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Well, my dear brothers and sisters, I must restrain myself and conclude my [[commentary]] with these words. You are loved far more than you have ever [[imagined]] in your wildest [[dreams]]. Good evening.

Well, my dear brothers and sisters, I must restrain myself and conclude my [[commentary]] with these words. You are loved far more than you have ever [[imagined]] in your wildest [[dreams]]. Good evening.

===='''''[[Inner Life]]'''''====

===='''''[[Inner Life]]'''''====

Aaron: Greetings, friends. This is Aaron. Tonight I would like to [[discuss]] with you certain [[perspectives]] regarding how you may look at your [[purposes]], not only here in [[communication]] with us, but also the [[motivations]] which guide you in life. You may question at times why it is so difficult to [[perceive]] our [[influence]]. We recognize that in varying degrees you strive to [[understand]] our presence and to perceive the [[insight]] we offer, sometimes to come up [[frustrated]] and [[feeling]] as though you are missing some connection. Recognize that we have a singular, a [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prime_directive prime directive], which supercedes all other [[efforts]] we might make regarding [[this planet]] and the [[mortals]] here. This prime directive is the [[attunement]] of your [[thought]] processes into alignment such that you are more [[receptive]] to recognizing the ministrations of your [[indwelling Spirit]].

Aaron: Greetings, friends. This is Aaron. Tonight I would like to [[discuss]] with you certain [[perspectives]] regarding how you may look at your [[purposes]], not only here in [[communication]] with us, but also the [[motivations]] which guide you in life. You may question at times why it is so difficult to [[perceive]] our [[influence]]. We recognize that in varying degrees you strive to [[understand]] our presence and to perceive the [[insight]] we offer, sometimes to come up [[frustrated]] and [[feeling]] as though you are missing some connection. Recognize that we have a singular, a [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prime_directive prime directive], which supercedes all other [[efforts]] we might make regarding [[this planet]] and the [[mortals]] here. This prime directive is the [[attunement]] of your [[thought]] processes into alignment such that you are more [[receptive]] to recognizing the ministrations of your [[indwelling Spirit]].

The [[awareness]] that the [[correcting time]] is occurring brought [[fascination]] on [[your world]] to those involved; amazement, [[wonder]], [[excitement]], [[joy]], in the idea of reclamation. Suddenly minds were astir. And many people began to think of all the [[possibilities]] why we would come to serve here on your world this way. Many [[ideas]] have surfaced that have been popular. And sometimes [[confusion]] has occurred; such that, amid [[expectations]], [[disillusionment]] and frustration resulted causing persons to slip away for lack of real [[understanding]] or [[sensitivity]] to the underlying mission: to [[facilitate]] [[comprehension]] of the foremost spiritual [[reality]] residing in your [[mind]].

The [[awareness]] that the [[correcting time]] is occurring brought [[fascination]] on [[your world]] to those involved; amazement, [[wonder]], [[excitement]], [[joy]], in the idea of reclamation. Suddenly minds were astir. And many people began to think of all the [[possibilities]] why we would come to serve here on your world this way. Many [[ideas]] have surfaced that have been popular. And sometimes [[confusion]] has occurred; such that, amid [[expectations]], [[disillusionment]] and frustration resulted causing persons to slip away for lack of real [[understanding]] or [[sensitivity]] to the underlying mission: to [[facilitate]] [[comprehension]] of the foremost spiritual [[reality]] residing in your [[mind]].

===Dialogue===

===Dialogue===

===='''''[[Romance]]'''''====

===='''''[[Romance]]'''''====

Roxy: Daniel defined much of the [[love]] that we have as [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dependent_personality_disorder dependency]. Can you show us some more [[light]] on this [[love]]?  

Roxy: Daniel defined much of the [[love]] that we have as [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dependent_personality_disorder dependency]. Can you show us some more [[light]] on this [[love]]?  

Aaron: When you say that much of your [[feelings]] of [[love]] are dependency, you mean in a [[negative]] light – where there is some need involved? I am asking for some [[clarification]].

Aaron: When you say that much of your [[feelings]] of [[love]] are dependency, you mean in a [[negative]] light – where there is some need involved? I am asking for some [[clarification]].

Roxy: I don't know. That was the word Daniel used a couple of weeks ago. I thought it was very [[enlightening]]. I wanted a [[contrast]] to dependency.

Roxy: I don't know. That was the word Daniel used a couple of weeks ago. I thought it was very [[enlightening]]. I wanted a [[contrast]] to dependency.

Daniel(Nancy): Yes, I am Daniel. I am pleased to have the [[opportunity]] to extend this [[discussion]] of [[love]] into greater realms. In my discussion of love we were discussing the higher realms of love. But, we were also discussing [[human]] love, for the [[topic]] arose because it was [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valentine's_Day Valentine's day] weekend. And on Valentine's it is customary in your [[culture]] to [[express]] [[love]] to one's beloved; to one with whom one has a [[romantic]] tie. And it was in this [[context]] of romance that I referred to love as [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dependent_personality_disorder dependency] in that much of romantic love is [[confused]] with real love in that it is quite self-centered rather than other-centered. As you are aware, the [[Urantia book]] defines love as a [[desire]] to do [[good]] to others. Very often in romantic love and in interpersonal [[relationships]], [[parent]]al-child [[love]], child-parent love, there is an aspect of wanting [[good]] done to one's [[self]]. This is self-centered rather than other-centered. Very often there are numerous [[agendas]] for the other person mixed in. These are the individual's agenda's for the other person not their agendas for themselves. And it is in this sense that human love, or what is called [[love]], is [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dependent_personality_disorder dependency] based, in that one tries to get their needs met through the other person meeting these hidden personal [[agendas]]. This is different from desiring good for others; in that the good is very often defined and does not always allow for God's good in God's lessons to be taught in God's way and time. Has this [[clarified]]?

