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Iruka: The love of God surrounds you, the joy of God enfolds you wherever you are, He is. Good afternoon I am Iruka, I am your friend and teacher. I am happy to be here today. I have missed being with you last week. Actually I was with you but I did not get to talk with you. I am happy to see that you go ahead and read the Urantia Book when you are not getting a lesson or are able to ask questions. This will sustain you. You will learn much so try to continue to read the Urantia Book and also our lessons, because together they will make a whole, they will round you out, they are complementary.

Iruka: The love of God surrounds you, the joy of God enfolds you wherever you are, He is. Good afternoon I am Iruka, I am your friend and teacher. I am happy to be here today. I have missed being with you last week. Actually I was with you but I did not get to talk with you. I am happy to see that you go ahead and read the Urantia Book when you are not getting a lesson or are able to ask questions. This will sustain you. You will learn much so try to continue to read the Urantia Book and also our lessons, because together they will make a whole, they will round you out, they are complementary.

 

Actually my lesson today is about showing kindness and compassion to those around you. Showing it when you do not feel it. Much like courage is compassion and kindness. Courage is when you do something and you are afraid of doing it, but you do it anyway. Showing kindness and compassion can be the same way. You may not feel it, you may be angry, you may be resentful to the person you are showing it to, but you are letting the love take over and showing that instead. When you do this, it makes the whole situation better. The person or people respond to you positively and inside of you it dissipates this anger, or resentment, or jealously, or whatever the negative feelings are that you are carrying for them. When you act and show love in a positive way, it starts to permeate your being and it will dissipate the negative feelings that are inside. Much like doing something you are afraid to do, once you begin the fear is pushed down or dissipates so that you no longer feel it. So when you show love to others that you do not want to show love to, it not only helps them, it helps you. It uplifts your attitude, it permeates your being with love and acceptance, not just the other group, but also you. It uplifts the whole situation. This is a short lesson, but it is so important in your daily lives. And now I will accept questions.

Actually my lesson today is about showing kindness and compassion to those around you. Showing it when you do not feel it. Much like courage is compassion and kindness. Courage is when you do something and you are afraid of doing it, but you do it anyway. Showing kindness and compassion can be the same way. You may not feel it, you may be angry, you may be resentful to the person you are showing it to, but you are letting the love take over and showing that instead. When you do this, it makes the whole situation better. The person or people respond to you positively and inside of you it dissipates this anger, or resentment, or jealously, or whatever the negative feelings are that you are carrying for them. When you act and show love in a positive way, it starts to permeate your being and it will dissipate the negative feelings that are inside. Much like doing something you are afraid to do, once you begin the fear is pushed down or dissipates so that you no longer feel it. So when you show love to others that you do not want to show love to, it not only helps them, it helps you. It uplifts your attitude, it permeates your being with love and acceptance, not just the other group, but also you. It uplifts the whole situation. This is a short lesson, but it is so important in your daily lives. And now I will accept questions.

 

S2: Iruka, showing love, showing kindness, how do you do that in a discipline situation, how do you do that when the kids are talking during the church service when they should be quiet. How am I supposed to discipline them and show kindness, is that possible?

S2: Iruka, showing love, showing kindness, how do you do that in a discipline situation, how do you do that when the kids are talking during the church service when they should be quiet. How am I supposed to discipline them and show kindness, is that possible?

S2: You are saying that my kids expect a certain tone of voice, that is kind, and they expect another tone of voice that is angry. I am not sure that I distinguish between the two, when I am trying to discipline them.

S2: You are saying that my kids expect a certain tone of voice, that is kind, and they expect another tone of voice that is angry. I am not sure that I distinguish between the two, when I am trying to discipline them.

Iruka: Think back to see if when you discipline them, when you think about it you are angry and that comes through in your voice. Can you recall that? There is a difference in doing it out of anger, or just side-stepping your anger and doing it in a more regular tone of voice. It is true that when children hear the anger, and they are used to it, that is what they are

Iruka: Think back to see if when you discipline them, when you think about it you are angry and that comes through in your voice. Can you recall that? There is a difference in doing it out of anger, or just side-stepping your anger and doing it in a more regular tone of voice. It is true that when children hear the anger, and they are used to it, that is what they are responding to. Do you see this difference?

