, celebrations, accomplishments, and of the awareness of [[commitment]] by your [[parents]]. It is [[time]] to [[change]] that, so that all are aware of the obligations and [[commitments]] of everyone. Thank you.
Vicki: This is just tremendously [[practical]] [[advice]]. [[Wonderful]]! I [[think]] many people will benefit from this. We talked about the significance and variations in the practice of [[baptism]], and I was going to ask if there are other [[practices]] that would be particularly relevant to [[children]], but I’m [[wondering]] if in your [[reference]] to the [[fact]] that ceremonies are not as important as ritual, if you’ve already answered this question.
===='''''[[Morality]]'''''====
*Celebrating the child’s first moral choice
MONJORONSON: I would add one factor, one important occasion when the child becomes of age to make their first [[moral]] [[choice]]. The first moral choice occurs when the child knows the right options for [[behavior]] and makes the right choice; or knows the right choice and chooses wrongly. The significance is that the child knows the [[difference]] when they make the [[decision]] and then [[acts]] on that decision. This usually occurs between four and six, and is the first [[appearance]] of coming of age and is an initiation into moral adulthood, because this is the age when the [[responsibilities]] of adulthood begin to emerge.
It is important that [[children]] be [[educated]] in this [[process]], so that they are consciously aware of when those [[moments]], those [[decisions]], come into [[existence]] and know [[consciously]] that they are making the right [[decision]], or consciously making the wrong decision. To allow children to remain in ignorance of that [[fact]] unfortunately supports the perpetuation of wrong decision-making. A [[responsibility]] of [[spiritually]] [[oriented]] [[parenting]], of childrearing, is to help the child move out of ignorance and into awareness of the larger aspects of their evolving childhood. This takes nothing away from their childhood. This is a primary [[ceremony]], a primary celebration to signalize the entering into the earliest phase of [[adulthood]] for the child. In this, they will always be reminded of this as they make conscious [[choices]] under the tutelage of their [[parents]]. Thank you.
===='''''[[Discipline]]'''''====
Vicki: Much to think about; many good [[ideas]]. Now we come to the topic of [[discipline]]. I understand that there are factors to consider when disciplining [[children]], such as age, [[maturity]], one’s own [[unique]] [[personality]], and the situation at the time. In general terms though, what do you consider as the most effective and also the most harmful [[practices]] of discipline.
*Effective and ineffective discipline practices
MONJORONSON: The most effective practices of [[discipline]] with children are those disciplines which assist the child in making [[choices]]—[[ethical]], [[social]], [[moral]] choices. The most [[powerfully]] destructive are those which teach the child to be destructive, to be harmful, to see that [[power]] and [[force]] are the way of adulthood. This is most detrimental to the [[thinking]] of the individual, whether or not they [[act]] out this [[violence]] in their adulthood. [[Effective]] [[discipline]] leads the child into effective adulthood; effectively assists them in making [[good]] [[decisions]]. Effective discipline is such that it is a point in time where the child becomes aware of having made a wrong choice. How the [[parent]] engages that [[practice]] of [[discipline]] is a matter of [[maturity]] on the part of the [[parent]] themselves. Parents who have raised more than one child know that oftentimes children come into life with a predisposed [[temperament]] which may be completely at odds with the [[family]]’s [[Lifestyle|way of living]], their [[values]] and their [[beliefs]] and their social [[behaviors]]. That simply means that this child has come into [[existence]] as a young soul who is immature and needs a much firmer hand in the [[discipline]], and the discipline of [[learning]] the helpful and [[supportive]] [[behaviors]] that will assist them in adulthood, getting along with their [[peers]] and their [[communities]].
Some children seem to raise themselves and require little effort to [[guide]] them along the way. [[Discipline]] may be as simple as taking the child aside, sitting them in a chair, looking at them, holding their hands and helping them [[interpret]] what they had done, and assisting them in making right decisions. Too often, the child is belittled, may be punished [[physically]], and may be embarrassed socially. These truly are harshly punitive and [[unnecessary]]. When children have [[privileges]], it gives the parent a [[leverage]] to discipline the child by withholding those privileges. At no time should privileges or any form of punishment be engaged without explaining thoroughly to the child what they have done, what was wrong about it and what is correct in the [[future]]. And, further, at no time should the parent engage in [[discipline]] when they are [[reacting]] to the child’s [[behavior]]. [[Emotional]] reaction by the [[parent]] is harmful, is detrimental and ingrains a [[model]] for [[discipline]] of the child in the [[future]], when they have their own children, which is detrimental then to the grandchildren.
