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Anastacia & Ordon 4-17-93

Anastacia & Ordon 4-17-93

===Lesson 11===

===Lesson 11===

Promoting Relationships

Promoting Relationships

A wise person doesn't try to fix another person. They love others just as they are now accepting their level of growth. Definitely here on your planet there are so many levels of understandings. How do you get along and appreciate the differences? How will you learn to speak freely and with ease to such a variety of people? By simply loving them by simply appreciating them and by simply enjoying them. You are the ones who will change. Yes no matter how hard you try or how badly you want others to change this simply will not happen by your volition. Take up the love of yourself and put your efforts into changing yourself. Attempting to change someone is the prime example of going about something backwards. Who can you change no one but yourself. That is why setting a good example is so powerful. Others see they watch with admiration and they want to act this way. They will want these actions in their life. To be an effective person who can live with your brothers and sisters in harmony then you have to look to your own growth. You change. This is your duty. This is your work. Setting out to change another will only create barriers between you.

A [[wise]] person doesn't try to fix another person. They [[love]] others just as they are now [[accepting]] their level of [[growth]]. Definitely here on [[your planet]] there are so many levels of [[understandings]]. How do you get along and [[appreciate]] the [[differences]]? How will you learn to speak freely and with ease to such a variety of people? By [[simply]] loving them by simply appreciating them and by simply enjoying them. You are the ones who will [[change]]. Yes no matter how hard you try or how badly you want others to change this simply will not happen by your [[volition]]. Take up the [[love]] of yourself and put your efforts into changing yourself. Attempting to change someone is the prime [[example]] of going about something backwards. Who can you change no one but yourself. That is why setting a good example is so [[powerful]]. Others see they watch with admiration and they want to [[act]] this way. They will want these actions in their life. To be an [[effective]] person who can live with your [[brothers and sisters]] in [[harmony]] then you have to look to your own [[growth]]. You [[change]]. This is your [[duty]]. This is your work. Setting out to change another will only create [[barriers]] between you.

To keep the walls from forming don't give advice unless you are asked. Even so if you are asked for advice the other person has the prerogative of freewill choice if they will even take it. Don't be disappointed if they go about solving their problems as they feel it is right in their heart.

To keep the walls from forming don't give [[advice]] unless you are asked.([[48:7|48:7.16]]) Even so if you are asked for advice the other person has the prerogative of [[freewill]] choice if they will even take it. Don't be [[disappointed]] if they go about solving their [[problems]] as they feel it is right in their [[heart]].

Others will do what is comfortable and meaningful for themselves. This is as it should be. Conformity in this sense is not creative but by accepting your role to change yourself and letting others take up their role in acting in their own behalf everyone grows. Each person takes what they can and puts it into their own action. They change themselves. Now when we ask you to go about your duties together these differences will be helpful. There will be differences of opinions and diversity in speaking these opinions if you chance to agree. When going about your missionary work appreciation of these differences will help you in speaking out but finding a common ground to agree on. You all agree on values. Do you not?

Others will do what is comfortable and [[meaningful]] for themselves. This is as it should be. [[Conformity]] in this sense is not [[creative]] but by accepting your role to [[change]] yourself and letting others take up their role in acting in their own behalf everyone grows. Each person takes what they can and puts it into their own [[action]]. They [[change]] themselves. Now when we ask you to go about your [[duties]] together these [[differences]] will be helpful. There will be differences of [[opinions]] and [[diversity]] in speaking these opinions if you [[chance]] to [[agree]]. When going about your missionary work [[appreciation]] of these [[differences]] will help you in speaking out but finding a common ground to agree on. You all agree on [[values]]. Do you not?

Faith in God is valuable to each. Faith makes our lives bearable. We have faith in God's way as being the best way to go. It is better to live under God's sheltering protection than to be lost on the high seas of aggression all alone. In sharing about your faith each person had a different statement. No two explanations were alike but they were from your very own experiences of having faith. Who would say any were wrong? It is your experience as you see it. We as teachers let your ideas of faith grow. We would tell you to look again at faith in Urantia. Not to prove you wrong but to help you state your ideas more clearly. Faith can be shared with many believers. It is valuable.

