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| ==Origin== | | ==Origin== |
| [[Latin]] assert- participial stem of as-serĕre ( < ad to + serĕre to join, put) to put one's hand on the head of a [[slave]], either to set him [[free]] or claim him for servitude, hence, to set free, [[protect]], defend; to appropriate, claim; to affirm, [[declare]], state. Compare also medieval Latin assertāre (frequentative of asserĕre) to affirm. | | [[Latin]] assert- participial stem of as-serĕre ( < ad to + serĕre to join, put) to put one's hand on the head of a [[slave]], either to set him [[free]] or claim him for servitude, hence, to set free, [[protect]], defend; to appropriate, claim; to affirm, [[declare]], state. Compare also medieval Latin assertāre (frequentative of asserĕre) to affirm. |
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| ==Defnitions== | | ==Defnitions== |
| *1: disposed to or characterized by [[bold]] or [[confident]] [[statements]] and [[behavior]] <an assertive [[leader]]> | | *1: disposed to or characterized by [[bold]] or [[confident]] [[statements]] and [[behavior]] <an assertive [[leader]]> |
| *2: having a [[strong]] or distinctive flavor or aroma <assertive wines> | | *2: having a [[strong]] or distinctive flavor or aroma <assertive wines> |
| ==Description== | | ==Description== |
− | '''Assertiveness''' is a particular [[mode]] of [[communication]]. [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dorland%27s_Medical_Dictionary Dorland's Medical Dictionary] defines assertiveness as: | + | '''Assertiveness''' is a particular [[mode]] of [[communication]]. [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dorland%27s_Medical_Dictionary Dorland's Medical Dictionary] defines assertiveness as: |
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| <blockquote>a form of behavior characterized by a confident declaration or affirmation of a statement without need of proof; this affirms the person's rights or point of view without either aggressively threatening the rights of another (assuming a position of dominance) or submissively permitting another to ignore or deny one's rights or point of view.</blockquote> | | <blockquote>a form of behavior characterized by a confident declaration or affirmation of a statement without need of proof; this affirms the person's rights or point of view without either aggressively threatening the rights of another (assuming a position of dominance) or submissively permitting another to ignore or deny one's rights or point of view.</blockquote> |
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− | During the second half of the [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/20th_century 20th century], assertiveness was increasingly singled out as a [[behavioral]] [[skill]] taught by many [[personal]] [[development]] experts, [[behavior]] therapists, and cognitive behavioral therapists. Assertiveness is often linked to [[self-esteem]]. The term and [[concept]] was popularised to the general public by books such as ''Your Perfect Right: A Guide to Assertive Behavior'' (1970) by Robert E. Alberti, and ''When I Say No, I Feel Guilty: How To Cope Using the Skills of Systematic Assertiveness Therapy'' (1975) by Manuel J. Smith. | + | During the second half of the [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/20th_century 20th century], assertiveness was increasingly singled out as a [[behavioral]] [[skill]] taught by many [[personal]] [[development]] experts, [[behavior]] therapists, and cognitive behavioral therapists. Assertiveness is often linked to [[self-esteem]]. The term and [[concept]] was popularised to the general public by books such as ''Your Perfect Right: A Guide to Assertive Behavior'' (1970) by Robert E. Alberti, and ''When I Say No, I Feel Guilty: How To Cope Using the Skills of Systematic Assertiveness Therapy'' (1975) by Manuel J. Smith. |
| ==Communication== | | ==Communication== |
| Assertive [[communication]] consists of [[sharing]] wants and needs [[honestly]] in a safe [[manner]]. This presumes [[respect]] for the boundaries of oneself and others, which boundaries include the [[physical]] [[self]], possessions, and [[relationships]]. It also presumes an interest in the fulfillment of needs and wants through [[cooperation]]. | | Assertive [[communication]] consists of [[sharing]] wants and needs [[honestly]] in a safe [[manner]]. This presumes [[respect]] for the boundaries of oneself and others, which boundaries include the [[physical]] [[self]], possessions, and [[relationships]]. It also presumes an interest in the fulfillment of needs and wants through [[cooperation]]. |
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| At the opposite end of the [[dialectic]] is "passive communication". [[Victims]] may passively [[permit]] others to violate their boundaries. At a later time, they may come back and attack with a sense of impunity or [[righteous]] [[indignation]]. | | At the opposite end of the [[dialectic]] is "passive communication". [[Victims]] may passively [[permit]] others to violate their boundaries. At a later time, they may come back and attack with a sense of impunity or [[righteous]] [[indignation]]. |
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− | Assertive [[communication]] attempts to [[transcend]] these [[extreme]] by [[appealing]] to the [[shared]] interest of all parties; it "[[focuses]] on the issue, not the [[person]]". Aggressive and/or passive communication, on the other hand, may mark a [[relationship]]'s end, and reduce [[self]]-[[respect]].[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Assertive] | + | Assertive [[communication]] attempts to [[transcend]] these [[extreme]] by [[appealing]] to the [[shared]] interest of all parties; it "[[focuses]] on the issue, not the [[person]]". Aggressive and/or passive communication, on the other hand, may mark a [[relationship]]'s end, and reduce [[self]]-[[respect]].[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Assertive] |
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| [[Category: Psychology]] | | [[Category: Psychology]] |