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===Topic: ''Spiritual Liberty''===
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===Group: [[Nashville TeaM]]===
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==Facilitators==
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===Teacher: [[Ham]]===
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===TR: [[Rebecca]]===
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==Session==
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===Opening===
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Ham: Greetings, children, and my [[friends]], I am Ham and I thank you all for once again gathering this evening. Tonight, our lesson is about [[spiritual]] [[liberty]].
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===Lesson===
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Spiritual liberty is part of the [[experience]] of [[growing]] up in the spiritual [[awareness]] that has been called [[the Kingdom]] of Heaven. Spiritual liberty refers to your [[ability]] to make free [[decisions]]. Spiritual liberty is referring to the state of [[being]] when your not subjected to your own patterns of [[behavior]], your own [[reactions]]. No longer are you chained to old reaction patterns to situations. Suddenly you find yourself with the [[ability]] to change your reactions, and this is [[freedom]].
  
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The freedom to live to your fullest [[potential]] involves first breaking the [[bonds]] of the [[past]]. Humans are held in [[slavery]] to their own [[emotions]] and [[fears]]. It is not [[life]] or circumstances or the [[weather]] that gets you down and holds you there, it is your inability to [[change]] your [[reaction]] patterns.
  
Topics: Spiritual Liberty
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Think for a [[moment]] of a [[habitual]] reaction pattern that harms you in some way and [[think]] what it would be like to be [[free]] of the [[fear]] that goes into generating this [[cycle]]. Freedom from [[fear]] is truly spiritual [[freedom]] because it is not so much the circumstances that keep you in bondage, as your fear. It is fear that prevents you from taking the [[action]] or the [[decision]] that is [[necessary]] to break the pattern. Fear immobilizes you and keeps you bound in a never ending chain of [[Causality|cause and effect]].
  
Replace fear with love
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[[Spiritual progress]] is made up largely of the tasks of overcoming [[fears]], one after another. Once the fear is removed from the [[equation]], then you find yourself free to make [[decisions]], different decisions, and these different decisions will lead you away from fear.
  
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The only way to overcome fear is with [[love]]. Love is the only thing that replaces [[fear]] in the ascender's [[experience]]. If you don't replace fear with love, you will end up by simply replacing fear by fear. You may have [[experienced]] some of this already in your lives, but the only way to move forward in the [[spirit]] is to allow [[your Father]] to take your [[fears]] and replace those with [[love]].
  
Ham: Greetings, children, and my friends, I am Ham and I thank you all for once again gathering this evening. Tonight, our lesson is about spiritual liberty. Spiritual liberty is part of the experience of growing up in the spiritual awareness that has been called the Kingdom of Heaven. Spiritual liberty refers to your ability to make free decisions. Spiritual liberty is referring to the state of being when your not subjected to your own patterns of behavior, your own reactions. No longer are you chained to old reaction patterns to situations. Suddenly you find yourself with the ability to change your reactions, and this is freedom.
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[[Think]] for a [[moment]], are you afraid of yourselves in some way? Are you afraid that you will do something wrong in your [[life]], or that you won't be able to do something you must do? Think again, that [[the Father]]'s [[love]] [[surrounds]] you, and you are like a child. What real harm can you possibly do? You see, you must learn to lighten up about yourselves, and think of yourselves as a [[child]] [[playing]] in the world and if you mess up, what [[difference]] can it possibly make? [[The Father]] will not love you any less, the world will not fall in on you. You will have another [[chance]] to do whatever it is. You all take yourselves too seriously, and so in a way you [[fear]] yourselves because you are afraid of what you might do or not do.
  
The freedom to live to your fullest potential involves first breaking the bonds of the past. Humans are held in slavery to their own emotions and fears. It is not life or circumstances or the weather that gets you down and holds you there, it is your inability to change your reaction patterns.
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Have you ever watched a small [[child]] [[playing]], and how very seriously they take it and if their blocks fall over, they just [[act]] like it is the end of the world? But, you with the [[wisdom]] of years, look on this and [[smile]] and [[comfort]] the child and tell them that it is not serious, that it is alright, that no real harm was done. This is how [[the Father]] sees his children. He wants you to try, but he doesn't want you to be crushed [[emotionally]] if your sand castles fall over.
  