[[Faith]] in [[God]] is valuable to each. Faith makes our lives bearable. We have faith in God's way as being the best way to go. It is better to live under God's [[sheltering]] [[protection]] than to be lost on the high seas of [[aggression]] all [[alone]]. In [[sharing]] about your [[faith]] each person had a different [[statement]]. No two [[explanations]] were alike but they were from your very own [[experiences]] of having [[faith]]. Who would say any were wrong? It is your experience as you see it. We as teachers let your [[ideas]] of [[faith]] grow. We would tell you to look again at faith in [[Urantia]]. Not to prove you wrong but to help you state your [[ideas]] more [[clearly]]. Faith can be [[shared]] with many believers. It is valuable.

We would ask you to enlarge on your ideas. Yes add to what you already know. When you can get along in the group with your fellow members you can get along with just about anyone. Here we wish to caution you when it relates to all mankind. Never think you will harmonize with all mortals for this is a fantasy. Give yourself a break here and accept what you can do and allow that to be the criteria for the mission. We don't expect the impossible nor would we put this burden on you.

We would ask you to enlarge on your [[ideas]]. Yes add to what you already know. When you can get along in the [[group]] with your fellow members you can get along with just about anyone. Here we [[wish]] to [[caution]] you when it relates to all [[mankind]]. Never think you will harmonize with all [[mortals]] for this is a [[fantasy]]. Give yourself a break here and [[accept]] what you can do and allow that to be the criteria for [[the mission]]. We don't expect the impossible nor would we put this burden on you.

Of course we are mainly referring to the outreach work. Allow this to be as a matter of what is. Praise the differences as then you can be sure freewill is present and active. People have chosen to be as they are in attitudes.

Of course we are mainly referring to the outreach work. Allow this to be as a matter of what is. [[Praise]] the [[differences]] as then you can be sure freewill is present and [[active]]. People have chosen to be as they are in [[attitudes]].

When the flood tides of adversity fall upon you each will take a look at the situation and either grow and go on with life or they will stay stuck in the situation. Their life will be about this event. They will rehash and rehash this event as if it has just happened. These people will be stuck and won't move on to growth. They can hardly be effective. It is paramount to rid yourself of all the hurts fears and pains from the past. Let them go. Do take good care of yourself and face your fears daily. Do look at why or what you fear and let it go by placing it in the Father's hands. Let the Father help as he willingly waits to do this. The Father wants you placed in situations of learning so you will grow strong and agile by depending on him. You can bend and straighten up again. You need not be afraid to bend with the flow.

When the flood tides of [[adversity]] fall upon you each will take a look at the situation and either [[grow]] and go on with [[life]] or they will stay stuck in the situation. Their life will be about this [[event]]. They will rehash and rehash this event as if it has just happened. These people will be stuck and won't move on to [[growth]]. They can hardly be [[effective]]. It is [[paramount]] to rid yourself of all the [[hurts]], [[fears]], and [[pains]] from the [[past]]. Let them go. Do take good [[care]] of yourself and face your fears daily. Do look at why or what you fear and let it go by placing it in [[the Father]]'s hands. Let the Father help as he willingly waits to do this. The Father wants you placed in situations of [[learning]] so you will [[grow]] [[strong]] and agile by depending on him. You can bend and straighten up again. You need not be [[afraid]] to bend with the [[flow]].

All mortals see that to be too stern in your own ideas and ways will only set yourself up for disappointments. What will be important is that the group learns to bend and cede to the best way to proceed. Many times you see your ideas and only your ideas as right. Allow yourself to have opinions and also to know that these ideas can change. Do you see here of what we speak? We as your teachers are in the same situations. One teacher will believe one thing while others think another way is best. We finally harmonize by accepting and going along with the majority. Group wisdom can evolve too. This is good. Yes it's very good. It shows you are alive you are taking action. You are learning as you teach. At our stage in growth even we have disappointments and disagreements although we have developed the ability to discuss freely by putting the self aside. The work to be done and how to objectively achieve it is most desirable our first foremost duty.