Concerning the perpetuation of [[irrational]] and unproductive disciplines—it is important that they cease; it is important that new [[practices]] of [[discipline]] begin. It may require that the [[parents]] learn from a parenting coach, or from a child [[psychologist]], or grandparents or other parents who have effectively raised children. [[Professionals]] who have not raised children usually are only [[academic]] pros, [[professionals]] at giving [[advice]], rather than having known how to use that advice in their own [[family]] [[environment]]. You will see that discipline is…when you think of disciplining children, you think of giving instruction, you think of giving children a punitive time out or some withholding of privileges, and so on. True [[discipline]] [[leads]] to a way of [[thinking]], a way of engaging your [[environment]] and your world in a productive [[manner]]. [[Self-discipline]] is a [[Art of Living|way of living life]], and knowing the rules and when to bend them and when not to. When rules sometimes [[absolutely]] do not work, then you may have to throw them out. Self-discipline and a disciplined life lead to a life of [[order]], a life of [[practice]], and not to the extent of being obsessive or compulsive, but to have the [[freedom]] to know when you to bend those rules, and when not to; and, know when your daily procedures of self-discipline [[work]] best, and when it is time to [[relax]] and let them go for a while. Thank you.
===='''''[[Race]]''''', '''''[[Diversity]]'''''====
Vicki: Monjoronson, I’m going to move on to a [[discussion]] on the [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Multiculturalism blended family]. First, I want to mention the [[fact]] that I am a part of a blended family, both in religious terms, and racial terms. My husband and I created a blended [[family]]. I’m going to start with this question: As [[future]] [[events]] unfold[http://nordan.daynal.org/wiki/index.php?title=Catastrophism], causing disruption to families, similar to what we’ve seen in [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Haiti Haiti], [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chile Chile], and maybe some other [[events]] that are soon to come, we can expect the [[possibility]] that there will be more [[orphans]], and that there will be more racially blended families. Am I correct? (That is correct.) I’m guessing that this will have both a positive and a negative impact. Could you speak to this?
*Blended families
MONJORONSON: Most certainly. On most [http://nordan.daynal.org/wiki/index.php?title=Paper_49 inhabited planets] that are not [http://nordan.daynal.org/wiki/index.php?title=Paper_58#PAPER_58:_LIFE_ESTABLISHMENT_ON_URANTIA decimal planets], or [[experimental]] [[planets]], as [[earth]] or [[Urantia]], there is the time where the [[races]] of men are blended with the races of [[spirit]]. Your world has not had that benefit to any great [[degree]], to be of great [[influence]] today. Your world struggles with blended families of various [[religions]]. You can have two or three religions being [[practiced]] in one [[family]]. You can have [[individuals]] who are [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Caucasian_race Caucasian], [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Indigenous_peoples_of_the_Americas American Indian], [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Template:Ethnic_groups_of_India East Indian], [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/African African], and [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_ethnic_groups_in_China Chinese] that are in the same [[family]]. For your world and your families, this may or may not be any [[difficulty]]. It most generally occurs that when you have a multiple blended family, racially; someone has made a [[conscious]] [[choice]] to bring those [[children]] into that [[family]]. There is [[receptivity]] to it. It is important for this world, as it moves ahead, to have the removal of [[stigmatism]], [[prejudice]], bias, and [[bigotry]] against [[Race|racial]] aspects of your world. This is a [[fact]] of your world; there are races that are very distinct, and it is important that this outward [[appearance]] not have any [[effect]] upon your estimation of an [[individual]]’s [[worth]]. It is remarkable, however, that you may have a single [[race]] [[family]], where each [[individual]] exhibits far, far greater [[difference]] of [[temperament]] and social [[maturity]] and [[spiritual]] [[evolution]], than a [[http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Multiculturalism blended family], but you [[accept]] each other as the same, because you are of the same [[Body|skin]] [[color]].
In many ways, considering the [[Ascension Career|ascendant journey]] that you will [[experience]] in your [[infinite]] [[ascension]] to [[Paradise]], in the many lifetimes that you will [[experience]] along the way, and all the hundreds of [[different]] [[planets]] upon which you will live and be educated, you will come into contact with not only one or two dozen [[races]], but [[literally]] hundreds of different races of incredibly [[different]] [[individuals]]. As you come into contact with them, even on the [[Mansion Worlds|morontial realm]], you will have capacity when you meet them, to view their [[history]] in their [[Aura|auric field]], their “record,” so to speak. You will see whether they were of a very [[different]] [[body]] shape or style/[[type]], or metabolism, height or [[weight]], or [[dimensions]]. Most all are bilateral in [[nature]], and this is the [[unifying]] factor of all of you. You have on this planet, the [[opportunity]] to overcome shock and amazement at seeing and having [[conversations]] with [[individuals]] who are so diversely [[different]] than you are, [[Vision|visually]]. Yet, and because of this, you have the [[opportunity]] to [[appreciate]] those [[differences]], and secondly, to look within to see who the [[person]] really is. Remember, this is just a “[[costume]]” you are wearing; you are all [[Siblings|brothers and sisters]] of the [[soul]] within, and this is the genuine self who you really are in the [[infinity]] of [[time]]. So see this as an [[opportunity]] to [[develop]] your [[spiritual]] [[growth]] in [[different]] ways.
As for the [[practicality]] of [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_ethnic_groups_in_China adopting] [[children]] from other [[races]], from other [[cultures]], from other nations, other ethnic [[groups]], be aware that you will be required to have great [[patience]]. You should [[examine]] your own [[personal]] [[maturity]] before you do this, as you want to be the best [[influence]] to these children, rather than giving them the lesser [[dimensions]] of your [[behavior]], of your [[personality]]. Thank you.