Think for a moment of a habitual reaction pattern that harms you in some way and think what it would be like to be free of the fear that goes into generating this cycle. Freedom from fear is truly spiritual freedom because it is not so much the circumstances that keep you in bondage, as your fear. It is fear that prevents you from taking the action or the decision that is necessary to break the pattern. Fear immobilizes you and keeps you bound in a never ending chain of cause and effect.
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When you lived as long as I have, you can look back on [[creatures]] your age and [[smile]] at their tremendous [[self]]-importance over their little [[creations]]. You will look back on this [[time]] and [[smile]] at yourselves about how serious it all was and about how important it all seemed.
  
Spiritual progress is made up largely of the tasks of overcoming fears, one after another. Once the fear is removed from the equation, then you find yourself free to make decisions, different decisions, and these different decisions will lead you away from fear.
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So, I want you to just [[relax]], relax into [[the Father]]'s arms. Take each day, and each circumstance, one at a time, and consciously [[think]] about removing the [[fear]] and relying on him instead. Now there are some people who cling to their [[fear]], but you are not one. You are spiritual ascender's and it is your [[desire]] to let go of your fear, where ever you find it in your lives because when you live a [[life]] without fear, then anything is possible.
  
The only way to overcome fear is with love. Love is the only thing that replaces fear in the ascender's experience. If you don't replace fear with love, you will end up by simply replacing fear by fear. You may have experienced some of this already in your lives, but the only way to move forward in the spirit is to allow your Father to take your fears and replace those with love.
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Are there any [[questions]] at this time?
 
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===Dialogue===
Think for a moment, are you afraid of yourselves in some way? Are you afraid that you will do something wrong in your life, or that you won't be able to do something you must do? Think again, that the Father's love surrounds you, and you are like a child. What real harm can you possibly do? You see, you must learn to lighten up about yourselves, and think of yourselves as a child playing in the world and if you mess up, what difference can it possibly make? The Father will not love you any less, the world will not fall in on you. You will have another chance to do whatever it is. You all take yourselves too seriously, and so in a way you fear yourselves because you are afraid of what you might do or not do.
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Q: I [[agree]] with what you say for the most part, but I kind of find what you say about our jobs and our lives patronizing. You sound like you have never lived with a boss who will not give you a second [[chance]]. There are a lot of people who live just one paycheck away from living in a box. I think some of our [[fears]] are [[justified]] because of what we face each day. It doesn't seem to me like [[God]] is [[whispering]] in your ear, do it this way and you won't get downsized. You sound like someone who has never been downsized.
 
 
Have you ever watched a small child playing, and how very seriously they take it and if their blocks fall over, they just act like it is the end of the world? But, you with the wisdom of years, look on this and smile and comfort the child and tell them that it is not serious, that it is alright, that no real harm was done. This is how the Father sees his children. He wants you to try, but he doesn't want you to be crushed emotionally if your sand castles fall over.
 
 
 
When you lived as long as I have, you can look back on creatures your age and smile at their tremendous self-importance over their little creations. You will look back on this time and smile at yourselves about how serious it all was and about how important it all seemed.
 
 
 
So, I want you to just relax, relax into the Father's arms. Take each day, and each circumstance, one at a time, and consciously think about removing the fear and relying on him instead. Now there are some people who cling to their fear, but you are not one. You are spiritual ascender's and it is your desire to let go of your fear, where ever you find it in your lives because when you live a life without fear, then anything is possible.
 
 
 
Are there any questions at this time?
 
 
 
Q: I agree with what you say for the most part, but I kind of find what you say about our jobs and our lives patronizing. You sound like you have never lived with a boss who will not give you a second chance. There are a lot of people who live just one paycheck away from living in a box. I think some of our fears are justified because of what we face each day. It doesn't seem to me like God is whispering in your ear, do it this way and you won't get downsized. You sound like someone who has never been downsized.
 
  
 
Ham: Acknowledged. That is all.
 
Ham: Acknowledged. That is all.
  
Q: Could you be more specific about the process of replacing fear with love, could you give us an example of how that might work in a particular situation perhaps.
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Q: Could you be more specific about the [[process]] of replacing [[fear]] with [[love]], could you give us an example of how that might work in a particular situation perhaps.
  
