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==Origin==
[[Latin]] assert- participial stem of as-serĕre ( < ad to + serĕre to join, put) to put one's hand on the head of a [[slave]], either to set him [[free]] or claim him for servitude, hence, to set free, [[protect]], defend; to appropriate, claim; to affirm, [[declare]], state. Compare also medieval Latin assertāre (frequentative of asserĕre) to affirm.
*[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/17th_century 1619]
==Defnitions==
*1: disposed to or characterized by [[bold]] or [[confident]] [[statements]] and [[behavior]] <an assertive [[leader]]>
*2: having a [[strong]] or distinctive flavor or aroma <assertive wines>
==Description==
'''Assertiveness''' is a particular [[mode]] of [[communication]]. [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dorland%27s_Medical_Dictionary Dorland's Medical Dictionary] defines assertiveness as:
<blockquote>a form of behavior characterized by a confident declaration or affirmation of a statement without need of proof; this affirms the person's rights or point of view without either aggressively threatening the rights of another (assuming a position of dominance) or submissively permitting another to ignore or deny one's rights or point of view.</blockquote>
During the second half of the [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/20th_century 20th century], assertiveness was increasingly singled out as a [[behavioral]] [[skill]] taught by many [[personal]] [[development]] experts, [[behavior]] therapists, and cognitive behavioral therapists. Assertiveness is often linked to [[self-esteem]]. The term and [[concept]] was popularised to the general public by books such as ''Your Perfect Right: A Guide to Assertive Behavior'' (1970) by Robert E. Alberti, and ''When I Say No, I Feel Guilty: How To Cope Using the Skills of Systematic Assertiveness Therapy'' (1975) by Manuel J. Smith.
==Communication==
Assertive [[communication]] consists of [[sharing]] wants and needs [[honestly]] in a safe [[manner]]. This presumes [[respect]] for the boundaries of oneself and others, which boundaries include the [[physical]] [[self]], possessions, and [[relationships]]. It also presumes an interest in the fulfillment of needs and wants through [[cooperation]].
According to the textbook ''Cognitive Behavior Therapy'' (2008), "Assertive [[communication]] of [[personal]] [[opinions]], needs, and boundaries has been ... conceptualized as the behavioral middle ground, lying between ineffective [[passive]] and [[aggressive]] [[responses]]". Such communication "[[emphasizes]] expressing [[feelings]] forthrightly, but in a way that will not spiral into [[aggression]]".
If others' [[actions]] threaten one's boundaries, one [[communicates]] this to prevent escalation.
In contrast, "aggressive communication" [[judges]], threatens, lies, breaks confidences, stonewalls, and violates others' boundaries.
At the opposite end of the [[dialectic]] is "passive communication". [[Victims]] may passively [[permit]] others to violate their boundaries. At a later time, they may come back and attack with a sense of impunity or [[righteous]] [[indignation]].
Assertive [[communication]] attempts to [[transcend]] these [[extreme]] by [[appealing]] to the [[shared]] interest of all parties; it "[[focuses]] on the issue, not the [[person]]". Aggressive and/or passive communication, on the other hand, may mark a [[relationship]]'s end, and reduce [[self]]-[[respect]].[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Assertive]
[[Category: Psychology]]
==Origin==
[[Latin]] assert- participial stem of as-serĕre ( < ad to + serĕre to join, put) to put one's hand on the head of a [[slave]], either to set him [[free]] or claim him for servitude, hence, to set free, [[protect]], defend; to appropriate, claim; to affirm, [[declare]], state. Compare also medieval Latin assertāre (frequentative of asserĕre) to affirm.
*[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/17th_century 1619]
==Defnitions==
*1: disposed to or characterized by [[bold]] or [[confident]] [[statements]] and [[behavior]] <an assertive [[leader]]>
*2: having a [[strong]] or distinctive flavor or aroma <assertive wines>
==Description==
'''Assertiveness''' is a particular [[mode]] of [[communication]]. [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dorland%27s_Medical_Dictionary Dorland's Medical Dictionary] defines assertiveness as:
<blockquote>a form of behavior characterized by a confident declaration or affirmation of a statement without need of proof; this affirms the person's rights or point of view without either aggressively threatening the rights of another (assuming a position of dominance) or submissively permitting another to ignore or deny one's rights or point of view.</blockquote>
During the second half of the [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/20th_century 20th century], assertiveness was increasingly singled out as a [[behavioral]] [[skill]] taught by many [[personal]] [[development]] experts, [[behavior]] therapists, and cognitive behavioral therapists. Assertiveness is often linked to [[self-esteem]]. The term and [[concept]] was popularised to the general public by books such as ''Your Perfect Right: A Guide to Assertive Behavior'' (1970) by Robert E. Alberti, and ''When I Say No, I Feel Guilty: How To Cope Using the Skills of Systematic Assertiveness Therapy'' (1975) by Manuel J. Smith.
==Communication==
Assertive [[communication]] consists of [[sharing]] wants and needs [[honestly]] in a safe [[manner]]. This presumes [[respect]] for the boundaries of oneself and others, which boundaries include the [[physical]] [[self]], possessions, and [[relationships]]. It also presumes an interest in the fulfillment of needs and wants through [[cooperation]].
According to the textbook ''Cognitive Behavior Therapy'' (2008), "Assertive [[communication]] of [[personal]] [[opinions]], needs, and boundaries has been ... conceptualized as the behavioral middle ground, lying between ineffective [[passive]] and [[aggressive]] [[responses]]". Such communication "[[emphasizes]] expressing [[feelings]] forthrightly, but in a way that will not spiral into [[aggression]]".
If others' [[actions]] threaten one's boundaries, one [[communicates]] this to prevent escalation.
In contrast, "aggressive communication" [[judges]], threatens, lies, breaks confidences, stonewalls, and violates others' boundaries.
At the opposite end of the [[dialectic]] is "passive communication". [[Victims]] may passively [[permit]] others to violate their boundaries. At a later time, they may come back and attack with a sense of impunity or [[righteous]] [[indignation]].
Assertive [[communication]] attempts to [[transcend]] these [[extreme]] by [[appealing]] to the [[shared]] interest of all parties; it "[[focuses]] on the issue, not the [[person]]". Aggressive and/or passive communication, on the other hand, may mark a [[relationship]]'s end, and reduce [[self]]-[[respect]].[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Assertive]
[[Category: Psychology]]
