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That is my advice for now. What are your [[questions]]?

That is my advice for now. What are your [[questions]]?

===Personal Counsel====

===Personal Counsel===

===='''''[[Discernment]]'''''====

===='''''[[Discernment]]'''''====

Q: Ham do you have a personal message for me please?

Q: Ham do you have a personal message for me please?

Q: Jarad?

Q: Jarad?

Ham: Yes, my son, you do very well. You are also fighting old tendencies and are being victorious. Your biggest enemy is the feeling of not being worthwhile. Your family operated through varying balancing mechanisms as to who was worthy of what. Your parents acted as judges who constantly told you that you were coming up short and gave you the sense of being not worth their energy and effort, not worth their love. So feeling unworthy of love you have been hampered and are always drawn to that place where love is withdrawn, where you are shown to be unworthy or love. But, you are making great strides and are comfortable now with your self and your place in the universe, your place in love. Be careful to reject that tendency to be drawn toward feeling unloved. Accept, rather, the reality of being surrounded and engulfed with love. Allow yourself to feel secure with love.

Ham: Yes, my son, you do very well. You are also fighting old tendencies and are being [[victorious]]. Your biggest [[enemy]] is the [[feeling]] of not being worthwhile. Your [[family]] operated through varying balancing [[mechanisms]] as to who was worthy of what. Your [[parents]] acted as judges who constantly told you that you were coming up short and gave you the sense of being not worth their [[energy]] and [[effort]], not worth their love. So feeling unworthy of love you have been hampered and are always drawn to that place where love is withdrawn, where you are shown to be unworthy or [[love]]. But, you are making great strides and are [[comfortable]] now with your [[self]] and your place in [[the universe]], your place in love. Be [[careful]] to [[reject]] that tendency to be drawn toward [[feeling]] unloved. Accept, rather, the reality of being [[surrounded]] and engulfed with love. Allow yourself to feel secure with love.

Q: I wanted to say that you said some stuff tonight in your lesson that I have been trying to get my plyers on for 20 years, about the mind and all that.

Q: I wanted to say that you said some stuff tonight in your lesson that I have been trying to get my pliers on for 20 years, about the [[mind]] and all that.

Ham: The lessons are designed to give you each what you need. That is my greatest reward to know that you are being given something you need through my ministry.

Ham: The lessons are designed to give you each what you need. That is my greatest reward to know that you are being given something you need through my ministry.

Q: May I get some advice from you please?

Q: May I get some [[advice]] from you please?

Ham: Certainly. My daughter, you have from your childhood, the burden bearer. The burdens that your parents refused to shoulder you took upon yourself and this same tendency still continues. As you try to move into spiritual realms of freedom, this seeming obligation to bear the burden, pulls you back into that natural mind cycle of fear and reaction. Being the burden bearer you are also responsible for every one and so you continue to be drawn into these feelings and ways of thinking because they are comforting and familiar. While this is going on, you have another side that to balance this oppression goes for other extremes and seeks freedom and deliverance from burdens. And so, in this way you are going between extremes of crushing responsibility to irresponsibility.

Ham: Certainly. My daughter, you have from your [[childhood]], the [[burden]] bearer. The burdens that your [[parents]] refused to shoulder you took upon yourself and this same tendency still continues. As you try to move into [[spiritual]] realms of [[freedom]], this seeming [[obligation]] to bear the burden, pulls you back into that natural mind [[cycle]] of [[fear]] and [[reaction]]. Being the burden bearer you are also responsible for every one and so you continue to be drawn into these [[feelings]] and ways of [[thinking]] because they are comforting and familiar. While this is going on, you have another side that to balance this oppression goes for other [[extremes]] and seeks [[freedom]] and deliverance from burdens. And so, in this way you are going between extremes of crushing [[responsibility]] to irresponsibility.

Everyone has reactions to these early experiences and all these things are known by the Father and are to him as predictable as the sun rise. Your main job right now is to get out of that cycle of the natural mind and instead choose the higher mind which isn't always completely obvious, it is a process. The higher mind accepts what is and is a peace with it. The higher mind accepts the world as it is and accepts your place within that greater world completely. When you ask for help from the higher mind, you're asking for change, for growth, for new reactions to old problems and this can only occur little by little. The mind is not like a door that the will can simply walk through. The mind is like a living breathing changing melding flexible organ. There is nothing fixed, everything can be changed. But, the change is within yourself, that is what leads to peace, tranquility, happiness. The ego mind convinces us that if circumstances were changed, if other people were changed, if other people had not taken certain actions and instead taken different actions, all these things would bring peace and tranquility. But of course, that is not so.