Ham: Yes. Love is the most potent force in the universe. There is nothing that can defeat love. Fear can destroy and it can destroy the physical, but love creates in the spiritual. It was the fear of men that caused them to destroy the physical body of Jesus, but he met their fear with love and the destruction of his body was the beginning of his being as true sovereign creator of the Universe. Their fear did nothing, changed nothing, and likewise, your fears can do nothing and change nothing.
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Ham: Yes. [[Love]] is the most potent [[force]] in [[the universe]]. There is nothing that can [[defeat]] love. [[Fear]] can destroy and it can destroy the [[physical]], but [[love]] creates in the [[spiritual]]. It was the fear of men that caused them to destroy the physical body of [[Jesus]], but he met their fear with [[love]] and the destruction of his body was the beginning of his [[being]] as true [[Master Son|sovereign creator]] of [[Nebadon|the Universe]]. Their fear did nothing, changed nothing, and likewise, your fears can do nothing and [[change]] nothing.
  
Q: I don't know, I was afraid when I had high blood pressure that I might get a stroke so I started exercising. I kind of had to have that fear of a bad consequence to motivate me.
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Q: I don't know, I was afraid when I had [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/High_blood_pressure high blood pressure] that I might get a [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stroke stroke] so I started [[exercising]]. I kind of had to have that fear of a bad [[consequence]] to [[motivate]] me.
  
 
Ham: Fear is not your standing motivation.
 
Ham: Fear is not your standing motivation.
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Q: No, not now.
 
Q: No, not now.
  
Ham: Fear is never a sustaining motivation.
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Ham: Fear is never a [[sustaining]] motivation.
  
Q: I don't know, my fear of getting fat is a pretty sustaining motivation. I don't think you have reckoned with my fear of fat.
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Q: I don't know, my fear of getting fat is a pretty sustaining [[motivation]]. I don't think you have reckoned with my fear of fat.
  
Q: Just thinking about her remarks, since I have been meditating and pretty tapped into God, the worse times in my life, the most difficult times when fear should have been the most intense, I literally experienced no fear. Is that the way it is supposed to be.
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Q: Just [[thinking]] about her remarks, since I have been [[meditating]] and pretty tapped into God, the worse times in my [[life]], the most [[difficult]] times when fear should have been the most [[intense]], I literally [[experienced]] no fear. Is that the way it is [[supposed]] to be.
  
 
Ham: Yes
 
Ham: Yes
  
Q: There were times when I had to make contact because I knew there were no options. Maybe that is the difference?
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Q: There were times when I had to make [[contact]] because I knew there were no options. Maybe that is the [[difference]]?
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Q: A [[friend]] of mine, the other day, his [[wife]]'s ex-husband came over to his house drunk and cornered him so he fought with him and beat him up and took [[care]] of it that way. Since then, there has been a [[change]] in the ex-husband's [[attitude]], it seems to have solve the [[problem]]. There is something troubling about all of this, and I wish you would comment on it? I don't think he could have talked this guy out of that, I don't know. Do you [[understand]] my question, Ham?
  
Q: A friend of mine, the other day, his wife's ex-husband came over to his house drunk and corned him so he fought with him and beat him up and took care of it that way. Since then, there has been a change in the ex-husband's attitude, it seems to have solve the problem. There is something troubling about all of this, and I wish you would comment on it? I don't think he could have talked this guy out of that, I don't know. Do you understand my question, Ham?Ham: The truth is different from what you are hearing, of course. One violent encounter doesn't solve complicated personal relationships. You of all people know this.
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Ham: The [[truth]] is different from what you are hearing, of course. One [[violent]] encounter doesn't solve [[complicated]] personal [[relationships]]. You of all people know this.
  
Q: I couldn't see that my friend had any choice in the matter?
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Q: I couldn't see that my [[friend]] had any [[choice]] in the matter?
  
 
Ham: There is always a choice.
 
Ham: There is always a choice.
  
Q: You are not saying that our blocks will not get knocked over, or that our sand castles will not get washed away, or our cars will not get repossessed, or that we will not lose our jobs or end up in jail. You are trying to tell us that we don't have to feel afraid and in feeling afraid stay locked into self-defeating behavior patterns?
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Q: You are not saying that our blocks will not get knocked over, or that our sand castles will not get washed away, or our cars will not get repossessed, or that we will not lose our jobs or end up in [[jail]]. You are trying to tell us that we don't have to feel [[afraid]] and in feeling afraid stay locked into [[self]]-[[defeating]] [[behavior]] [[patterns]]?
  