Daniel(Nancy): Yes, I am Daniel. I am pleased to have the [[opportunity]] to extend this [[discussion]] of [[love]] into greater realms. In my discussion of love we were discussing the higher realms of love. But, we were also discussing [[human]] love, for the [[topic]] arose because it was [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valentine's_Day Valentine's day] weekend. And on Valentine's it is customary in your [[culture]] to [[express]] [[love]] to one's beloved; to one with whom one has a [[romantic]] tie. And it was in this [[context]] of romance that I referred to love as [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dependent_personality_disorder dependency] in that much of romantic love is [[confused]] with real love in that it is quite self-centered rather than other-centered. As you are aware, the [[Urantia book]] defines love as a [[desire]] to do [[good]] to others. Very often in romantic love and in interpersonal [[relationships]], [[parent]]al-child [[love]], child-parent love, there is an aspect of wanting [[good]] done to one's [[self]]. This is self-centered rather than other-centered. Very often there are numerous [[agendas]] for the other person mixed in. These are the individual's agenda's for the other person not their agendas for themselves. And it is in this sense that human love, or what is called [[love]], is [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dependent_personality_disorder dependency] based, in that one tries to get their needs met through the other person meeting these hidden personal [[agendas]]. This is different from desiring good for others; in that the good is very often defined and does not always allow for God's good in God's lessons to be taught in God's way and time. Has this [[clarified]]?

Roxy: Yes. Thank you.

Roxy: Yes. Thank you.

Daniel(Nancy): You are most welcome.

Daniel(Nancy): You are most welcome.

Bill/Isaac: This is Isaac speaking for himself. I don't know where this [[thought]] is coming from but perhaps the [[intensity]] of [[romantic]] love has some [[connection]] with lack of [[childhood]] [[satisfaction]] from a [[parent]] that is then perceived to be present in one's beloved; this is all at an [[unconscious]] level. We think this person is really going to meet our needs. And I'm suggesting that that's an aspect of [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dependent_personality_disorder dependency]. I don't know if that's what [[Freud]] said but,... I don't know. I'll go back into [[receptivity]] now.

Bill/Isaac: This is Isaac speaking for himself. I don't know where this [[thought]] is coming from but perhaps the [[intensity]] of [[romantic]] love has some [[connection]] with lack of [[childhood]] [[satisfaction]] from a [[parent]] that is then perceived to be present in one's beloved; this is all at an [[unconscious]] level. We think this person is really going to meet our needs. And I'm suggesting that that's an aspect of [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dependent_personality_disorder dependency]. I don't know if that's what [[Freud]] said but,... I don't know. I'll go back into [[receptivity]] now.

Virginia: Teachers, following up on that, I [[immediately]] [[thought]] of certainly 99% of people have experienced [[romantic]] love, at least in our [[culture]]. Does that mean that's part of being human and finding the [[mate]] to continue our [[species]]?Bill: It is there for that [[evolutionary]] reason.

Virginia: Teachers, following up on that, I [[immediately]] [[thought]] of certainly 99% of people have experienced [[romantic]] love, at least in our [[culture]]. Does that mean that's part of being human and finding the [[mate]] to continue our [[species]]?Bill: It is there for that [[evolutionary]] reason.

Nancy: Yes, indeed, this is key. Thank you for putting it in bold relief.

Nancy: Yes, indeed, this is key. Thank you for putting it in bold relief.

Aaron(Bill): I would comment. I am Aaron. In a certain sense [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dependent_personality_disorder dependency relationships] can be given a [[negative]] [[aura]] that is not justified because you will, until you reach [[Paradise]] [[perfection]], be dependent upon instruction, [[direction]], supervision, and [[evaluation]] by others who are your superiors, either by [[virtue]] of experience, or by [[virtue]] of [[creative]] [[status]]. [[The universe]] is one vast [[school]]; so that always you will be under the instruction of others, at least on this side of [[Paradise]]. At the same time, you will be teachers to others as well. Therefore, I wish to provide another side to this [[discussion]] and these thoughts about [[love]] in terms of this aspect of [[teacher]]/[[pupil]] [[reality]].

Aaron(Bill): I would comment. I am Aaron. In a certain sense [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dependent_personality_disorder dependency relationships] can be given a [[negative]] [[aura]] that is not justified because you will, until you reach [[Paradise]] [[perfection]], be dependent upon instruction, [[direction]], supervision, and [[evaluation]] by others who are your superiors, either by [[virtue]] of experience, or by [[virtue]] of [[creative]] [[status]]. [[The universe]] is one vast [[school]]; so that always you will be under the instruction of others, at least on this side of [[Paradise]]. At the same time, you will be teachers to others as well. Therefore, I wish to provide another side to this [[discussion]] and these thoughts about [[love]] in terms of this aspect of [[teacher]]/[[pupil]] [[reality]].

===Closing===

===Closing===

We have [[decided]] that our time is over, not because we are [[tired]] of [[interacting]] with you, but because your time has reached its [[conclusion]]. Once again, in behalf of all gathered here that you see not, let me say that it has be a another sterling evening! You have all been teachers and students to each other. And we [[value]] this [[democracy]] of spirit [[equality]] despite our [[differential]] levels of [[experience]] or creative [[status]].

We have [[decided]] that our time is over, not because we are [[tired]] of [[interacting]] with you, but because your time has reached its [[conclusion]]. Once again, in behalf of all gathered here that you see not, let me say that it has be a another sterling evening! You have all been teachers and students to each other. And we [[value]] this [[democracy]] of spirit [[equality]] despite our [[differential]] levels of [[experience]] or creative [[status]].