Everyone has [[reactions]] to these early [[experiences]] and all these things are known by [[the Father]] and are to him as [[predictable]] as the [[sunrise]]. Your main job right now is to get out of that cycle of the natural mind and instead choose the [[higher mind]] which isn't always completely obvious, it is a [[process]]. The higher mind accepts what is and is a peace with it. The higher mind accepts the world as it is and accepts your place within that greater world completely. When you ask for help from the higher mind, you're asking for [[change]], for [[growth]], for new reactions to old [[problems]] and this can only occur little by little. The mind is not like a door that the will can simply walk through. The mind is like a living breathing changing melding flexible organ. There is nothing fixed, [[everything]] can be changed. But, the change is within yourself, that is what leads to [[peace]], tranquility, [[happiness]]. The [[ego]] mind convinces us that if circumstances were changed, if other people were changed, if other people had not taken certain [[actions]] and instead taken different actions, all these things would bring [[peace]] and tranquility. But of course, that is not so.

It's easy to know this in the mind, to see it, to understand it, but it is quite another thing to experience the actual change and to be growing into your greater self because it requires leaving the smaller self behind little by little. And children, we are awfully fond of our small, little selves. The ego convinces us that if we could crystalize it just as it is, it would be the answer for every one. But the higher mind says no. The higher mind says each one must find his or her own path with all its attendant pitfalls and problems, all the things that are not under the control of any one person.

It's easy to know this in the [[mind]], to see it, to [[understand]] it, but it is quite another thing to [[experience]] the actual change and to be growing into your greater self because it requires leaving the smaller self behind little by little. And children, we are awfully fond of our small, little selves. The [[ego]] convinces us that if we could crystalize it just as it is, it would be the answer for every one. But the [[higher mind]] says no. The higher mind says each one must find his or her own [[path]] with all its attendant pitfalls and [[problems]], all the things that are not under the [[control]] of any one person.

Q. This is pz Ham, and I have an intricate question. If you remember, after our Dad's passing, almost 4 years ago, he left a wife, which in fact was our Aunt, our mothers youngest sister. My question to you at that time, did our Dad pass over to the other side, and your answer was yes, and he is now with his loved ones and our mother who passed 37 years ago. This question is different, as his wife/our Aunt has moved out of Dad's house, which has the siblings name on it, and into her daughters home, which is out of this state. My eldest sister and only brother visited her and saw how unkept and thin she has become, she stays in her bedroom with her two cats with their food on trays with ants crawling all over them and her only means of food is beer and cigarettes, which is her choice. We as her nieces and nephew can't do anything for her, and it appears her daughter doesn't do anything for her as well. She has Life Estate in Dads home and wants to move back but doesn't have the capability to do so. She left her best furniture there in Dad's home and actually believes she will move back. If she does, there is no one to take care of her as I have a lung disease, and my brother has his own business and is out of state for weeks at a time and his wife takes care of their children. The other three siblings live out of state. This Aunt is 79 and extremely weak. What can be done? Thank you for your prayers and we pray for you as you do for us.

Q. This is pz Ham, and I have an intricate question. If you remember, after our Dad's passing, almost 4 years ago, he left a [[wife]], which in fact was our Aunt, our mothers youngest sister. My question to you at that time, did our Dad pass over to the other side, and your answer was yes, and he is now with his loved ones and our [[mother]] who passed 37 years ago. This question is [[different]], as his wife/our Aunt has moved out of Dad's house, which has the [[siblings]] name on it, and into her daughters home, which is out of this state. My eldest sister and only brother visited her and saw how unkept and thin she has become, she stays in her bedroom with her two cats with their food on trays with ants crawling all over them and her only means of [[food]] is beer and cigarettes, which is her [[choice]]. We as her nieces and nephew can't do anything for her, and it appears her daughter doesn't do anything for her as well. She has Life Estate in Dads home and wants to move back but doesn't have the capability to do so. She left her best furniture there in Dad's home and actually believes she will move back. If she does, there is no one to take [[care]] of her as I have a lung [[disease]], and my brother has his own [[business]] and is out of state for weeks at a time and his wife takes care of their children. The other three siblings live out of state. This Aunt is 79 and extremely [[weak]]. What can be done? Thank you for your prayers and we pray for you as you do for us.