 
Ham: Correct.
 
Ham: Correct.
  
Q: It also helps to see that these bad things that happen may be bad in the short-term but are not that bad when viewed from the long perspective, from the perspective of our life time or even longer.
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Q: It also helps to see that these bad things that happen may be bad in the short-term but are not that bad when viewed from the long [[perspective]], from the perspective of our life time or even longer.
  
 
Ham: Correct.
 
Ham: Correct.
  
Q: Can we take the example of losing your job and being afraid of the consequence and use this to show us how we replace fear with love?
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Q: Can we take the example of losing your job and being afraid of the [[consequence]] and use this to show us how we replace [[fear]] with [[love]]?
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Ham: This is something that must be [[experience]] to be [[understood]] and it is not something that lends itself to examples like this because inner [[transformation]] [[changes]] your entire outlook and allows you to see [[opportunity]] in apparent [[failure]]. So instead of being crushed and imobilized by fear, one can thank the employer for allowing him a new opportunity in the world. You see it is a [[different]] way of seeing the world.
  
Ham: This is something that must be experience to be understood and it is not something that lends itself to examples like this because inner transformation changes your entire outlook and allows you to see opportunity in apparent failure. So instead of being crushed and imobilized by fear, one can thank the employer for allowing him a new opportunity in the world. You see it is a different way of seeing the world.
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Q: So it is all about [[faith]]?
  
Q: So it is all about faith?
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Ham: Yes.
  
Ham: Yes.Q: I believe you call that every could has a silver lining. I usually do not like it when people think like that. "I'm so glad I broke my ankle".
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Q: I believe you call that every could has a silver lining. I usually do not like it when people think like that. "I'm so glad I broke my ankle".
  
Q: I don't have fears so much, I am having a problem in a relationship, and fear that if I do not hold on tightly I might lose that person. I am getting the idea that if I turn the fear into love, it might not push them away, and if they do maybe it was meant to be. I have a fear of being alone in this world so I tend to hold too tightly.
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Q: I don't have [[fears]] so much, I am having a [[problem]] in a [[relationship]], and fear that if I do not hold on tightly I might lose that person. I am getting the [[idea]] that if I turn the fear into [[love]], it might not push them away, and if they do maybe it was meant to be. I have a [[fear]] of being [[alone]] in this world so I tend to hold too tightly.
  
Ham: Thank you for this honest expression from the heart. The fear of being alone is very deep in all people, and it can compel you to remain in unhealthy relationships and situations.
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Ham: Thank you for this [[honest]] [[expression]] from the [[heart]]. The fear of being [[alone]] is very deep in all people, and it can compel you to remain in unhealthy [[relationships]] and situations.
  
Q: I'm just not sure if it is just unhealthy of if there is so much fear on both sides that need to be replaced by life. There are different fears, and they are destructive.
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Q: I'm just not sure if it is just unhealthy of if there is so much [[fear]] on both sides that need to be replaced by [[life]]. There are different [[fears]], and they are destructive.
  
Ham: Fear always tends to be destructive. But you need to replace your fears about you with love about you. Not so much just desperately loving another, but loving yourself and accepting God's love for yourself. Security with God's love will bring you security with all other aspects of your life including a secure, loving relationship.
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Ham: Fear always tends to be destructive. But you need to replace your fears about you with [[love]] about you. Not so much just desperately loving another, but loving yourself and [[accepting]] God's love for yourself. [[Security]] with God's love will bring you security with all other aspects of your [[life]] including a secure, loving [[relationship]].
  
Q: I understand this, but maybe I am thinking about fear differently. It seems kinds of healthy sometimes, we tell little children to stay out of the street because we are afraid of them getting hit. I don't walk down dark streets alone because I don't want to get mugged. Are you saying to just do those things, let your kids run in the streets or walk down dark alleys alone. Maybe I am thinking of fear in a different way?
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Q: I [[understand]] this, but maybe I am [[thinking]] about fear differently. It seems kinds of [[healthy]] sometimes, we tell little children to stay out of the street because we are [[afraid]] of them getting hit. I don't walk down dark streets [[alone]] because I don't want to get mugged. Are you saying to just do those things, let your kids run in the streets or walk down [[dark]] alleys alone. Maybe I am thinking of fear in a [[different]] way?
  
