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Iruka: Thank you, and welcome back (to a group member) and welcome to the new people. I am [[aware]] that you are [[truth]] [[seekers]] and have come to [[learn]].

Iruka: Thank you, and welcome back (to a group member) and welcome to the new people. I am [[aware]] that you are [[truth]] [[seekers]] and have come to [[learn]].

===='''''[[Attitude]]''''', '''''[[Barriers]]'''''====

===='''''[[Attitude]]''''', '''''[[Barriers]]'''''====

S2: Iruka, I have been leading [[seminars]] the last six years and I have been biting(?) my [[words]] every day. Last week I, at the end of these seminars they pass out [[critique]] forms and people write down how they [[feel]] about me, as well as the [[course]]. And occasionally I get this criticism that I am [[condescending]] and I know when these [[events]] occur, these [[words]] occur, is it always words that can be [[interpreted]] wrongly. Can it be a pause, can it be [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_language body language], can it be a glance, can it be some expected [[behavior]] that is not exactly [[words]] but they interpret it wrongly? and they see me not as loving but as [[condescending]].

S2: Iruka, I have been leading seminars the last six years and I have been biting(?) my [[words]] every day. Last week I, at the end of these seminars they pass out [[critique]] forms and people write down how they [[feel]] about me, as well as the [[course]]. And occasionally I get this criticism that I am [[condescending]] and I know when these [[events]] occur, these [[words]] occur, is it always words that can be [[interpreted]] wrongly. Can it be a pause, can it be [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_language body language], can it be a glance, can it be some expected [[behavior]] that is not exactly [[words]] but they interpret it wrongly? and they see me not as loving but as [[condescending]].

Iruka: It can be all of these things of course. And they can be misinterpreted. My best suggestion would be to check your [[attitude]]. And possibly [[change]] it to be loving, and helpful. You are [[acting]] as a [[teacher]] to teach and not put off the [[students]]. And this is [[difficult]] with a large group of people, because they are at [[different]] levels. So finding where they are and teaching them is [[difficult]] because you can't meet everyone's needs exactly. You have to find ranges, find out or [[assume]] what they know and go from there. Do you ask questions to find out what they know or where they are? With the [[topic]]?

Iruka: It can be all of these things of course. And they can be misinterpreted. My best suggestion would be to check your [[attitude]]. And possibly [[change]] it to be loving, and helpful. You are [[acting]] as a [[teacher]] to teach and not put off the [[students]]. And this is [[difficult]] with a large group of people, because they are at [[different]] levels. So finding where they are and teaching them is [[difficult]] because you can't meet everyone's needs exactly. You have to find ranges, find out or [[assume]] what they know and go from there. Do you ask questions to find out what they know or where they are? With the [[topic]]?

S2: Iruka, I do, this last...two weeks ago where this [[event]] occurred, I did not have a [[chance]]. My [[computers]] were [[breaking]], it was very hectic before the class and it is in these [[turmoil]] times when these kinds of [[criticisms]] occur. When I know, I know this is happening. And I also know that it is occurring when I am inwardly [[focused]], I am not outwardly focused, I am [[frustrated]], trying to [[explain]] something. I am struggling, trying to find the [[concept]], I am struggling to try to remember everything about that [[person]], and I am focused on myself and not the class. I do know that, and I do know how important it is to [[talk]] to people before and figure out where they are...one of the things I [[love]] [[reading]] about the teachings that are going on across the country is that [[uniformly]] you are all such great teachers. You are all so uniformly [[kind]] and the way you solicit [[questions]] is incredible. And I am trying to [[pattern]] myself after you and it is just [[amazing]], that is all. I don't know if that is a question....

S2: Iruka, I do, this last...two weeks ago where this [[event]] occurred, I did not have a [[chance]]. My [[computers]] were breaking, it was very hectic before the class and it is in these [[turmoil]] times when these kinds of [[criticisms]] occur. When I know, I know this is happening. And I also know that it is occurring when I am inwardly [[focused]], I am not outwardly focused, I am [[frustrated]], trying to [[explain]] something. I am struggling, trying to find the [[concept]], I am struggling to try to remember everything about that [[person]], and I am focused on myself and not the class. I do know that, and I do know how important it is to [[talk]] to people before and figure out where they are...one of the things I [[love]] [[reading]] about the teachings that are going on across the country is that [[uniformly]] you are all such great teachers. You are all so uniformly [[kind]] and the way you solicit [[questions]] is incredible. And I am trying to [[pattern]] myself after you and it is just [[amazing]], that is all. I don't know if that is a question....

Iruka: We have undergone much [[training]] and it is not easy. It is something that we have had to [[learn]]. But I think that you have hit upon the [[problem]], about being inner [[focused]] instead of outward. I think you know the answer, I think you have identified the [[problem]]. And that is half of the battle. My other suggestion would be to spend [[quiet time]] with [[the Father]] before you have your class. Ten, fifteen minutes, help you [[become]] [[in line]] with [[the Father]], become [[balanced]] and [[centered]] and then of course knowing your [[material]], and then going out. Try this and see if things are smoother. Of course it always happens when things start breaking down, and there is [[chaos]]. That happens a lot, but I think you will find if you spend time with [[the Father]], and feel [[loved]] and [[healed]] and feel His [[peace]], that you can go out and send that out to others. Let me know how this [[works]] and if things improve for you.

Iruka: We have undergone much [[training]] and it is not easy. It is something that we have had to [[learn]]. But I think that you have hit upon the [[problem]], about being inner [[focused]] instead of outward. I think you know the answer, I think you have identified the [[problem]]. And that is half of the battle. My other suggestion would be to spend [[quiet time]] with [[the Father]] before you have your class. Ten, fifteen minutes, help you [[become]] [[in line]] with [[the Father]], become [[balanced]] and [[centered]] and then of course knowing your [[material]], and then going out. Try this and see if things are smoother. Of course it always happens when things start breaking down, and there is [[chaos]]. That happens a lot, but I think you will find if you spend time with [[the Father]], and feel [[loved]] and [[healed]] and feel His [[peace]], that you can go out and send that out to others. Let me know how this [[works]] and if things improve for you.

===='''''[[Teacher Contact]]''''', '''''[[Guilt]]'''''====

===='''''[[Teacher Contact]]''''', '''''[[Guilt]]'''''====

G2: Hello Iruka, I seem to have come not to an [[impasse]], but more like a [[change]] in [[direction]] or a stopping with my [[teacher]]. I was in class once and I took a quiz and I didn't do as good...that is not it, I [[accidently]] cheated. I messed up and I feel kind of sick, after that [[point]] it just seemed like [[everything]] was going bad between me and my teacher. We weren't [[connecting]] quite as well, I wasn't [[feeling]] quite as good about the class. I knew the stuff I just wasn't feeling right. Can one [[event]] like that go into how you feel with your teacher, or how you connect, because I have been having [[problems]] [[meditating]] and [[feeling]] the [[presence]] of my teacher when I meditate.

G2: Hello Iruka, I seem to have come not to an [[impasse]], but more like a [[change]] in [[direction]] or a stopping with my [[teacher]]. I was in class once and I took a quiz and I didn't do as good...that is not it, I [[accidently]] cheated. I messed up and I feel kind of sick, after that [[point]] it just seemed like [[everything]] was going bad between me and my teacher. We weren't [[connecting]] quite as well, I wasn't [[feeling]] quite as good about the class. I knew the stuff I just wasn't feeling right. Can one [[event]] like that go into how you feel with your teacher, or how you connect, because I have been having [[problems]] [[meditating]] and [[feeling]] the [[presence]] of my teacher when I meditate.