Ham: My dear, it is good that you are concerned for this woman who means very much to you it is plain. Remember that you cannot control what occurs in her life as she is making her own decisions. Her daughter does care for her and is doing the best she can. It is best not to create more problems by being too helpful. Everyone must find their own way to the Father and it is best to withhold your human judgement when you can. Be at peace with all these things and instead focus upon your own spiritual growth along with your health. You are doing very well, my dear. Let go of your tendency to worry so much.

Ham: My dear, it is [[good]] that you are concerned for this [[woman]] who means very much to you it is plain. Remember that you cannot [[control]] what occurs in her life as she is making her own [[decisions]]. Her daughter does [[care]] for her and is doing the best she can. It is best not to create more [[problems]] by being too helpful. Everyone must find their own way to [[the Father]] and it is best to withhold your human [[judgement]] when you can. Be at [[peace]] with all these things and instead [[focus]] upon your own [[spiritual growth]] along with your [[health]]. You are doing very well, my dear. Let go of your tendency to [[worry]] so much.

Q: Liz H. wants a personal message and what is her spiritual name?

Q: Liz H. wants a personal message and what is her spiritual name?

Ham: Yes, my dear, you are doing very well. You are finding a great many opportunities for growth in the life you have chosen. Be at ease as you move forward and make progress in the spirit and in life. Go then in peace and be at ease as you do. Your spiritual name is not so important as knowledge and awareness of your own spiritual growth. In English your name sounds like Raymea or Raymela. Either way is very close.

Ham: Yes, my dear, you are doing very well. You are finding a great many [[opportunities]] for [[growth]] in the life you have chosen. Be at ease as you move forward and make [[progress]] in the [[spirit]] and in life. Go then in [[peace]] and be at ease as you do. Your spiritual name is not so important as [[knowledge]] and awareness of your own [[spiritual growth]]. In English your name sounds like Raymea or Raymela. Either way is very close.

Q: Norbert would like to have a personal message.

Q: Norbert would like to have a personal message.

Ham: Yes my son, be at ease for you do very well. You are someone who takes life very seriously and you must remember to take time for spiritual refreshment, laughter, rest, for your tendency is to deny yourself these things at times. Be at peace and enjoy your life. You do very well.

Ham: Yes my son, be at ease for you do very well. You are someone who takes life very seriously and you must remember to take time for spiritual refreshment, [[laughter]], [[rest]], for your tendency is to deny yourself these things at times. Be at [[peace]] and enjoy your [[life]]. You do very well.

Q: Do you have a personal message for Charlie B?

Q: Do you have a personal message for Charlie B?

Ham: Yes. My son, you have come very far, very quickly. Remember to be gentle with those who are still behind you, who have not made the progress you have made. Reserve judgment and be very loving and forgiving of these people. Be careful not to adopt the role of teacher during times when a friend is what is required. Be a good listener.

Ham: Yes. My son, you have come very far, very quickly. Remember to be [[gentle]] with those who are still behind you, who have not made the [[progress]] you have made. Reserve [[judgment]] and be very loving and forgiving of these people. Be [[careful]] not to adopt the role of teacher during times when a friend is what is required. Be a good [[listener]].

Q: Do you have any feedback for me this week?

Q: Do you have any [[feedback]] for me this week?

Ham: Yes. My son, you do very well. You always find a way to make the best of situations. You are always able to be supportive with others, even when you don't always agree with their decisions. This is a very good character trait. Remember then to keep reaching for that higher mind, that place of peace and perfect love. Be entirely at ease and seize happiness in all the little things of life.

Ham: Yes. My son, you do very well. You always find a way to make the best of situations. You are always able to be supportive with others, even when you don't always [[agree]] with their [[decisions]]. This is a very good [[character]] trait. Remember then to keep reaching for that [[higher mind]], that place of peace and [[perfect]] love. Be entirely at ease and seize [[happiness]] in all the little things of life.

===Closing===

===Closing===

Be at peace and as always my love and my prayers are with you each. Farewell.

Be at [[peace]] and as always my love and my prayers are with you each. Farewell.

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