Ham: You are trying to find justifications for fear, but this is not the lesson. In order to progress spiritually, in the spiritual sense, disregarding the material for a moment, you must gradually let go of your fears.
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Ham: You are trying to find [[justifications]] for fear, but this is not the lesson. In order to [[progress]] spiritually, in the spiritual sense, disregarding the [[material]] for a moment, you must gradually let go of your fears.
  
 
Q: I think I see what you are saying.
 
Q: I think I see what you are saying.
  
 
[The rest were personal questions]
 
[The rest were personal questions]
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Topic: Spiritual Liberty

Group: Nashville TeaM

Facilitators

Teacher: Ham

TR: Rebecca

Session

Opening

Ham: Greetings, children, and my friends, I am Ham and I thank you all for once again gathering this evening. Tonight, our lesson is about spiritual liberty.

Lesson

Spiritual liberty is part of the experience of growing up in the spiritual awareness that has been called the Kingdom of Heaven. Spiritual liberty refers to your ability to make free decisions. Spiritual liberty is referring to the state of being when your not subjected to your own patterns of behavior, your own reactions. No longer are you chained to old reaction patterns to situations. Suddenly you find yourself with the ability to change your reactions, and this is freedom.

The freedom to live to your fullest potential involves first breaking the bonds of the past. Humans are held in slavery to their own emotions and fears. It is not life or circumstances or the weather that gets you down and holds you there, it is your inability to change your reaction patterns.

Think for a moment of a habitual reaction pattern that harms you in some way and think what it would be like to be free of the fear that goes into generating this cycle. Freedom from fear is truly spiritual freedom because it is not so much the circumstances that keep you in bondage, as your fear. It is fear that prevents you from taking the action or the decision that is necessary to break the pattern. Fear immobilizes you and keeps you bound in a never ending chain of cause and effect.

Spiritual progress is made up largely of the tasks of overcoming fears, one after another. Once the fear is removed from the equation, then you find yourself free to make decisions, different decisions, and these different decisions will lead you away from fear.

The only way to overcome fear is with love. Love is the only thing that replaces fear in the ascender's experience. If you don't replace fear with love, you will end up by simply replacing fear by fear. You may have experienced some of this already in your lives, but the only way to move forward in the spirit is to allow your Father to take your fears and replace those with love.

Think for a moment, are you afraid of yourselves in some way? Are you afraid that you will do something wrong in your life, or that you won't be able to do something you must do? Think again, that the Father's love surrounds you, and you are like a child. What real harm can you possibly do? You see, you must learn to lighten up about yourselves, and think of yourselves as a child playing in the world and if you mess up, what difference can it possibly make? The Father will not love you any less, the world will not fall in on you. You will have another chance to do whatever it is. You all take yourselves too seriously, and so in a way you fear yourselves because you are afraid of what you might do or not do.

Have you ever watched a small child playing, and how very seriously they take it and if their blocks fall over, they just act like it is the end of the world? But, you with the wisdom of years, look on this and smile and comfort the child and tell them that it is not serious, that it is alright, that no real harm was done. This is how the Father sees his children. He wants you to try, but he doesn't want you to be crushed emotionally if your sand castles fall over.

When you lived as long as I have, you can look back on creatures your age and smile at their tremendous self-importance over their little creations. You will look back on this time and smile at yourselves about how serious it all was and about how important it all seemed.

So, I want you to just relax, relax into the Father's arms. Take each day, and each circumstance, one at a time, and consciously think about removing the fear and relying on him instead. Now there are some people who cling to their fear, but you are not one. You are spiritual ascender's and it is your desire to let go of your fear, where ever you find it in your lives because when you live a life without fear, then anything is possible.

Are there any questions at this time?

Dialogue

Q: I agree with what you say for the most part, but I kind of find what you say about our jobs and our lives patronizing. You sound like you have never lived with a boss who will not give you a second chance. There are a lot of people who live just one paycheck away from living in a box. I think some of our fears are justified because of what we face each day. It doesn't seem to me like God is whispering in your ear, do it this way and you won't get downsized. You sound like someone who has never been downsized.