Vicki: Yes, in having experienced that and having an adopted foreign-born son racially diverse from my husband and I, there are [[challenges]], and [with] these [[challenges]], we found there were others that extended beyond [[race]]. They included [[developmental]] adjustments that the child had to make to a new [[culture]], and also recovery from some very early harmful [[experiences]]. Do you have anything else to add to that?
MONJORONSON: No, you have spoken well.
Vicki: This is a [[curiosity]] question—I’m not even sure if you might have answered it, in talking about past [[discussions]] of [[genetics]]—I’ll give this a try: As [[parents]] of an adopted and racially [[diverse]] foreign-born son, who joined our [[family]] in early infancy, we observed some cultural propensities, not typical of the culture we raised him in, but more typical of his [[ancestral]] [[culture]]. Some say that the cultural practices and orientations of our early ancestors, is deeply ingrained, and indeed stored in our [[DNA]]. Is this a valid [[assumption]]? (Yes.) Okay, then my next question takes a [[spiritual]] turn here: Does our ancestral [[DNA]] then affect our leaning toward certain [[spiritual]] [[practices]] and [[beliefs]], regardless of [[environmental]] [[influences]]? (Yes.) Can you speak to that more?
===='''''[[DNA]]'''''====
*Culture, thinking and behavior imprinted on genes
MONJORONSON: Certainly. I have spoken to you before about the imprinting [[process]] of [[behaviors]] and [[cultures]] and [[thinking]], upon your [[gene]] [[structure]]. What your genetic [[scientists]] have not [[discovered]], and perhaps will not discover for quite some time, is the encoding [[process]], where it is encoded, how it is retained, and how it is [[expressed]] later in the progeny of those who have learned new [[behaviors]]. Yes, the [[powerful]] [[influences]] of your [[culture]], of your [[thinking]], of your [[behavior]], do imprint on your [[gene]] [[structure]], and are transferred to others even after the [[birth]] of your [[children]]. It is a remarkable [[process]] that few will discover, or understand thoroughly for decades, if not for centuries, as this is one of the [[mysteries]] of life. Just as no one of your [[scientists]] will ever discover how the [http://nordan.daynal.org/wiki/index.php?title=Paper_36#36:3._LIFE_TRANSPLANTATION spark of life] initiates life and imprints itself upon that [[growing]] [[embryo]], they will have as much [[difficulty]] [[understanding]] the imprinting process, upon the gene [[structure]] of individuals and its transference.
It is both [[individual]], and it is [[cultural]], and it is [[racial]]—racial meaning, I should rather say, “[[species]] specific”—that the species of [[humankind]] holds an [[energetic]] [[cosmic]] [[mind]], [[cosmic consciousness]], planetary consciousness, that affects all those who enter into this [[energetic]] realm. Were your children raised on the moon, they would still have ties to the [[earth]], earth’s [[population]] and the mass of humankind’s [[consciousness]], simply because they are of that kind. So it is that your adopted children from another [[race]] often begin to exhibit [[practices]] which their parents or grandparents—or someone else—earlier in their heritage had practiced. They will have interests that tend to move them towards areas of the [[past]]. These may [[express]] soon, or they may express later in life. Sometimes these racial [[memories]] do not come into expression and awareness in the individual until later in life, in the 30’s and 40’s, when there is time to [[reflect]] and to have the [[consciousness]] that they are [[different]], and they begin to [[measure]] how they are [[different]], and of course this ignites a chain of [[memories]], or a chain of [[thoughts]] that [[reflect]] their earlier [[ancestry]].
This is a fascinating area of the [[Life Carriers]]; it is part of their own [[discipline]] for bringing into [[existence]] the [[survival]] capacity of a [[species]] of [[individuals]] on a [[planet]]. It is important for the [[survival]] of that species, that they be able to transfer the [[wisdom]] of the [[races]] forward. Consciously engaging this [[process]], knowing that you are making a [[difference]] in this and future [[generations]], is perhaps one of the most conscientious aspects that you can have as a [[participant]] of a [[race]] of [[mortal]] [[beings]], who have [[Thought Adjusters]]. This is the greatest [[service]] one can provide to their world, and to [[future]] [[generations]]. Thank you.
===Closing===
Vicki: I think that concludes our session. I would really like to thank you, Monjoronson, for this session. It has been one of my favorites. I lean towards the sessions that give us [[practical]] [[advice]] and help us now, in our [[co-creative]] efforts. You have provided a [[wealth]] of knowledge here today, and I truly [[appreciate]] it.
===='''''[[Spirituality]]'''''====
*Practical Spirituality 101
MONJORONSON: You are most welcome. You have among you, several [[Melchizedeks]], who are [[Mansion World|morontial world]] [[teachers]], and they would call this, “Practical Spirituality 101.” It is a conscious engagement of living life as a [[spiritual]] being on a [[material]] world, and this is a [[continuum]] that does not end. It is simply a matter of [[knowing]] that you are not separated from your [[Creator]], you are not separated from [[individuals]], either by life or [[death]], by [[culture]] or [[planet]] of [[origin]]. Thank you.
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