All [[mortals]] see that to be too stern in your own [[ideas]] and ways will only set yourself up for [[disappointments]]. What will be important is that the [[group]] learns to bend and cede to the best way to [[proceed]]. Many times you see your [[ideas]] and only your ideas as right. Allow yourself to have [[opinions]] and also to know that these ideas can [[change]]. Do you see here of what we speak? We as your teachers are in the same situations. One teacher will believe one thing while others think another way is best. We finally [[harmonize]] by accepting and going along with the [[majority]]. [[Group]] [[wisdom]] can evolve too. This is [[good]]. Yes it's very good. It shows you are alive you are taking [[action]]. You are learning as you teach. At our [[stage]] in growth even we have [[disappointments]] and disagreements although we have [[developed]] the ability to discuss freely by putting the [[self]] aside. The work to be done and how to objectively achieve it is most [[desirable]] our first foremost [[duty]].

Here too we adjust our thoughts after our experiences when we see it does not work. When another way would be better and is actually working we change our methods. We would be foolish to do otherwise but change the plan. It is not a mistake if it doesn't work doesn't produce results. Have faith in this wise counsel. Rethink how to proceed. Fearing to take action only delays learning from experience. When you do the job you begin to see what you need to learn. You will want to apply the better way so you are more able to do the job well. This process will accumulate in self- confidence that will help you by experiencing learning and accepting. Try stepping out of your old modes and stepping up to the adventure of spreading the words about our Father.

Here too we [[adjust]] our [[thoughts]] after our [[experiences]] when we see it does not work. When another way would be better and is actually working we [[change]] our [[methods]]. We would be [[foolish]] to do otherwise but change the plan. It is not a mistake if it doesn't work doesn't produce results. Have [[faith]] in this wise [[counsel]]. Rethink how to [[proceed]]. [[Fearing]] to take action only delays [[learning]] from [[experience]]. When you do the job you begin to see what you need to learn. You will want to apply the better way so you are more able to do the job well. This [[process]] will accumulate in self- [[confidence]] that will help you by experiencing learning and [[accepting]]. Try stepping out of your old [[modes]] and stepping up to the [[adventure]] of spreading the [[words]] about [[our Father]].

We are not expecting you to be bolder in a foolish way. We are asking you to step forward in the Father's love. Let love of service show you the way. You will see opportunities where you can speak up. You know much. You have stored up much knowledge in these many years of studying The Urantia Book. Let us go about our stepping forward with the ease of knowing and the ability to do the work. You have nothing to fear but fear itself. All is well. All is going according to plan. Consider this and keep it close to your heart. All of us are learning together. Yes we have knowledge of teaching. Yes you have a great amount of knowledge from Urantia. Now let us help you teach this information to your waiting fellow mortals who are so needy. Mortals who truly are in strife and pain. These are your brothers and sisters who need your help. Need we say more? As we depart for the event be good enough to be by our side. Place us in your thoughts. We too are like you. We love adventures. We love serving. We love giving comfort. We love each of you dearly. A & O

We are not [[expecting]] you to be bolder in a [[foolish]] way. We are asking you to step forward in [[the Father]]'s [[love]]. Let love of [[service]] show you the way. You will see [[opportunities]] where you can speak up. You know much. You have stored up much [[knowledge]] in these many years of [[studying]] The [[Urantia Book]]. Let us go about our stepping forward with the ease of knowing and the ability to do the [[work]]. You have nothing to fear but [[fear]] itself. All is well. All is going according to [[plan]]. Consider this and keep it close to your [[heart]]. All of us are learning together. Yes we have knowledge of teaching. Yes you have a great amount of [[knowledge]] from [[Urantia]]. Now let us help you teach this [[information]] to your waiting fellow [[mortals]] who are so needy. Mortals who truly are in strife and [[pain]]. These are your [[brothers and sisters]] who need your help. Need we say more? As we depart for the [[event]] be good enough to be by our side. Place us in your [[thoughts]]. We too are like you. We love [[adventures]]. We love serving. We love giving [[comfort]]. We love each of you dearly. A & O

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