Ham: Acknowledged. That is all.

Q: Could you be more specific about the process of replacing fear with love, could you give us an example of how that might work in a particular situation perhaps.

Ham: Yes. Love is the most potent force in the universe. There is nothing that can defeat love. Fear can destroy and it can destroy the physical, but love creates in the spiritual. It was the fear of men that caused them to destroy the physical body of Jesus, but he met their fear with love and the destruction of his body was the beginning of his being as true sovereign creator of the Universe. Their fear did nothing, changed nothing, and likewise, your fears can do nothing and change nothing.

Q: I don't know, I was afraid when I had high blood pressure that I might get a stroke so I started exercising. I kind of had to have that fear of a bad consequence to motivate me.

Ham: Fear is not your standing motivation.

Q: No, not now.

Ham: Fear is never a sustaining motivation.

Q: I don't know, my fear of getting fat is a pretty sustaining motivation. I don't think you have reckoned with my fear of fat.

Q: Just thinking about her remarks, since I have been meditating and pretty tapped into God, the worse times in my life, the most difficult times when fear should have been the most intense, I literally experienced no fear. Is that the way it is supposed to be.

Ham: Yes

Q: There were times when I had to make contact because I knew there were no options. Maybe that is the difference?

Q: A friend of mine, the other day, his wife's ex-husband came over to his house drunk and cornered him so he fought with him and beat him up and took care of it that way. Since then, there has been a change in the ex-husband's attitude, it seems to have solve the problem. There is something troubling about all of this, and I wish you would comment on it? I don't think he could have talked this guy out of that, I don't know. Do you understand my question, Ham?

Ham: The truth is different from what you are hearing, of course. One violent encounter doesn't solve complicated personal relationships. You of all people know this.

Q: I couldn't see that my friend had any choice in the matter?

Ham: There is always a choice.

Q: You are not saying that our blocks will not get knocked over, or that our sand castles will not get washed away, or our cars will not get repossessed, or that we will not lose our jobs or end up in jail. You are trying to tell us that we don't have to feel afraid and in feeling afraid stay locked into self-defeating behavior patterns?

Ham: Correct.

Q: It also helps to see that these bad things that happen may be bad in the short-term but are not that bad when viewed from the long perspective, from the perspective of our life time or even longer.

Ham: Correct.

Q: Can we take the example of losing your job and being afraid of the consequence and use this to show us how we replace fear with love?

Ham: This is something that must be experience to be understood and it is not something that lends itself to examples like this because inner transformation changes your entire outlook and allows you to see opportunity in apparent failure. So instead of being crushed and imobilized by fear, one can thank the employer for allowing him a new opportunity in the world. You see it is a different way of seeing the world.

Q: So it is all about faith?

Ham: Yes.

Q: I believe you call that every could has a silver lining. I usually do not like it when people think like that. "I'm so glad I broke my ankle".

Q: I don't have fears so much, I am having a problem in a relationship, and fear that if I do not hold on tightly I might lose that person. I am getting the idea that if I turn the fear into love, it might not push them away, and if they do maybe it was meant to be. I have a fear of being alone in this world so I tend to hold too tightly.

Ham: Thank you for this honest expression from the heart. The fear of being alone is very deep in all people, and it can compel you to remain in unhealthy relationships and situations.

Q: I'm just not sure if it is just unhealthy of if there is so much fear on both sides that need to be replaced by life. There are different fears, and they are destructive.

Ham: Fear always tends to be destructive. But you need to replace your fears about you with love about you. Not so much just desperately loving another, but loving yourself and accepting God's love for yourself. Security with God's love will bring you security with all other aspects of your life including a secure, loving relationship.

Q: I understand this, but maybe I am thinking about fear differently. It seems kinds of healthy sometimes, we tell little children to stay out of the street because we are afraid of them getting hit. I don't walk down dark streets alone because I don't want to get mugged. Are you saying to just do those things, let your kids run in the streets or walk down dark alleys alone. Maybe I am thinking of fear in a different way?

Ham: You are trying to find justifications for fear, but this is not the lesson. In order to progress spiritually, in the spiritual sense, disregarding the material for a moment, you must gradually let go of your fears.

Q: I think I see what you are saying.

[The rest were personal questions]