S2: I am not sure, I think I have a lot to learn here. My projection of voice changes when I am in that situation and I become very piercing, very "in their face", they can't avoid me. They have to listen to me. I need to grab their attention, their attention is wandering, they are just kids and often if I am kind and relaxed then they feel free to continue their current activity even though they don't understand my words. I have had . ..perhaps this is something that happened when they are

 

S2: I am not sure, I think I have a lot to learn here. My projection of voice changes when I am in that situation and I become very piercing, very "in their face", they can't avoid me. They have to listen to me. I need to grab their attention, their attention is wandering, they are just kids and often if I am kind and relaxed then they feel free to continue their current

 

activity even though they don't understand my words. I have had . ..perhaps this is something that happened when they are

little...I am not sure I know how to be kind and enter into their consciousness at the same time.

little...I am not sure I know how to be kind and enter into their consciousness at the same time.

L1: Thank you, that is helpful.

L1: Thank you, that is helpful.

S1: Hello Iruka, a couple of questions. The kids I work with have all been really abused...S and L all have really nice kids, really well behaved by my standards, what I have seen. I

S1: Hello Iruka, a couple of questions. The kids I work with have all been really abused...S and L all have really nice kids, really well behaved by my standards, what I have seen. I couldn't imagine having serious problems with them. The kids that I work with need constant spanking just to keep them anywhere near in line. Now of course they have seen some horrible examples...had to endure a very hellish existence up until a few years ago. I can't imagine you making sweeping generalizations about how to deal with children, trying to negotiate through the voice...I mean the kids that I work with can't be spoken to...I mean they can't be talked with as an adult or remotely even as a child. I was wondering if you could clarify in dealing with kids that really aren't well behaved, really have never seen a normal kind of existence. How do you deal with that?

 

couldn't imagine having serious problems with them. The kids that I work with need constant spanking just to keep them anywhere near in line. Now of course they have seen some

 

horrible examples...had to endure a very hellish existence up until a few years ago. I can't imagine you making sweeping generalizations about how to deal with children, trying to negotiate through the voice...I mean the kids that I work with can't be spoken to...I mean they can't be talked with as an adult or remotely even as a child. I was wondering if you could clarify in dealing with kids that really aren't well behaved, really have never seen a normal kind of existence. How do you deal with that?

Iruka: You are right, I am speaking in generalities, with typical children who have had relatively typical lives. Severely abused, traumatized children cannot respond. They have never felt totally loved by anyone. Situations that they have been in have not been safe, they don't feel safe. They feel everyone can hurt them and maybe will hurt them. They have not learned to trust, and they may never learn to trust, with the pain inside of them, and the hurt. They will sop up love like sponges, they will consume it and they will want more. Their care givers will feel drained, will feel dissipated because these children have such tremendous needs. So no, their care will be different, they have never been taught boundaries because the adults around them have no boundaries. Does this help?

Iruka: You are right, I am speaking in generalities, with typical children who have had relatively typical lives. Severely abused, traumatized children cannot respond. They have never felt totally loved by anyone. Situations that they have been in have not been safe, they don't feel safe. They feel everyone can hurt them and maybe will hurt them. They have not learned to trust, and they may never learn to trust, with the pain inside of them, and the hurt. They will sop up love like sponges, they will consume it and they will want more. Their care givers will feel drained, will feel dissipated because these children have such tremendous needs. So no, their care will be different, they have never been taught boundaries because the adults around them have no boundaries. Does this help?

Iruka: The media is focusing on the negative, they are getting your attention. It is for money, it is sensationalized, but if you read other things, magazines, good books, you will find out that love is being spread. That people are helping other people, that does not make the news, that does not sell newspapers, that does not bring in money. So understand that these things are focused for money, and God's love doesn't sell on TV, unfortunately. But if you keep your ears open, and if you read certain magazines, you will read all the time where someone has risked their life for someone else. Every time there is a major accident, people help each other and it is glossed over. It is mentioned barely. So you are seeing a very slanted version in the news. Does this help? [yes, and thank you]

Iruka: The media is focusing on the negative, they are getting your attention. It is for money, it is sensationalized, but if you read other things, magazines, good books, you will find out that love is being spread. That people are helping other people, that does not make the news, that does not sell newspapers, that does not bring in money. So understand that these things are focused for money, and God's love doesn't sell on TV, unfortunately. But if you keep your ears open, and if you read certain magazines, you will read all the time where someone has risked their life for someone else. Every time there is a major accident, people help each other and it is glossed over. It is mentioned barely. So you are seeing a very slanted version in the news. Does this help? [yes, and thank you]

 

So if there are no further questions, we will end the session. I have enjoyed being here very much. I look forward to our Sunday afternoons with great excitement and joy. I will miss you, and see you next week. Good afternoon.

So if there are no further questions, we will end the session. I have enjoyed being here very much. I look forward to our Sunday afternoons with great excitement and joy. I will miss you, and see you next week. Good afternoon.

Group: Good afternoon.

Group: Good afternoon.