− | Hello, Elyon. I had this [[question]] come into my [[mind]] on my way over here today. Seems like I'm always trying to better [[under]]-stand my fellow [[beings]], and I am [[wondering]] about the [[emotion]] of [[fear]] and the [[reactions]] that it promotes in us. A lot of times when I'm in a [[course]] of [[communication]] with other people, I've noticed that there are a lot of [[reactions]] of [[anger]]. I'm [[wondering]] if this is always fear based or if [[anger]] can have another basis other than [[fear]]? I was [[wondering]] if you could [[clarify]] this for me. | + | Hello, Elyon. I had this [[question]] come into my [[mind]] on my way over here today. Seems like I'm always trying to better [[understand]] my fellow [[beings]], and I am [[wondering]] about the [[emotion]] of [[fear]] and the [[reactions]] that it promotes in us. A lot of times when I'm in a [[course]] of [[communication]] with other people, I've noticed that there are a lot of [[reactions]] of [[anger]]. I'm [[wondering]] if this is always fear based or if [[anger]] can have another basis other than [[fear]]? I was [[wondering]] if you could [[clarify]] this for me. |
| Elyon: The [[negative]] [[emotions]] people have- [[anger]], [[hatred]], vengeance, [[jealousy]]- these are always predominantly a result of [[fear]]. Fear is present in levels, though it may not be present outwardly so. [[Anger]] is the result of disapproval, a result of one seeing something that is not right for them. And if what is happening is not right to you, then there is a sense of [[fear]] that someone does not see things as you do. [[Hatred]] is an [[escalation]] of [[anger]] which also makes it based in [[fear]], intolerance of others. [[Vengeance]] is a [[response]] to someone or something that has imposed something [[negative]] upon you. To alleviate your [[fears]], your [[emotions]] of a [[negative]] nature, this does much to [[diffuse]] these [[emotions]] from another. When one [[acts]] in [[anger]], and then they see a calm [[response]] from the [[other]], it is unsettling to them, because they have not seen the [[mirror]] of their own [[actions]]. So by [[tolerating]] others, even those who would [[act]] with [[actions]] that are not pleasing to you, then can they come to see the [[selfishness]] and misuse of their own [[actions]]. You must [[realize]] also, though, that when one is imposing their [[negative]] [[emotions]] upon someone, be it you or someone else, this does not mean that you must stand back and allow them their [[actions]]. So in [[understanding]] you can [[respond]]; but until you [[understand]], the [[danger]] is there that your [[response]] can be a negative one. Does this help? | | Elyon: The [[negative]] [[emotions]] people have- [[anger]], [[hatred]], vengeance, [[jealousy]]- these are always predominantly a result of [[fear]]. Fear is present in levels, though it may not be present outwardly so. [[Anger]] is the result of disapproval, a result of one seeing something that is not right for them. And if what is happening is not right to you, then there is a sense of [[fear]] that someone does not see things as you do. [[Hatred]] is an [[escalation]] of [[anger]] which also makes it based in [[fear]], intolerance of others. [[Vengeance]] is a [[response]] to someone or something that has imposed something [[negative]] upon you. To alleviate your [[fears]], your [[emotions]] of a [[negative]] nature, this does much to [[diffuse]] these [[emotions]] from another. When one [[acts]] in [[anger]], and then they see a calm [[response]] from the [[other]], it is unsettling to them, because they have not seen the [[mirror]] of their own [[actions]]. So by [[tolerating]] others, even those who would [[act]] with [[actions]] that are not pleasing to you, then can they come to see the [[selfishness]] and misuse of their own [[actions]]. You must [[realize]] also, though, that when one is imposing their [[negative]] [[emotions]] upon someone, be it you or someone else, this does not mean that you must stand back and allow them their [[actions]]. So in [[understanding]] you can [[respond]]; but until you [[understand]], the [[danger]] is there that your [[response]] can be a negative one. Does this help? |
− | So, in [[dealing]] with our fellows, when we come across a situation where there are some [[acts]] of [[jealousy]], and a lot of times that is [[exhibited]] with [[vengeful]] [[thoughts]] and [[actions]], and most of the times it's just directed toward somebody's [[character]], or maybe some [[action]] that they are taking that somebody is trying to undermine or something like that; then it's best that we find a way to defuse the situation and maybe to bring the [[individual]] that is [[feeling]] the [[anger]] or [[fear]] to a point of [[enlightenment]] about his own [[actions]] if you can possibly do that? | + | So, in dealing with our fellows, when we come across a situation where there are some [[acts]] of [[jealousy]], and a lot of times that is [[exhibited]] with [[vengeful]] [[thoughts]] and [[actions]], and most of the times it's just directed toward somebody's [[character]], or maybe some [[action]] that they are taking that somebody is trying to undermine or something like that; then it's best that we find a way to defuse the situation and maybe to bring the [[individual]] that is [[feeling]] the [[anger]] or [[fear]] to a point of [[enlightenment]] about his own [[actions]] if you can possibly do that? |
| Elyon: Yes. There will always be times that [[anger]] cannot be [[diffused]] in the [[moment]] that it occurs. Do not [[respond]] back with [[anger]], but do [[act]] to let them know their [[thinking]] may be incorrect. | | Elyon: Yes. There will always be times that [[anger]] cannot be [[diffused]] in the [[moment]] that it occurs. Do not [[respond]] back with [[anger]], but do [[act]] to let them know their [[thinking]] may be incorrect. |
| Elyon, I have a question about a [[friend]] of mine who is currently battling a terminal illness and is having a rough go of it. It is pretty obvious that the end of her life is possibly very near. I have been [[wondering]] if there is anything more that an [[individual]] can do to assist someone else's [[transition]] at this [[phase]], or is this [[purely]] a [[personal]] thing that she is going to go through on her own, or is there something that other people can do to help in a situation like this? | | Elyon, I have a question about a [[friend]] of mine who is currently battling a terminal illness and is having a rough go of it. It is pretty obvious that the end of her life is possibly very near. I have been [[wondering]] if there is anything more that an [[individual]] can do to assist someone else's [[transition]] at this [[phase]], or is this [[purely]] a [[personal]] thing that she is going to go through on her own, or is there something that other people can do to help in a situation like this? |